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SylvereApLeanan -> RE: I need Help Please (1/17/2010 4:25:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Domtaur
My wife and I have been on her for over a year..Im kind, respectful and courteous. I dont send emails like " be my slave bitch"...but no less we cant get a response of any kind...We may not be the most attractive, but we take care of ourselves unlike the majority of overweight or downright obese people on this and all of the other BDSM sites. So please asssist Us... what are we doing wrong...Or is it that we intimidate the fat and apathetic people that dont think they can make the grade...Or IS BDSM just a way of the fat and obese and downright impotent to get laid, or is this site so laden with fakes and scammers that it doesnt matter at all..
I dont mean to sound in any way superioristic, but someone please enlighten me.. We're active in the local community and many know US to be genuine...
Enlighten US please
DT and LilT
PS: excuse my grammatical and other errors as I might not be as good as the rest of you think you are..
Thnak you for any input, no matter how self aggrandising or superioristic it may be...
See the portions highlighed in red? This is your problem. Your words belie your claim that you are courteous and respectful. You pay lip service to not trying to sound superior, but your elitist attitude comes though loud and clear. You are so focused on the "fat, lazy, apathetic" people on BDSM sites that it's apparent you not only have an over-inflated sense of superiority and entitlement but are also unrelentingly shallow. And that's just from your OP, I haven't even gotten to your profile yet.
What sub in her right mind would be interested in someone with your attitude? Never mind the fact that you're a married couple approaching eligibility for AARP and women who want to join and established couple are in notoriously short supply. (It's called "unicorn hunting" for a reason.) You've only been searching on this site for a year. Other people have been here far longer than you without success. How long did it take you to find your spouse? Now double that length of time and and you'll have some idea of how long you should expect to wait to find a partner who is compatible with both of you.
What do you have to offer this unicorn that she can't get from someone younger, better looking, with a better personality, and single? What do you expect of her? Is she going to be a member of your family, equal in status to your spouse? Or will she be a "second class citizen" whose emotional and physical needs always come last? You have a lot of work to do before you can even think about finding another partner. Start by adjusting your attitude and go from there.
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