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what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 6:15:29 AM   
osf


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Status: offline 		ok dominants what advice would you give submissives about how they present themselves in their profiles both pictorially and text wise?

other than nude, legs spread

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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 6:33:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I may be the minority, but nude and legs spread is not that attractive to me.

I would recommend that in the profile, they look at how it presents itself over all. If you are positive in one paragraph, and negative in another, it will appear negative, because human nature tends to put more weight on the negatives.

Do not portray something you are not. State what you are looking for, not the dreamland fantasy stuff, but the day to day things that you can build on. Unless of course you are just looking to play.

As far as pics, it depends on what you are looking to attract. I prefer simple and elegant that shows poses of submission or yearning. That is my personal preference though. If an "s" type were looking into someone that likes a lot of PVC, rubber, etc. then pics that show those interest would be good.

Basically it is how you present yourself, for what you wish to attract. Also, don't worry about answering every email, especially the follow up ones that chew you out for not answering the first one. Learn to aquire "filters" in the words you read to spot those that you do not want to get involved with. Maybe even find another "s" type that can read your profile, offer suggestions, and read your emails and offer advice.


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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 6:53:52 AM   
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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 6:55:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

ok dominants what advice would you give submissives about how they present themselves in their profiles both pictorially and text wise?

other than nude, legs spread


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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 7:01:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		one thing i'd like to know is what she wants to get emotionally out of the relationship and what she has to contribute to the relationship

a long list of what she likes to do or happen to her while interesting, doesn't pique my interest all that much and is secondary

also pics i like feminine apparel if clothes are worn, someone that doesn't dress as i do gets my attention first

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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 7:04:37 AM   
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I may be the minority, but nude and legs spread is not that attractive to me.

Nor to me.  In fact, I would not write a profile with such a photo.  In my experience, such profiles are either operated by women who are married and looking for cybersex or a fling, or by gay men (or scammers) who want attention through deceit.

Advice: show me who you are outside the bedroom.  That's where we'll be spending most of our time.  I need to know that I might enjoy being around you even when your clothes are on.


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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 7:07:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		Agreed with both Orion and MasterFireMaam.  I would also say do some self exploration (if you haven't already) to determine what it really is that you want.  Think about things such as dynamic type, protocol, structure, play, etc, and how important they are to you to be fulfilled.  If you are a laid back type of person, express that if you feel you would be better suited to a Dominant who is the same. 

Since this is a written form of communication, express yourself well.  Be as clear in your verbiage as possible.  Write in concise, clear statements and skip all forms of laziness, such as text speak, skipping punctuation and so on.  Your written word is what a person finds, so if you spell like a sixth grader, people will see that as lacking intelligence or education.  What you write really *is* the first impression of you, so take the time to do it properly.

Let your personality shine through.  If you are upbeat, allow that to come through in your profile.  That's a personal one of Mine that goes along with the putting the best foot forward.  Absolutely discuss your strengths.


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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 7:24:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		a lot of the rather young girls put cutesy pics of a what they think a humorous nature are doing nothing but attracting the wrong type for them

just my opinion

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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 7:31:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Be yourself... don't try to be what you think "The One" wants you to be because then you are taking on an acting role which you will be hard pressed to pull off if an actual relationship starts.

Master Fire



That is the bestest advice!

I have always thought that it would be better to be myself when presenting an ad to find a mate, on this site or on a vanilla site, it seems the wisest course.


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RE: what advice would the doms give - 1/15/2010 7:35:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		1. No complaining about other people, or whining about how hard it is to find a good Dom.
2. Incorporating quotes is fine, but if your entire profile and journal are quotes from other sources, I'm not interested.
3. Tell me what you want from the relationship.
4. Give me the basics.  Height and weight or a pic.  Do you have children that will need to be a part of the household. 
5. If you have a sense of humor, let it show.  Opalescence's profile is wonderful for that.
6. Incorporating turgid prose fantasies makes me think that you have no real experience and may have ridiculous expectations.
7. If you have a face pic, smile in it.
8. I like "natural" pics - wading in a stream, etc. 


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 7:43:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

ok dominants what advice would you give submissives about how they present themselves in their profiles both pictorially and text wise?

other than nude, legs spread


Actually that picture would be pulled if it was a primary photo. It is against the TOS to have a primary photo of a taco or a burrito, FYI.


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 7:50:30 AM   
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It is against the TOS to have a primary photo of a taco or a burrito, FYI.
Mod7...if you don't like Mexican food, maybe you should post it in the "I hate it" thread?


*light bulb goes off*



Um...never mind.



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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 8:55:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ModeratorSeven

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

ok dominants what advice would you give submissives about how they present themselves in their profiles both pictorially and text wise?

other than nude, legs spread


Actually that picture would be pulled if it was a primary photo. It is against the TOS to have a primary photo of a taco or a burrito, FYI.



What about erect penises? I've logged on sometimes and was like "whoa, there's a huge dick right in my face"

Not attractive

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 8:59:22 AM   
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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 11:21:01 AM   
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I think Orion made the best point, you write things/have pictures relevant to what it is you are after. The amount of effort you put into a profile shows, I don't get any messages now apart from people on the forum because I am not looking for anything. When I was my profile attracted a specific type of person (along with the few annoying types) and it was the type of person I wanted to attract, it all comes down to what you project, and trying to get that projection as close to reality as you can.

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 11:30:23 AM   
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What about erect penises? I've logged on sometimes and was like "whoa, there's a huge dick right in my face"


C'mon, I changed my profile already...let it go, willya?

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 1:12:51 PM   
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It is against the TOS to have a primary photo of a taco or a burrito, FYI.

*resists urge to get some Taco Bell and post pics of burritos & tacos in profile*


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 1:30:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Elizabeth666


quote:

ORIGINAL: ModeratorSeven

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

ok dominants what advice would you give submissives about how they present themselves in their profiles both pictorially and text wise?

other than nude, legs spread


Actually that picture would be pulled if it was a primary photo. It is against the TOS to have a primary photo of a taco or a burrito, FYI.



What about erect penises? I've logged on sometimes and was like "whoa, there's a huge dick right in my face"

Not attractive


Please report the picture. That is what the feature is there for.

ETA: Oops.. just noticed Sigi beat me too it


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 3:11:04 PM   
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Think this is a first time ever I saw a Mod goof up!!!!!!!  Thanks for being human Mod 7...you deserve a few pounds of chocolate!

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 3:36:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

ok dominants what advice would you give submissives about how they present themselves in their profiles both pictorially and text wise?

Thank You, osf, for this thread.  :)

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