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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 3:23:35 PM

LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: louissir

What is it about a lack of general manners? One would think that bdsm being an adult game, one would get a basic level of manners. Whenever I send a hello to a "sub" quite a few times there is a few messages back and forth. Then half the time there is a break of all communication with no.."thanks but no thanks". I know that women in here will get more messages than they can handle, however a 10 second reply will go very far. This is not a whine as I wouldnt be with a woman who cant communicate anyway. My message to all of you in here is..be an adult..polite, respectful, and if there is an exchange of information..and then you are not interested?Just say so..end of story.
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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 3:27:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: bondmaid123

I can't count the number of times I've responded politely with "Hi. Thanks for the nice note. I'm not looking for a new dominant right now, just so you know, but I don't mind talking with folks" and have that almost immediately replied to with some variation on "Oh, you'll want me once you get to know me".

It's called a hard sell, and it's annoying as piss (no offense intended to those who are into golden showers).

Agreed. That or some form of EXTREMELY nasty insult. Back when I was heavy, I used to tell people that I'm sorry but I'm in a relationship and I would get "WELL I WOULDN'T WANT YOU ANYWAY YOU FAT COW" in response.

If the defination of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result, I'd have to be crazy to keep exposing myself to those insults over and over.

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:00:11 PM

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jeez..I am trying to put in a sense of humor to this silliness..for those of you who are pissy..get a hobby...ask your own self why the chip on the shoulder..I just asked about manners..and why some people will start a talk and then not say "later"..now I will admit there is an odd fascination for me to see the quality of folks in here...jeez..get off the computer and go help someone in your neighborhood..write a check to a charity..do something productive ...cheeerist!
(gee..now what did I start?)

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:00:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: louissir

jeez..I am trying to put in a sense of humor to this silliness..for those of you who are pissy..get a hobby...ask your own self why the chip on the shoulder..I just asked about manners..and why some people will start a talk and then not say "later"..now I will admit there is an odd fascination for me to see the quality of folks in here...jeez..get off the computer and go help someone in your neighborhood..write a check to a charity..do something productive ...cheeerist!
(gee..now what did I start?)

Us pissy? We didnt start a rant....

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:02:42 PM

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very good red..your last sentence truly says it all...

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:02:45 PM

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*checks to see what CarrieO said*

Ya know... what she said didn't strike me as pissy at all. You asked for reasons why and you've conviently ignored all the reasons people have provided you and not responded to any of them.

Quite frankly, your insults in response to someone who just asked you some questions are exactly why some of us are so hestiant to say "No thanks".

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:05:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: louissir

What is it about a lack of general manners? One would think that bdsm being an adult game, one would get a basic level of manners. Whenever I send a hello to a "sub" quite a few times there is a few messages back and forth. Then half the time there is a break of all communication with no.."thanks but no thanks". I know that women in here will get more messages than they can handle, however a 10 second reply will go very far. This is not a whine as I wouldnt be with a woman who cant communicate anyway. My message to all of you in here is..be an adult..polite, respectful, and if there is an exchange of information..and then you are not interested?Just say so..end of story.
Happy New Year
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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:09:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

*checks to see what CarrieO said*

Ya know... what she said didn't strike me as pissy at all. You asked for reasons why and you've conviently ignored all the reasons people have provided you and not responded to any of them.

Quite frankly, your insults in response to someone who just asked you some questions are exactly why some of us are so hestiant to say "No thanks".

I agree about Carrie, she is one of the more earnest, and helpful folks here. "Pissy" isn't the word that comes to mind when I think of her.

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:18:42 PM

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AquaticSub and Level...thank you both. If we're not careful, I'm going to have a Sally Field moment

OP...

So I guess this means you won't be having the dip?

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:32:14 PM

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Only if you put on a nun outfit

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:45:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: louissir
I just asked about manners..and why some people will start a talk and then not say "later"..

Ok, so she messages you back & says, "Later"....then you must, to be polite, message her back & say...ohh...I don' know...."G'bye"....then she MUST mail you again & say "Adieu" & you, to remain in keeping with your own standards of politeness, MUST email back to say "Farewell"....

At some point, however that point is arrived at, someone will just not email back.
Are you saying the "rude" person should always be YOU?

~Kimveri

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RE: manners - 1/6/2010 4:50:27 PM

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Yea the times I have said, "I'm not interested" and then they write back and call me a "fat ugly whore" when 2 e-mails before they called me sexy. Or I say Im not interested and they ask,"why"? I am usually polite and write back, sometimes if they are rude I dont bother. But I am not obliged to let a stranger know Im not interested. The end of the correspondance should be indication enough.

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