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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 4:11:22 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		I don't care what anyone puts in their profile.  It means absolutely nothing.  It's cool if they can spell and have some sort of control over the language but other than that it is all rather meaningless.

Now if someone is direct and says that they are married that would be a probably be a deal breaker unless there are some serious extenuating circumstances.

But my peeps, this here is the dealio. I have thought that I was not looking for something serious and then managed tofall straight into the shit.

Initially all I want to discern from an individual is that they be some what right in the noggin'.  Everything else falls into place upon meeting.

What do I care if you are looking for something long term or that we might even share some common interests and when we meet the whole things turns out to be a total drag?

I just want someone that I am physically and mentally attracted to and then we gots a fighting chance. Everything else is just words. Meaningless.

I have never believed that common interests are all that important.  I have even dated a a few right wing finatics.  It is what it is.

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 4:55:18 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I used to get men telling me how I should write my profile, what should be written, etc..to attract a man.

I didn't listen to any of them. I laughed and ignored them. I wrote my profile to attract a certain type of man with what and who I was seeking.

Hhhhmm...amazingly enough, it worked!

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 5:17:11 PM   
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I have even dated a a few right wing finatics


say it isn't so!


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 5:34:08 PM   
domiguy


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I have even dated a a few right wing finatics


say it isn't so!



Tis' true, Tis' True!!!  Bedded down a few times with a bonafied Fox watching woman.  It was rather perplexing at first, But it soon became apparent that she could deep throat with the best of them.

She had lost her gag reflex....Apparently that is a common side effect displayed loyal Fox watchers. 

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 5:41:03 PM   
juliaoceania


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She had lost her gag reflex....Apparently that is a common side effect displayed loyal Fox watchers.


How is someone who hasn't desensitized themselves to a pukefest supposed to compete with that?


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 6:27:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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She had lost her gag reflex....Apparently that is a common side effect displayed loyal Fox watchers.


How is someone who hasn't desensitized themselves to a pukefest supposed to compete with that?



practice, practice, practice.....

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 6:45:33 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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She had lost her gag reflex....Apparently that is a common side effect displayed loyal Fox watchers.


How is someone who hasn't desensitized themselves to a pukefest supposed to compete with that?



practice, practice, practice.....


If only I had someone to practice on


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 7:03:37 PM   
NuevaVida


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ok dominants what advice would you give submissives about how they present themselves in their profiles both pictorially and text wise?



I had no pic on mine at the time.  I had a blurb written about how I was pretty happy with the way my life was and that I wasn't actively looking for a relationship, and some thoughts about how I felt about some changes I decided to make.

He liked it, he wrote to me, and now here we are.


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 7:08:12 PM   
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He liked it, he wrote to me, and now here we are.



where?

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 7:54:29 PM   
heartcream


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Status: offline 		I am glad they have the Report button for the boners, etc. in your face on a profile. Opening mail with a headless dick is so gross.

I like all the Mods on this thread, so cool the icons, love it.

Having no gag reflex is a good skill to have, one of my goals in life.

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 7:56:06 PM   
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Opening mail with a headless dick is so gross.

Someone cut the head off of it? Gross!


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 8:17:02 PM   
cbaby


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Status: offline 		that is oh so wrong on so many levels...lorena bobbitt springs to mind LOL

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 8:32:41 PM   
heartcream


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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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Opening mail with a headless dick is so gross.

Someone cut the head off of it? Gross!



Snicker, I did realize what I was writing even though that was not my intent. Owies maing.

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 9:49:32 PM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Well there is always the mandatory crap... spit or swallow, munch rug or just suck pole... and so on....

What is important to me is that the sub KNOWS who they are and what they NEED on the  basic levels, the rest can be explored, however a good solid foundation of the /s knowing themselves is very important. The wants are always superfluous dribble on both end of the kneel; i.e. you want to be dominated and I want to dominate... tis a no brainer. Once both D and /s understand themselves and what is they NEED in a relationship then the relationship can flourish.

So by prioritizing your want's and don't want's (which is often done in the long list of crap under your pic that no one reads) and filling out that grueling questionnaire on the left side of that crap that no one reads... the D that reads the whole show will have a better chance of making a match with you.

Le Slurp!

P.S. Be bold and adventurous and make contact first; we know your in box is overflowing.


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/15/2010 10:46:08 PM   
NuevaVida


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He liked it, he wrote to me, and now here we are.



where?


In a growing, loving and fulfilling relationship.


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/16/2010 3:33:03 AM   
osf


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/16/2010 6:25:51 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Some dominants do give good advice in regard to profiles.  My ex dom gave me a suggestion in turning an important phrase in my profile into something less negative and more positive.  I appreciated his input.  I think that profiles (when you are actively searching) are very important.  They should reveal something, at least enough to make you sound interesting, provide a snapshot of who you are, and be well-written.  I don't do all of the fetish and interests stuff, my opinion on that is, ask me, after we have mutual interest.

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/16/2010 7:40:22 AM   
MasterAramis


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Status: offline 		Greetings,

I look at a profile as a marketing tool, to be able to "sell" ourselves and put us in the best possible light possible. To me a profile should be clear, concise and honest. My big pet peeve is the negativity and bitterness in a lot of the profiles I see. I can't emphasize this enough. If I read a profile that is full of remarks that are negative, I often pass it by.

Please don't misunderstand me, I do realize that each of us, both Dominant and submissive, has baggage, some not so nice baggage, but this is the tapestry of our life and all the elements of our life will come out soon enough during the course of a relationship. Let the past be the past and let the profile be a positive portal to the future.

As for photos, well I like classy photos myself, but I am speaking just from my point of view. I am sure others may like the more raunchy style photographs. For me, while the picture gives you a look at the outward appearance of a person, the written word is what makes the photo come to life.

Just my .02!

Aramis

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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/16/2010 7:56:30 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied
I don't do all of the fetish and interests stuff, my opinion on that is, ask me, after we have mutual interest.


I put some stuff and left other things off, which were more personal to me.  As the Man and I have been exploring together, he'll say, "You didn't have that on your profile..." and my reply is basically that some things need to be discovered together in person.

Then of course, any time we discover an annoying quirk in the other person (not that I have any, of course), we'll say "Hey now, I didn't see THAT on your profile!!!"  It's kind of a joke between us now...


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RE: what advice would the doms give subs about profiles - 1/16/2010 8:02:43 AM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied
I don't do all of the fetish and interests stuff, my opinion on that is, ask me, after we have mutual interest.


I put some stuff and left other things off, which were more personal to me.  As the Man and I have been exploring together, he'll say, "You didn't have that on your profile..." and my reply is basically that some things need to be discovered together in person.

Then of course, any time we discover an annoying quirk in the other person (not that I have any, of course), we'll say "Hey now, I didn't see THAT on your profile!!!"  It's kind of a joke between us now...



When looking I put "hard limits" and "must haves" on that list... it saved time because if someone was into X, Y, or Z... or they were not sadistic at all.... well then I saw no point in communicating..

I know a lot of people are more open to change than me...lol


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