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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 9:31:44 AM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: louissir

Not sure if I should keep responding...discreet for me means that my friends and neighbors arent aware
Like I said this is after 2 or 3 messages..y'all know...I guess never mind..the majority in here seem to be reacting to just a sentence of my message..or have the chip...wish you all the best..or my favorite mantra
I'm sorry
forgive me
thank you
I love you



If you are aware of a majority perception and you dont change the perception with different wording, thats up to you.

Your mantra....
Passive aggressive words to shut someone up?

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 9:32:49 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 9:33:30 AM   
CarrieO


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Online is a tricky thing and words can be interpreted many different ways depending on the delivery and how the reader views them.  A good example would be your last post...

quote:


Not sure if I should keep responding...discreet for me means that my friends and neighbors arent aware
Like I said this is after 2 or 3 messages..y'all know...I guess never mind..the majority in here seem to be reacting to just a sentence of my message..or have the chip...wish you all the best..or my favorite mantra
I'm sorry
forgive me  
thank you
I love you


This could be taken as you being flip and dismissive.  Is that how you meant it?  You've been given lots of input concerning your original post, maybe not in the manner you would have liked but input just the same.

Have some dip with your chips and enjoy the day...life's too damn short to sweat the small stuff.

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 9:34:04 AM   
peppermint


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ORIGINAL: louissir

you didnt read my post I guess


I did read your post.  The reply still stands.  Let's all act adult here and not throw a hissy fit when everyone does not behave to YOUR standards.

I've been trying to avoid saying this, however if you insist I will.  You write to a submissive.  You send a few cmails back and forth.  Then the submissive stops writing.  Now, listen carefully to what I say.  The submissive has decided that she does not wish to know you better.  It could be that she didn't like what you said.  It could be because you aren't very entertaining to cmail with.  It could be because she realized that any relationship with you was not going to happen.  So, she stops cmailing.  Rather than tell you why she does not find you of interest, she just ceases contact.  Guess what?  She's not into you.  She didn't want to hurt your feelings and tell you why she is not into you.  She was being as nice and polite and kind as she could be under the circumstances.  So you have lost 5 or 10 precious minutes of time replying to her mails.  She is saving you the extra 30 seconds it is going to take you to read her rejection by not sending it.  She has in fact done you a big favor.  Just learn to appreciate that favor. 




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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 9:34:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Whats the difference between a slut and a bitch?

A slut will fuck anyone.

A bitch will fuck anyone but Me!


Jeffwey




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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 9:35:41 AM   
Jeffff


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Jeff
(displaying good manners)

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 9:44:36 AM   
bondmaid123


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I believe the problem is when you  type "Hi". when you cap the H, it gives the impression that you are not as submissive as you should be.


Hrm.  I will have to give that a try.  Skipping the shift key would be a lot less work than repeating myself ad nauseum to attempt to avoid being seen as rude. ;)  Thank you for the suggestion!   ;)

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 9:46:29 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Whats the difference between a slut and a bitch?

A slut will fuck anyone.

A bitch will fuck anyone but Me!


Jeffwey


Such true wisdom. 

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:05:12 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		Perhaps there are things in your conversation with the other person that put them off?  Maybe they met someone else that they felt was a better focus for their time and energy?  Maybe you gave the impression, in your correspondence with them, that you only heard what you wanted to hear and they felt it was an exercise in futility to tell you they didn't really want to speak with you anymore, since you weren't listening anyway?  Could be anything, and not always a matter of manners.

I basically have two things in my profile.  1)  I'm not looking, and 2) I'm not interested in fostering long distance relationships.  Am I supposed to feel guilty for not responding to the guys who write to me anyway, disregarding what I plainly lay out in my profile? 

As has been said over and over, and over and over and over again;  no answer is an answer. 








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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:12:09 AM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage

I really love the guys that don't want to send a picture. They'll contact me first, then insist that I send them a picture first. They get all pushed out of shape over sending a picture. How many times have I heard that "I have a high profile position". Or, sheesh, the one guy today got all pissed off and said I wasn't a sub at all for "demanding" a picture of him. Puhlease! I didn't ask anyone to do anything that I wasn't willing to do myself!


Thanks for bringing that up. I get so annoyed when someone contacts me (like pretty much daily) and says, got any more pics:? They have no photos, I have probably 4 and then when you point this obvious fact out to them, they pull the "I don't know how to get a pic on here", "I don't have one" or "my job is high profile". It is funny to me to read the profile of someone who sounds like they live in a log cabin somewhere in the mountains and yet they have a "high profile job". As what, a logger? Beaver trapper?

Also, as in 3 emails just this morning. 3 submissive men wrote and said OMG you and I have so much in common, let's get together.

I asked what part of "I am a submissive woman" did you NOT get? They all said, and I kid you not, "sorry Mistress, punish me for my insolence".

I think all 3 were up reading some Domme porn and just could not wait to start shooting it out there, to any woman with a pulse.

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:19:28 AM   
lusciouslips19


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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:23:12 AM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: louissir

(laughing)..the best one yet here..Yes I used to wonder about that.
Thanks Drifa...the reality is..I am a nice respectful guy.....befuddled at human behavior I guess.. at wondering about what seems like a sincere discourse..then nothing..I guess I dont hang with folks in my life(or myself) who do that. Online as well too,,there are other bdsm sites where it is less cavalier as CM..oh well


Really? Less cavalier? I think you will find it worse on other BDSM sites, CM is actually the best one, in  my opinion. You can actually participate in forums here, lot's of bright and funny people and easy to navigate on the dating side.

At a certain age, one should be less "befuddled" at human behavior and have less expectations. As long as you conduct yourself in the manner that you feel is best, that is all you can control. Expecting anything more is futile.

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:26:50 AM   
Jeffff


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Or they say, they have a government position! LOL



I work for the N.S.A. I already know how sick you all are! We read your emails and text's. We laugh alot.

I also know where you live, what you look like and I have your Social Security numbers.

Have a nice day!

Jeff

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:40:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Or they say, they have a government position! LOL



I work for the N.S.A. I already know how sick you all are! We read your emails and text's. We laugh alot.

I also know where you live, what you look like and I have your Social Security numbers.

Have a nice day!

Jeff

So does my Son-in-law....i know you are not lying.


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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:43:04 AM   
DarlingSavage


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Thanks for bringing that up. I get so annoyed when someone contacts me (like pretty much daily) and says, got any more pics:? They have no photos, I have probably 4 and then when you point this obvious fact out to them, they pull the "I don't know how to get a pic on here", "I don't have one" or "my job is high profile". It is funny to me to read the profile of someone who sounds like they live in a log cabin somewhere in the mountains and yet they have a "high profile job". As what, a logger? Beaver trapper?

Also, as in 3 emails just this morning. 3 submissive men wrote and said OMG you and I have so much in common, let's get together.

I asked what part of "I am a submissive woman" did you NOT get? They all said, and I kid you not, "sorry Mistress, punish me for my insolence".

I think all 3 were up reading some Domme porn and just could not wait to start shooting it out there, to any woman with a pulse.


I do NOT get that either! I don't have any pictures up on my profile right now. I'm off and on with them, but I'm always more than happy to share them out. Furthermore, I have more than a few, so people can see my face from all sorts of angles to know that yes, this is indeed ME and this is what I really look like! Furthermore, they are RECENT pictures, like this month or whatever.

That whole, "I don't know how to put a picture up" line? How did they ever manage to get on the computer in the first place then? I'm seriously wondering how they manage to get along in life at all, period.

I don't understand what they think they're hiding. How are they going to keep me from seeing them if we end up meeting? However, I wouldn't arrange to meet someone that I have not already seen their face first. That would just be plain old stupid. The funniest thing that ever happened to me on here is this one guy actually wanted me to come to his house and be naked and blindfolded and allow him to inspect my body before letting me see him. Yeah, right! He insisted that I was never going to be able to have a TRUE D/s relationship unless I did it like that. Ok, whatever! I'm pretty sure my profile says "submissive woman" not "stupid retarded woman with only 2 brain cells to rub together for warmth".

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:49:55 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Or they say, they have a government position! LOL



I work for the N.S.A. I already know how sick you all are! We read your emails and text's. We laugh alot.

I also know where you live, what you look like and I have your Social Security numbers.

Have a nice day!

Jeff

So does my Son-in-law....i know you are not lying.



Those I know of who worked for NSA, had specific protocol regarding what happened if, in their search for suspicious activies outside of the US, came across domestic correspondence, which included locking down the computer and reporting to their supervisor.  They weren't permitted to continue.   I've wondered if that was really to protect the privacy of Americans, or if it just meant that my friends didn't have the sufficiet security clearance to continue snooping domestically. 

My apologies for digressing, I now return you to your regularly scheduled posting.

WinD

edited to add:  Someone just reminded me of the Patriot Act.  So umm, yeah, nevermind!  As you were!  Nothing to see here.  Move along folks.

WinD

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:50:22 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		LOL, I know. I have so many stories, and apparently many of us do.

I was thinking of writing a book called, The Smart Sub's Guide to Looking for a Dom: the Story of a Clusterfuck.

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:53:27 AM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

LOL, I know. I have so many stories, and apparently many of us do.

I was thinking of writing a book called, The Smart Sub's Guide to Looking for a Dom: the Story of a Clusterfuck.


I have an immediate suspicion for those who say, "i choose to keep my profile brief. We can chat on yahoo or by phone to get to know each other." *insert eyeroll here.*

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 10:58:39 AM   
DarlingSavage


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Status: offline 		Then there's the one, "I don't want my picture out there on the internet cause I've had people steal my pictures before" Cause you're just that hot, right? That last guy I was talking about, he was all like, "Now my picture's out there on the internet and I don't know what you're going to do with it." Oh waah! What the fuck does he think I'm going to do with his stupid picture? Oh, yeah, his "high profile job"? His shirt pocket says "All State Insurance". LMAO!

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 3:19:30 PM   
heartcream


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

There is no mandatory etiquette that demands that someone must respond to your private message on the grounds that you feel the overwhelming effort used to initiate the conversation merits attention by virtue of the message simply being brought into existence.

Getting miffed at someone who doesn't say "Thanks." when you hold a door open for them in a public venue isn't quite the same thing as getting miffed because that hot chick at the bar didn't reply when you went out of your way to say "Hi."



Yes, I agree with the man who makes piles of...cocaine?... sand?

I am also weary of the presentation that I need to write something back in order to show good manners. I disagree with that line of thought and feel rather if ya feel like saying something back, do, if not, no obligation, no sullied reputation. Sure somebody may wish to get a response, as have I from time to time, and received none. No response is a response and not necessarily a rude one.

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