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RedMagic1 -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 7:01:29 AM)
A dwama pwincess.[;)]

xssve -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 7:48:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: xssve I'm raising Two kids by myself, one of whom is severely disabled and requires constant adult supervision, and I can't afford a qualified babysitter so I just don't go out, don't date, etc. Not exactly an ideal situation, but I'm not playing the sympathy card, it's just the facts. You are to be commended for your commitment to your children. However, you might want to consider this: if this posting medium is your main form of socialization, don't you think it would make sense to cultivate friends, not enemies? If you're slower to jump on others, they'll be slower to jump on you. Nice try, but you can all just put it back in your pants. What exactly did I say there dick? Who did I jump on? I'm waiting for a quote.

xssve -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 7:56:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 quote: ORIGINAL: xssve quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit Oh go climb your ex's ass and leave me alone. I am not offended by you, but since you singled me out... you bet your ass I am going to call you on your shit. Now go play in the street big boy. Lol, well now I know what a drama queen you are, you didn't mention in your profile. I'm a sub that mentions a desire for financially secure. I wonder what that makes me??? Off my list. An d not because you require financial security, I'm not going to argue that sceneing an a refrigerator box under the railroad tracks is the way to go - although I've seen it done - it's this whole issue of how exactly you define "financial security". In my experience, it's usually used euphemistically. And again, before you start taking it all personally, too late, I know, I really don't care what the hell you want, it's a free country, just don't go trying to make an example out of me to keep all the other boys in line.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:05:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xssve quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 quote: ORIGINAL: xssve quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit Oh go climb your ex's ass and leave me alone. I am not offended by you, but since you singled me out... you bet your ass I am going to call you on your shit. Now go play in the street big boy. Lol, well now I know what a drama queen you are, you didn't mention in your profile. I'm a sub that mentions a desire for financially secure. I wonder what that makes me??? Off my list. An d not because you require financial security, I'm not going to argue that sceneing an a refrigerator box under the railroad tracks is the way to go - although I've seen it done - it's this whole issue of how exactly you define "financial security". In my experience, it's usually used euphemistically. And again, before you start taking it all personally, too late, I know, I really don't care what the hell you want, it's a free country, just don't go trying to make an example out of me to keep all the other boys in line. Waaa????? It would help if ya made any sense. None of us have taken anything personally. We have seen a bit of hostility from you though. It leads me to wonder why there is a chip on your shoulder? No actually, its more like a boulder. Im a sub. I dont keep boys in line. Perhaps you should reread things.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:07:26 AM)
O.K. 2 down. How many more nice people can you push away with your negativity? Ok so you're a dominant? In listing financial security as a requirement....If you cant control your finances and dont have that part of your life together, how would a dominant manage a submissive?

VaguelyCurious -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:10:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 A dwama pwincess.[;)] Why should her being submissive stop her from being a dwama qu-ween too? Are you trying to imply that her submission makes her weaker? Huh? :P

lusciouslips19 -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:12:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 A dwama pwincess.[;)] Why should her being submissive stop her from being a dwama qu-ween too? Are you trying to imply that her submission makes her weaker? Huh? :P No, princess is good![:)]

VaguelyCurious -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:14:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 A dwama pwincess.[;)] Why should her being submissive stop her from being a dwama qu-ween too? Are you trying to imply that her submission makes her weaker? Huh? :P No, princess is good![:)] Haha! That's ok then [:D]

xssve -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:23:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: xssve Fact is, I'd rather take things into my own hands myself than get stuck with another self centered, manipulative, man hating bitch - I'm not that desperate. I have a splendid idea!!!!!! How about you take responsibility for choosing to be with the vile specimen of humanity and get a better attitude so that you can attract someone better! Already done thanks. Again, the inference is that that there are no self centered, manipulative, man hating bitches, I have experience to the contrary - once burned, twice shy, which I don't see at all as the same thing as a "bad attitude", my standards are simply much higher. In fact, she seemed like the total package to begin with, spiritual and good looking, a talented and accomplished artist, not looking for a sugar daddy, fun to be around till she get's sloshed - turned out she put's on a really good act, I'm not the only one that got taken in by it - six months after I took the boys and left, all her friends who had been giving me the stinkeye were calling me asking WTF. You'd all love her, you'd rush right in to be her White Knights, defending her against the evil xssve and that would last about six months, after which your view of me would soften considerably. This thing you're all doing? The solidarity thing? She plays that like a fucking concert pianist. Notice I didn't say "whores", that's somebody else's rant. Tangentially, I'm also in this situation for being pro-choice about it: I'd already kicked the drunken bitch out of my house when she came up pregnant , she asked me if I wanted her to have an abortion, I told her it was her choice, I'd back her up whatever she decided, and here I am. She did quit drinking during both pregnancies, thank god, but that was about the extent of her mothering instincts as it turned out. Now, I'll happily drop the subject if you'll allow me to, it's moot, it's just dredging up bad memories, I love my kids and we have a great time.

lobodomslavery -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:26:46 AM)
I know I m none of the above. I know unemployed people are not lazy slobs. Just unfortunate. Very unfortunate Kevin

xssve -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:27:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 O.K. 2 down. How many more nice people can you push away with your negativity? Ok so you're a dominant? In listing financial security as a requirement....If you cant control your finances and dont have that part of your life together, how would a dominant manage a submissive? If it were a matter of pushing them away, it wouldn't be a problem, the problem is I seem to be attracting them. I am financially secure, if you'd read anything else I wrote you'd know that - it's a lot of words I know, so I'll reiterate: define "financial security"

stella41b -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:27:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xssve Please quote any "cheap shots" I might have made, or step the fuck off. Wow, you are well 'hard'. Am I supposed to be shitting myself at this point? quote: ORIGINAL: xssve I don't need it either, I have disabilities myself, and I'm raising Two kids by myself, one of whom is severely disabled and requires constant adult supervision, and I can't afford a qualified babysitter so I just don't go out, don't date, etc. Not exactly an ideal situation, but I'm not playing the sympathy card, it's just the facts. None of which excuses the above tone. Just saying like... quote: ORIGINAL: xssve I'm in this situation because I'm a responsible person: I'm not about to stick my kids in foster care so I can be a "real man", and go chasing after a bunch of princesses. Okay. quote: ORIGINAL: xssve So here I am, on the internet - what's your excuse? Trust me, you just don't want to go down that route. Okay?

lobodomslavery -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:29:01 AM)
What have I done? Sent countless CVs, phoned countless recruitment agents, employers, recruitment officers, etc. All to no avail. But Im keeping trying , Im not down, I keep going, I believe things will turn around because recessions dont last forever Kevin

lobodomslavery -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:31:59 AM)
Im not a smoker or drinker. Sorry does not appeal Kevin

xssve -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:37:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b quote: ORIGINAL: xssve Please quote any "cheap shots" I might have made, or step the fuck off. Wow, you are well 'hard'. Am I supposed to be shitting myself at this point? quote: ORIGINAL: xssve I don't need it either, I have disabilities myself, and I'm raising Two kids by myself, one of whom is severely disabled and requires constant adult supervision, and I can't afford a qualified babysitter so I just don't go out, don't date, etc. Not exactly an ideal situation, but I'm not playing the sympathy card, it's just the facts. None of which excuses the above tone. Just saying like... quote: ORIGINAL: xssve I'm in this situation because I'm a responsible person: I'm not about to stick my kids in foster care so I can be a "real man", and go chasing after a bunch of princesses. Okay. quote: ORIGINAL: xssve So here I am, on the internet - what's your excuse? Trust me, you just don't want to go down that route. Okay? No quotes? No points. Bring it.

stella41b -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:41:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xssve No quotes? No points. Bring it. Relax. Just like, er, go have a cup of tea, let it go, and chill.

lobodomslavery -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:45:58 AM)
I will say this people and there is a small minority who do this, people who do not genuinely seek work at all and just take their dole money, yes they are totally objectionable, I have no time for people like that, I have never stopped seeking work when out, I have never abused the system Kevin

Lockit -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:48:16 AM)
xssve, If you will read one more of this and go one step further here... I would... and am not alone in this, but am one of many, would be supportive of you and what you are doing had we met your situation before your anger. Now, I am not saying it is too late! People are understanding around here despite what some think. I think you reacted to my second post, maybe not reading my first or maybe because the word bum is so significant to you. I have a phrase that is a trigger for me and that is when someone calls me a drug seeker... see I am giving you some ammo if you chose to use it. I do understand your postion because in a sense I am in the same position. I have a couple ex's too and some were not all that great and while I can get over the stuff that happened which included being abandoned with three children, two special needs, there is one thing I cannot get over and that is a curved spine that required surgery. For which I just yesterday blew out another disk and am suffering considerably. Still... I cannot take out what has happened to me on my life, on other's and in life because that won't do anyone any favors. I advocated for the ill, disabiled and vets, worked in all sorts of area's in which I dealt with people in situations just like ours. That doesn't make me special and I don't say that so that people will think I am special. I say it so you or other's might know where my heart is and why I feel as I do. I can understand xssve. I found in my work that it was harder for a man to get through things like this because they felt an even stronger form of provider gone wrong if they couldn't provide for whatever reasons. You are limited in what you can do through no real fault of your own and yet here you are... stuck. That frustration and the limitations along with taking care of a situation... a tough one... can build up some pretty good anger. Now, I cannot extend my assistance as I once did and I cannot take on any more cases as I don't feel that I am consistant enough and could do harm to a situation because I cannot be consistant in helping others day in and day out... but if you can consider what I have shared with you and take an extended hand of friendship from me... then maybe you will find that I am not what you thought. An angry, man hating woman who was snarling with the comment I made that you triggered on. The one where I said I was not changing my standards for a bum, basically. Had you known me, you would know that I can be sarcastic/humorous, thus my starting that comment with the ten cases of vibrators. I did not make that statment in anger... but truth and humor. I will not change my standard... not of living... not of income... but simply the standard of... everyone... including me... making the best of life and doing all they can to make it decent... of not being lazy and not expecting anything they didn't work for or should have. Let me add this... I would honestly... love to find someone like myself, who had success in life... but for some reason there isn't anything left of that life except the person standing there. Someone with little, who wouldn't mind my little and who could join my life and share our little with one another and give our time, our self... our life to enjoying some real quality time together. You were triggered in an area you are not healed in yet and you used me as an example as I said and knowing me... I was one of the poorest persons you could have chosen to make an examle of, because I am no where near the type of person you were upset about and talking about. You did say if that wasn't me... then cool. In the future... you might want to not highlight something someone says and make your stand and say what you feel, even if it is angry... just don't bring someone else into it. In this situation, you brought the wrong person in to do this with. That is all. Now... can we peacefully find some solution here? Maybe some understanding?

LadyEllen -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:48:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery What have I done? Sent countless CVs, phoned countless recruitment agents, employers, recruitment officers, etc. All to no avail. But Im keeping trying , Im not down, I keep going, I believe things will turn around because recessions dont last forever Kevin Yes, but what have you done to make yourself more attractive to an employer? This could be education, personal development, community work, charity work - almost anything that would show me as an employer that you do more than the minimum expected. What line of work are you in? E

RedMagic1 -> RE: "Financially Secure" (1/20/2010 8:49:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xssve What exactly did I say there dick? Who did I jump on? I'm waiting for a quote. You misunderstand what is happening here. I am declining to argue with you. I post on these boards to enjoy myself, and what I most enjoy is making new friends and flirting with hottt wimmen. I won't be flirting with you, so if you're not willing to accept my suggestion to take a different approach to your posting here, then I have no reason to hold a serious conversation with you.

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