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Did you have to run the gauntlet?


Yes - OMG EVERYONE WAS SUCH AN ASSHOLE
  7% (6)
No - What the hell are you talking about?
  40% (34)
People had to warm up to me
  20% (17)
I had to warm up to the atmosphere on the boards
  19% (16)
I don't know. I'm just clicking boxes cause I can.
  13% (11)


Total Votes : 84
(last vote on : 1/24/2010 12:52:35 PM)
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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/14/2010 4:40:55 PM   
sappatoti


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
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ORIGINAL: sappatoti
I was either totally ignored or hated and despised. My words were not good enough. Every question I had was met with contempt and total disgust.

I sucked it up. I chose my words carefully and wrote them out in complete sentences with much thought given to clarity so as not to cause confusion. After I submitted that... my very first post... the hatred faded away.

Sappa -
Is this true?  In the interest of fairness, I've never experienced you in any way except full of intellect and creativity.  I enjoy your posts immensely. 

Since my own experience was somewhat similar to yours (as you describe it), I wonder if we are tough here?  Maybe we are hard on newbies... hmmmm.

It is true to some extent, just not here on CollarMe. My initial experience into the online message boards was back in the FidoNet BBS days. If you're not familiar with that, think of this message board done through email instead of logging in and posting. I found groups that were of interest to me, composed my messages, packaged them up in the digital form bundles, and uploaded them to my neighborhood host system. Apparently my messages were flamed right from the get-go, but instead of only having to endure it for a day or two (like here), the flames kept coming for a couple of weeks as these messages were transmitted from system to system via dial-up modem. My charred skin learned to thicken up very quickly.

Back to the point of this board, I've not had any problems. I lurked for many months to learn the ebb and flow of how discussions worked as well as becoming familiar with the personalities of the regular contributors. Once I felt comfortable enough with how people responded to various types of posts I joined in, careful not to make the same posting mistakes that the unfortunates did by just jumping in as soon as they got here.

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/14/2010 4:53:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

I still don't feel I'm a member of any "In crowd" and that's just fine by me.  There are times the things I post get overlooked or passed by for whatever reason...no worries.  I do feel there is a clique mentality to the forums but that's part and parcel of any situation where you have a group of people.  If people choose to get pissy about that, I see that as their issue.


You're in the best clique of all, Friends of Level.

I suppose folks had to warm up to me, I don't remember any problems, basically, I just kept talking (and talking, and talking) until I became the beloved fellow that I am today.

That and the repetitive posting of pics of my giant cock

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/14/2010 4:55:28 PM   
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...i never expected anything different to the reception i got. Whatever i typed i had to justify.....and thats good.

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/14/2010 4:57:11 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		No, I don't feel like I had to run the gauntlet.  Does that mean that I've never posted something that was just plain stupid in some people's eyes and proceeded to hear their remarks on the subject?  Nope.  Not to mention, back then, there were a lot more folks who weren't interested in putting on the kid gloves and coddling everyone just because they decided to start an account.

I tend to treat this place the same way that I would any other group of BDSM folks.  I'm not tripping all over Myself just because someone is here for the first time.  If somebody logs on acting like the kink starved creepy guy at the club by the way he's consumed by his kink, I'm not going to be all that warm to him when his posts are full of 'do-me'.  If somebody is so full of top's disease that they believe they are more than God, but in fact also My God, sorry, but I'm going to let them know that they are not.  If I plain out don't like someone, I'm not going to hide it.

All in all, that only happens about 2% of the time around here.  The other 98% are folks that I would be happy to discuss BDSM if it were face to face, rather than just a message board.


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/14/2010 5:47:50 PM   
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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/14/2010 10:04:17 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: lovingpet
I find that it is more an issue that people have to really be careful what they discuss here. There are a great many fetishes and practices that are "community taboo" as well as one that just spawn ridicule. Serious discussion on a great many subjects never happens. This is part of why we get the same old subjects rehashed to infinity. If a subject is too rare, extreme, or absolute, then it is not met well here. There are some subject I just won't post on this site. There's nothing particularly wrong with that, but it can be a veritable landmine to new people coming in. They don't know about these "no discuss" zones and inevitably will step in it.


Interesting though I'm not sure I entirely agree. Certainly some subjects come up less than others but I feel like it makes sense that when something is more "on the edge", there is going to be less discussion of it except in dedicated groups. If only because when it's less common in a group that is already a minority, there are going to be fewer people interested in discussing or who have anything to add to the discussion.

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

You missed out an option I can click, aqua - 'it doesn't matter'.
If one is comfortable with who they are, whether one is accepted or has to run some sort of gauntlet, is irrelevant.


LOL

I guess I figured if they didn't care than they wouldn't have any interest in this poll.

quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero
Gauntlet?
 

Now that is more a gauntlet that I'm interested in running....

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaharThorne
Which reminds me...I want a XBox 360 so I can get some games to play. Mom says I am on the computer too much (I let her have at it when I get sleepy or need to work on a crocheting project).

An XBox will help kill some time. I suggest Arkham Aslym or another game that has a lot of side-quests and riddles to solve.

quote:

ORIGINAL: fluffypet61
One of the regulars (who was out of the country at the time) helped me understand that posters like their posts to be noticed...i still try to acknowledge other posters.  i like being nice.

You are very nice, both on the forums and on the phone.

quote:

ORIGINAL: intenze

I think of this as like a giant cocktail party where everyone is having little conversations. You can either go up and smile and listen to them for a while, maybe join in, or you can barge in and show your ass( I did not mean literally, Bear). What sort of reaction do you think you will get at a cocktail party if you act like a dickhead? Same things goes here, at least for me.



Huh, interesting. I think that is a good way of looking at it.

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ORIGINAL: Level

That and the repetitive posting of pics of my giant cock



Well that's what got my attention.

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 3:29:59 AM   
CarrieO


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ORIGINAL: Level


quote:

ORIGINAL: CarrieO

I still don't feel I'm a member of any "In crowd" and that's just fine by me.  There are times the things I post get overlooked or passed by for whatever reason...no worries.  I do feel there is a clique mentality to the forums but that's part and parcel of any situation where you have a group of people.  If people choose to get pissy about that, I see that as their issue.


You're in the best clique of all, Friends of Level.

I suppose folks had to warm up to me, I don't remember any problems, basically, I just kept talking (and talking, and talking) until I became the beloved fellow that I am today.

That and the repetitive posting of pics of my giant cock


What more could a girl ask for!  

Oh, and it's your giant cock pics that keep me coming back for more

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 5:58:07 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Carrie O is a slut for Level's Giant Cock.

Get your news here!


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 9:50:10 AM   
GreedyTop


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Does this mean I'm running the alleged Gauntlet (which is a great place, BTW), now?


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 11:46:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*notices that my previous post was totally ignored*

Does this mean I'm running the alleged Gauntlet (which is a great place, BTW), now?

Greedy, you get used to it TRUST me.


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 2:40:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*notices that my previous post was totally ignored*

Does this mean I'm running the alleged Gauntlet (which is a great place, BTW), now?



Greedy, you are many things.

Ignored is never one of them. Speaking of which, you should have C-Mail in the very near future.

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 2:43:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*notices that my previous post was totally ignored*

Does this mean I'm running the alleged Gauntlet (which is a great place, BTW), now?

Greedy, you get used to it TRUST me.



I second this


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 2:45:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

So... I'm curious... how many of us feel like there is some sort of unoffical gauntlet? If there is one, I certainly don't know about it. Which I guess means I'm not in the group.


I don't know if there's really a "gauntlet" as such, but I've seen a lot of newer posters pounced on and treated like shit by one of the "cliques," time and again, so I can certainly see where others would get that impression.

I never felt I had to "run a gauntlet" myself, but then again even if I had I probably wouldn't have noticed. I don't particularly care what most people here think of me, so I don't pay much attention. I have no idea whether people like me or respect what i say. I just post whatever pops into my head and forget all about it 5 minutes later, and if people ever ganged up on me I doubt I'd ever realize it.


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 2:50:35 PM   
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< Message edited by Musicmystery -- 1/15/2010 2:53:37 PM >

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 2:54:59 PM   
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We desperately need one a them there tongue-sticking-out smileys here...


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 2:57:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SL4V3M4YB3

In any case I've always found insults and nastiness easier to deal with than compliments from fluffy happy types with an annoyingly positive outlook on life.



Your heartfelt sincerity warms my heart and restores my faith in the courage of the human soul. I love you for the cold, heartless prick that you are, you motherfucker-from-some-other-country, you!


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 2:59:10 PM   
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Actually that reminds me of book by Barbara Ehrenreich (Smile or die) mentioned on BBC Newsnight the other week about the positive thinking mentality of the world. The bizarre notion in the modern world that anything that goes wrong in your life is due to lack of a happy positive outlook. There are so many self-help books about the power of positive thinking that the idea behind this one seemed a nice change. Although I'm not going to read it because it sounds a bit depressing.


< Message edited by SL4V3M4YB3 -- 1/15/2010 3:12:49 PM >

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 3:27:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aylee

~Fast Reply~

I do not think that I had to run any gaunlet.  However someone having a different opinion from me really does not bother me.  And this includes both accounts that I have had on CM.  I had a previous UID for a while and then decide to end my account.  Then I signed back up again over a year later with this UID. 

It is true that I do not often post in the upper forums, however I do read them.  When I have posted there, the response has been positive.  I think that one of the keys to having your posting taken seriously and avoid the snarkiness is clarity in writing and clarity of thought.  Taking a couple of minutes to actually think about what you are going to write instead of just blurting (can I use that word for typing?) something out off-the-cuff, so to speak. 

Celeste (DesFIP) is a great example of this.  Me. . . not so much. 


OOH! Aylee likes me.
Seriously, thanks for the compliment.

CMe had a glitch which froze the other idea from posting, and once they fixed it a couple of months later I just stayed with this.

However, I started by not asking questions but by making comments only when I knew what I was talking about, often including links. It's hard for people to claim you're a meanie when you give them factual information.

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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 5:14:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower


quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*notices that my previous post was totally ignored*

Does this mean I'm running the alleged Gauntlet (which is a great place, BTW), now?

Greedy, you get used to it TRUST me.



I second this


We could start a club, and all ignore each other!


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RE: Did you have to run the gauntlet? - 1/15/2010 5:19:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

OOH! Aylee likes me.
Seriously, thanks for the compliment.



Yes, yes I do.  I think that you are a remarkable woman.  And you are very welcome. 



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