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Dom Psychology - 3/23/2006 2:49:05 PM

RaceBannon

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Gentlemen,

I have found many sites with excellent articles concerning the psychology of the submissive; many have proved valuable in helping me to understand my little submissive.
Anyone know of where I could find similar articles on the psychological studies of Dominants?

Thank you,

Race

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/23/2006 4:41:47 PM

BrianSenior

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I dont know of any sites set on the Dominant mind. I would think that learning the way a mind works, or following and understanding thinking patterns the thinking process would be samiliar from either side, Top or bottom. Yet I am far from a Doctor. ~BK~

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/23/2006 9:37:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RaceBannon

Anyone know of where I could find similar articles on the psychological studies of Dominants?

You'll do better looking for articles on Power, Greed, Controll and getting what they want when they want it.

There are many people who work. They get bossed around, yelled at, and have to stay polite the whole time so they don't loose there job. When they get home, not many want to be bossed around. Most will come home wanting some type of controll and to be themselves. This is one psychological aspect for some Doms that you can research and conclude on.

You then have people who decide to be Dominant because they don't want anyone else telling them what to do.

Though this goes out the definition of a Real Dom, you can also look for articles on Rape and Abuse and why it happens.

Anyways, no matter how many articles and studies you read on, you are only going to find yourself to the following conclusion.

There are people who like to controll and people who like to be controlled. Then you have people who like to balance controll exchange based on the issue and there mood. Then you will soon discover that people are either Trekies or Star Wars fans and Beatles or Elvis fans.

Good luck on your research.

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/23/2006 11:46:01 PM

IronBear

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I'll go along with what FnF said.. When I recover from this virus and can think straught again, I'll have a search both here abd on line and even if I feel up to it through my library and see if I can come up with a list.. It was certainly something I studied in my criminal psych degree and again for my masters but that was a more than a few decades ago,,,,

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/24/2006 12:25:38 AM

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http://domsview.com/

this was a good site.....but i see it is for sale.

http://www.dominatesoftware.com/

here is another, since i am not Dom i didnt get the sftware.

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/24/2006 7:09:18 PM

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Oddly,

I have not yet heard one man talk about intimacy and giving. I'm into the Dom experience for "control," certainly not for "rape," I have enjoyed women for many years in "vanilla" relationships; always been the take charge guy. To me it has always been about giving (and I don't mean 10-15 w/ the flogger). To me it's the extreme challenge of being all for that glorious thing called the "sub girl".

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/24/2006 7:43:24 PM

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There has been a couple of lengthy comments some time ago in a couple of posts dealing with these aspects of Mastery...

A couple of timesI've started to work on a post on the same subject too which would include the intimacy and giving/receiving as well as other thoughts in this area but as always with me R/l crices happen and I get called away for periods asd wnen I do return I'm to drained physically, emotionally as well as mentally so the project gets shelved.. perhaps this year it will get done..,

It is something I discuss with friends in both the Gorean and BDSM lifestyles..

< Message edited by IronBear -- 3/24/2006 7:44:21 PM >

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/24/2006 8:18:30 PM

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This is a very good site: http://www.bestslavetraining.com/

There is a section there called "Master's Role in Training" which may speak to what you are referring.

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/24/2006 9:53:27 PM

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quote:

Then you will soon discover that people are either Trekies or Star Wars fans

Hey! What's with the either/or? I am a fan of both Star Trek AND Star Wars..

Guess that makes me sci-bi.

Celeste

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/25/2006 7:51:13 PM

Takethiswaltz

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Dear Race,
I will be watching this thread as I'm very interested in the tickings of the dominant mind. It's one of the few hurdles I have left in understanding the psychology of BDSM. Dominant men don't seem to quite as introspective as submissive women, and i think thats why there is so much written on the psychology of submissive female. In accepting my submissiveness I really had to go back and look at my family of origin, my place and relationship with family members, and a period of abuse in my childhood which introduced me to the correlation between sexuality and submissiveness.
Lord help me, i'm the type that has to take evrything apart to understand the inner workings before i can put it back together again and accept it for what it is.
I wish Dominant men would share their thoughts? Surely they have wondered what made them who they are?

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/25/2006 9:01:40 PM

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I'm a dominant male, and I think that, for me at least, it has to do with the need to protect, to be someone's safe place. For somebody to trust you with their entirety, and to know that even if you screw up, you will be forgiven. I have my sub's well being at the forefront of my mind, often before my own. The idea of pushing her a little bit, but not too much, to expand her horizons and show her new heights in her mind.( and it is mainly mental wouldn't you all say?). I've seen a private scene between a loving dom and sub do what therapy couldn't, and I've heard of it damaging people when it's done wrong. The realiziation that you're playing with fire can often scare someone when they're getting into it. It's feeling special, because someone trusts you enough to give themselves. I think that often, society portrays dominance as angry, vicious, painful, loud. But who gains more authority? The one screaming and yelling to a subordinate or one who is calm, collected, confidant? I think we both know the answer to that. For a while I wondered what I was, whether I was some sort of evil for having this inside me (and an ultrareligious unbringing didn't help one bit). But then I saw in it that, yes, I was dominant, but I did it because I loved protecting, not harming.
Takethiswaltz, I love the way you think, I think the same, I hope I helped some ^_^

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/25/2006 9:20:46 PM

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Oh crap! I attempted to contact this person via the internal mail system...but if no one else will say the obvious, I will.

Creating a username name like Race Bannon, who is the author of some real books just makes you look like you don't have a real life! C'mon, people. Ever heard of the REAL Race Bannon...this dude isn't him! I would think that at the very least someone who joins this site could come up with some half way believable user name.

He may mean well...but this thing with using RaceBannon...just spooks me. Then again, that is just me.

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/25/2006 9:52:18 PM

Phoenix92x

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I thought Race Bannon was a Johnny Quest character from the cartoons of old...heh.
Guess I never heard of the author
*puts on flame retardant suit*

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/25/2006 10:04:11 PM

wytchywoman

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LMAO! Race Bannon wrote a book called "The Ties that Bind!"

Maybe it's not that well known, but for someone to create a collarme username plagiarizing that name is just disturbing to the max! And I do not think this was an accident...how common is the name "Race Bannon?" after all?

-grins-

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/25/2006 10:15:11 PM

wytchywoman

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Oh heck....I lied! But Race Bannon wrote SOMETHING! And he never logged onto to collarme using the screen name "RaceBannon"

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/25/2006 10:20:27 PM

wytchywoman

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Link:

Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/m Lovemaking

Amazon.com:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1881943070/103-0942115-9035001?v=glance&n=283155

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/25/2006 10:34:51 PM

Phoenix92x

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Ahhh....perhaps I should take a look at that. Thank you for showing us all wytchywoman.

I'd be interested in any responses to my thoughts from anyone as well.
Interested in what people think

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/26/2006 12:33:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shygirldesires

http://domsview.com/

this was a good site.....but i see it is for sale.

Here's the corrected URL for that site: http://www.thedomsview.com/ , you're right, it's a good site.

Cin

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/26/2006 6:45:09 AM

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I've exchanged email with CollarMe's "Race Bannon" on another topic and I'm pretty sure he wasn't aware of the Race Bannon of Learning the Ropes and The Kink Aware Professional's List (http://www.ncsfreedom.org/kap/)

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RE: Dom Psychology - 3/26/2006 8:51:16 AM

fastlane

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Dom Psychology 101, now that is something I wish they offered at college, rather than Theories of Personality. Fastlane makes a note to write to the board of directors at his alma matta.....Hell, if they can offer the sociology of women's behaviour, why not Dom Psychology?
In the mean time though....refer to your local Sadistic, Dominant, Alpha Male, in your group...and take good notes!

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