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breatheasone -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 10:03:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 Now i know opinions are like assholes and everyone has one.So guys id like to hear yours. My personal opinion is that mentors should be on the same side of the kneel and that there should be no sex or scening between mentor and mentoree. Second part of this is: CollarMe is vapor and ether, why do you care? Is there going to be a cyber beat up? This is SO right-on! TOO many D-types use "mentoring" to get laid, or playtime.

lally2 -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 10:21:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 In a definition lally he felt that after speaking to her for 30 mins she should be kneeling and collared and when told hed have to soeak to me the insults begin.Hope that helps. not really. an arsewipe thinks he can collar and own a woman after 30 mins on line. ok, clearly a lesson in who to avoid and how to apply block and delete. lesson to sub = priceless.

atypicalsub -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 10:21:54 AM)
How is that whoring her out???? I'm a relatively new submissive myself, in my first D/s relationship, have only been exploring the lifestyle about a year and a half now. Personally I consider it a big red flag if a Dominant won't let their submissive communicate with other people in the lifestyle.

GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 10:51:47 AM)
OP: I am a mentor(real time) to a young man...20...and a young woman..18 We discussed this role and also I sent him/her to the mentor group on fetlife and I sent him here to check forums and threads.. IF YOU and your girl are clear on what the mentorship is about..its parameters and boundries then fuk anyone who crosses them..block assholes..have her NOT talk to freaks.. TEACH HER how to sense assholes such as this guy in about 2 sentences and cease talking if there are creeps.. Teach her HOW to have the esteem to not let these pricks bother her with theri immature tactics. A MENTOR is a GUIDE..friend..protector..filter..and must employ espansion and magnification of their charges STRENGTHS.. IF YOU WANT TO TALK TO ME ON THE OTher SIDE I AM HAPPY TO DISCUSS HOW I PRECIEVE MENTORING.. GM

HisSweetElysium -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 12:44:05 PM)
that's silly, but also a good lesson, it's the internet, people say stupid things. Just got to take it in stride. Master gets mad at some of the things ppl say to me here, but I'm a big girl, and can handle it myself. As far as mentoring, I got some wonderful guidance and help from Doms, far more than from subs actually. These were people on the other side of the world, typically older, who wanted to help me out a bit with no real agenda other than suggesting I proceed cautiously in my explorations. The very first CM email I got was from a Dom advising me of the "lay of the land" on the boards and with the profiles and such, and he has proven to be 100% correct, and is still a trusted and valued friend. just to offer, she can email me any time she wishes.

lovingpet -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 12:59:05 PM)
I'm not much for the mentoring thing, but I have seen it be positive both as you have it set up and as others have described. My issue with it has more to do with having someone else select my knowledge base and what is supposed to be important to me. I prefer to direct my own learning for the most part. As for this other person, I smell a poacher. This and many other places can help along the path. I know it helped me in the early going. I don't know what exactly you sent her here to learn, but as long as you aren't having her learn "skills" by "hands on" experience the idea that you are whoring her out doesn't hold water. Now if she were your collared submissive partner and you were sending her out for "hands on" practice, that is your call. I would tend to view it as lazy or genius, but it wouldn't be anyone's place to determine the dynamics of your relationship. Somebody wants her to cast aside her mentor. Those motives are very likely impure. Just my thoughts. lovingpet

DarlingSavage -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 1:01:41 PM)
quote: I will trade you a Big Mac... AND a shake... for a blow job. What are you trying to do? Poison people? That's hardly a fair trade! What a rip off! Someone gives you a blow job and in return, they get poisonous, genetically modified objects disguised as sustenance. You really are sadistic!

OsideGirl -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 6:08:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gift4mistress quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 male submissives mentored by male submissives, etc. etc. etc. I wouldn't let a dude mentor me though I wouldn't mind getting advice from one. Have you looked at the definition of Mentor? It's someone that gives you advice and guides you. Not quite sure why you wouldn't let a "dude" provide that for you.

DarkSteven -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 6:16:30 PM)
OP, I cannot answer you because I don't know what your "mentoring" consists of. If it's the proper use of safewords and how to contact the local community, that's one thing. But if it's the proper way to suck cock and do a striptease, that's something else altogether. Sending her to collarme, especially to the forums, isn't a bad idea. But I would recommend against letting her do it without a guide at first.

OsideGirl -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 6:58:49 PM)
Are you afraid that we bite Steven? <grin>

osf -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 7:07:56 PM)
quote: an arsewipe thinks he can collar and own a woman after 30 mins on line. believe it or not i have had that experience from women wanting to latch onto me after 30 mins though it is not as common as with men it does happen, it's that most men think it flattering and they have made a conquest instead a of a hormonal submissive grabbing the first thing that talks to them

AquaticSub -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 7:13:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Personally, I hate the concept of mentoring, but if someone is going to go and do that she should be mentored by a female submissive. Not a male dominant. It always makes me suspicious of the mentor. edited to clarify....female submissives mentored by female submissives, male submissives mentored by male submissives, etc. etc. etc. This. quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl My personal opinion is that mentors should be on the same side of the kneel and that there should be no sex or scening between mentor and mentoree. Second part of this is: CollarMe is vapor and ether, why do you care? Is there going to be a cyber beat up? And this. Thirded. quote: I wouldn't let a dude mentor me though I wouldn't mind getting advice from one. What, you don't ever take advice from males?

heartcream -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 7:27:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Personally, I hate the concept of mentoring, but if someone is going to go and do that she should be mentored by a female submissive. Not a male dominant. It always makes me suspicious of the mentor. edited to clarify....female submissives mentored by female submissives, male submissives mentored by male submissives, etc. etc. etc. Ja, fuck you Aileen, no cocks would ever get sucked the way you wanna go about it...........you're outta here; clown. Ron Am I missing something or Ron, are you talking about your dick being sucked in almost every post you make? Is this new or have you always been so? I am feeling a maniacal level happening lately. Is this so?

KatyLied -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 7:28:31 PM)
Ron has always been about finding the ultimate blowjob. All men are. He just talks about it more than most.

Delphinus -> RE: New submissives (1/6/2010 7:35:46 PM)
I don't think the boards are especially helpful, but some people I have met through CM have been quite helpful over the years. (I've been on CM longer than my current profile.)

Acer49 -> RE: New submissives (1/7/2010 10:25:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Personally, I hate the concept of mentoring, but if someone is going to go and do that she should be mentored by a female submissive. Not a male dominant. It always makes me suspicious of the mentor. edited to clarify....female submissives mentored by female submissives, male submissives mentored by male submissives, etc. etc. etc. What attribute is it that a male dominant might be missing that would not make him a good mentor? What suspicion is that? Your logical reason for this suspicion is and your data to back it up is?

NormalOutside -> RE: New submissives (1/7/2010 10:28:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 Recently as in three weeks ago i tookon a young 21 year old submissive comepletely new to the lifestyle and agreed to mentor and guide her.I felt that collar me would be a good place for her to speak with others Doms and subs alike to help further her knowledge in the lifestyle.recntly a Dom who i wont mention became angry and stated that basically i was whoring her out and that she didnt belong here.Now i know opinions are like assholes and everyone has one.So guys id like to hear yours. Only you know if you were whoring her out or not. Were you? And if so, is that a bad thing? If all you did was have her sign up here, that's not whoring her out. But you didn't exactly say what you had her do, so any advice you get here is based on guesses.

Acer49 -> RE: New submissives (1/7/2010 10:38:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied Ron has always been about finding the ultimate blowjob. All men are. He just talks about it more than most. Unless you attempting to write fantasy, the word "All" is never followed the word men or women

Acer49 -> RE: New submissives (1/7/2010 10:59:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 Now i know opinions are like assholes and everyone has one.So guys id like to hear yours. My personal opinion is that mentors should be on the same side of the kneel and that there should be no sex or scening between mentor and mentoree. Second part of this is: CollarMe is vapor and ether, why do you care? Is there going to be a cyber beat up? This is SO right-on! TOO many D-types use "mentoring" to get laid, or playtime. While I do agree that sex should not be part of mentoring, I see nothing wrong with exposing a new submissive to activities that they may find enjoyable. A mentor must have knowledge and that is not restricted to any one side of the kneel

Acer49 -> RE: New submissives (1/7/2010 11:13:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 Recently as in three weeks ago i tookon a young 21 year old submissive comepletely new to the lifestyle and agreed to mentor and guide her.I felt that collar me would be a good place for her to speak with others Doms and subs alike to help further her knowledge in the lifestyle.recntly a Dom who i wont mention became angry and stated that basically i was whoring her out and that she didnt belong here.Now i know opinions are like assholes and everyone has one.So guys id like to hear yours. As to the "whoring out" statement or whether or not she belongs here, neither have logical basis and are not worthy of comment. I see nothing wrong with what you are attempting to do, provided it is done with honesty and integrity.

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