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sravaka -> RE: An Intelligence Fetish? Really? And is it shallow? (1/3/2010 6:15:27 PM)
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Intelligence is such a slippery concept.... One (wo)man's prodigy is another's complete dumbass, depending on the kind of intelligence (street smarts, book smarts, whatever) any particular person values.
But as for an "intelligence fetish".... I sometime use that term to refer to men who think they dig smart chicks (define as you will) but don't actually have any interest in the substance of the smartitude. (sorry) For example, in my youth, in grad school, I dated someone for many years who *loved* to tell his work colleagues et al. about his PhD-pursuing gf. (they were largely lawyers of the sort who value degrees) But with me, he 1) frequently trivialized what I was studying and 2) was entirely unsympathetic to the heinous process involved in getting a phd. To me there was something ickily fetishistic in that. He was attracted to the *idea* of it, the superficial parts, and what it implied about him to third parties (and/or to himself) that he was unrepentantly dating a geek... but he was in various ways threatened by the reality.
But perhaps this is irrelevant to <cough> "sapiosexuals" (doesn't the word sound like they are trying to make it into an orientation rather than a fetish? It sounds rather obnoxious.)
For me, smart is definitely sexy, but smart comes in all shapes and sizes. And, yeah, the best fling I ever had was with someone I couldn't bear to talk to for more than maybe half-an-hour, except to listen to his super cool accent. Call me intermittently superficiosexual.
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