RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress



Message


QueenRah -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 9:50:35 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

Icky's point holds .


It's Icarys[:D]



Thinking of a cute retort about shoes fitting.

FYI - "dominate" is a verb.




QueenRah -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 9:53:26 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MsHValentine

Since when do people have to be an "Authority" to answer? It's assumed those contributing to threads aren't official Authorities but her comment was perfectly reasonable because she's the one with the experience and knowledge. Subs coming into this section are asking Female dominants their opinions, so in a sense and within this context, the females are the "'unofficial' authority". If you can't get over your fears about her writing like the "Authority" on the subject, think of her as the "Experienced" on the subject. This might help you along.


[:)] QR




MsHValentine -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 9:56:59 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

It's not me who needs help along..It's those that would pose themselves as being knowledgeable in some way that makes them more so than the next person.


And may I ask who are you to say this? If you're not an "authority", why should we bother giving your words any credence? Heck, let's all just get off the boards now and do something else with our time, because Mistresses / dominant females speaking their life experiences and opinions on the board means nothing, then, without a True Domme ID®

The point is, we all assemble here on the boards due to our varying life experiences, and pool our thoughts for collective commentary. So get over it and stop being a catty ape.




Lockit -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 10:06:36 AM)

I named myself and for a number of reasons, but for the most part people think it means chastity. I am not into chastity too much. I don't get mad that men come to me and ask me to be a key holder... however I do get mad when they think of me as only a key holder. It is perception and presentation. Take a look at these...

Ma'am, I have read your profile and like the things you say, especially when you talk about foundations. I know you are not into chastity all the time from something you said on the message boards or in your journal entry, but do you have any interest or times when you use chastity. I ask because it is a big interest of mine. Could you give me some more information?
 
Or...
 
I want a key holder, would you lock me up?
 
Which is going to capture my attention? Which is going to get a decent and respectful response even if I don't like a focus on chastity and which is going to get a bit of snark or ignored?

It is the same on the boards. I will conduct myself the way I see fit and if I feel like saying something, no matter my many varied reasons or experiences... I am going to say it. Take me or leave me... I am who I am. lol




Icarys -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 10:06:43 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

That being the case, Icarys, what is your perception of the number of trolls/wankers/use your term 'here' among the various sections?


I personally don't give it much thought. Do you?


Actually, I do.  Unlike the male equivalent board, this is a constant breeding ground for it.  This is one of those areas where the female Dominants are expected to put up with a behavior that is not one tolerated by the males.  Quite frankly, if the Dominant boards were one, rather than split by gender, it would be My opinion that it would happen a lot less frequently.  In truth, I tend to think you would be in the group of male Dominants who would get rather tired of reading wank type posts or those written by authors who brought topics to the boards with one hand while their dick was in the other.

From you posting history, I have always gotten the impression that you don't put on the kid gloves when it comes to expressing what you think.  That holds true whether you agree with a topic or not.  I highly doubt you would quickly accept that anyone should tell you to change your posting style or that you should only add comments if you agree with the original.  That is the underlying current of the topic at hand.


When I say I don't give it much thought..I mean I pass right by the aholes who do it. I've had women contact me for the same reason and yes it turns my stomach.

The rest I agree with as well. except to say that I try and make sure that I don't come off as someone who thinks for a group.




Icarys -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 10:10:01 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsHValentine


quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

It's not me who needs help along..It's those that would pose themselves as being knowledgeable in some way that makes them more so than the next person.


And may I ask who are you to say this? If you're not an "authority", why should we bother giving your words any credence? Heck, let's all just get off the boards now and do something else with our time, because Mistresses / dominant females speaking their life experiences and opinions on the board means nothing, then, without a True Domme ID®

The point is, we all assemble here on the boards due to our varying life experiences, and pool our thoughts for collective commentary. So get over it and stop being a catty ape.


*Grunts.




EbonyWood -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 10:13:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsHValentine


The point is, we all assemble here on the boards due to our varying life experiences, and pool our thoughts for collective commentary. So get over it and stop being a catty ape.


Pick a species.
 
You know derogatory and offensive remarks towards a member violates the TOS you signed, right?
 
Totally unnecessary.




Icarys -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 10:16:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: QueenRah


quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

Icky's point holds .


It's Icarys[:D]



Thinking of a cute retort about shoes fitting.

FYI - "dominate" is a verb.

How very clever of you.




LadyPact -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 10:24:46 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

That being the case, Icarys, what is your perception of the number of trolls/wankers/use your term 'here' among the various sections?


I personally don't give it much thought. Do you?


Actually, I do.  Unlike the male equivalent board, this is a constant breeding ground for it.  This is one of those areas where the female Dominants are expected to put up with a behavior that is not one tolerated by the males.  Quite frankly, if the Dominant boards were one, rather than split by gender, it would be My opinion that it would happen a lot less frequently.  In truth, I tend to think you would be in the group of male Dominants who would get rather tired of reading wank type posts or those written by authors who brought topics to the boards with one hand while their dick was in the other.

From you posting history, I have always gotten the impression that you don't put on the kid gloves when it comes to expressing what you think.  That holds true whether you agree with a topic or not.  I highly doubt you would quickly accept that anyone should tell you to change your posting style or that you should only add comments if you agree with the original.  That is the underlying current of the topic at hand.


When I say I don't give it much thought..I mean I pass right by the aholes who do it. I've had women contact me for the same reason and yes it turns my stomach.

The rest I agree with as well. except to say that I try and make sure that I don't come off as someone who thinks for a group.


I'm so glad to see that we agree.  I honestly didn't have you pegged for the type who wouldn't say something turned your stomach.  LOL.

I tend to think folks speak for themselves.  I think it would be hard to argue that some things are more popular than others.  A topic posted about bare handed spanking, for example, is probably going to receive more positive responses when compared to a post about scat.  Especially if it comes across on an open forum as 'please, please make this boy your personal toilet'.




Icarys -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 10:34:05 AM)

quote:

I'm so glad to see that we agree. I honestly didn't have you pegged for the type who wouldn't say something turned your stomach. LOL.

I tend to think folks speak for themselves. I think it would be hard to argue that some things are more popular than others. A topic posted about bare handed spanking, for example, is probably going to receive more positive responses when compared to a post about scat. Especially if it comes across on an open forum as 'please, please make this boy your personal toilet'.



[:D]

The bottom line for me is that we all have a "right" to be here. We all have a "right" to express ourselves and that even means the wankers as well..Whether it turns my stomach or not. I do have the choice of passing on the wankers topic..That is my "right"

(not saying this to you but in general)
What isn't a right to me is for someone to speak as if they are speaking for a group of people unless that group has given them the expressed position to do so. I for one say not a soul should speak for me. My views are my own.




LadyAngelika -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 10:59:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Take a look at these...

Ma'am, I have read your profile and like the things you say, especially when you talk about foundations. I know you are not into chastity all the time from something you said on the message boards or in your journal entry, but do you have any interest or times when you use chastity. I ask because it is a big interest of mine. Could you give me some more information?


I will respond to this one thoughtfully, regardless if this is my kink or not and regardless if we are compatible or not. That is called being courteous.
 
quote:

Or...

I want a key holder, would you lock me up?


I will first *block* the individual if he's not from my area. If he is, he might get a second chance, but that usually never change things. I will simply reply. "No." in both cases.
 
- LA





LadyAngelika -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 12:23:58 PM)

Might I direct viewers also to this post: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3027734

- LA




Rochsub2009 -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 2:27:59 PM)

Wow, what a rumble!  This should be on pay-per-view.  Who is the sanctioning body for this fight?  WBC, WWE, or UFC?

(Can someone hand me some more popcorn?  i don't want to miss the action.)




Lockit -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 2:30:58 PM)

<<<< smacks Rochsub hard... just so he can join the rumble! hehe Whisper's... see this is more fun than pop corn!




VaguelyCurious -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 2:33:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Wow, what a rumble!  This should be on pay-per-view.  Who is the sanctioning body for this fight?  WBC, WWE, or UFC?

(Can someone hand me some more popcorn?  i don't want to miss the action.)



It's not a fight in my book until someone mentions Hitler or my mum, but here you go anyway...
[sm=chug.gif]ok I'm tired and it's late and I can't find the popcorn icon, so I'm afraid it's coke instead.




Rochsub2009 -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 2:41:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

It's not a fight in my book until someone mentions Hitler or my mum



Hey, isn't that your mum over there.......talking to Hitler.

(runs for cover, and grabs more popcorn)  [:D]




Rochsub2009 -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 2:43:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

smacks Rochsub hard... just so he can join the rumble!



That doesn't make me want to rumble, that makes me horny.  [;)]




VaguelyCurious -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 2:46:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

It's not a fight in my book until someone mentions Hitler or my mum



Hey, isn't that your mum over there.......talking to Hitler.

(runs for cover, and grabs more popcorn)  [:D]



'Talking to'? That's the best you could do?!

Why yes, that is my mum talking to Hitler, while he takes it up the arse from your mum's strapon.

If you're going to bring it, bring it. :-p




QueenRah -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 2:51:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

It's not a fight in my book until someone mentions Hitler or my mum



Hey, isn't that your mum over there.......talking to Hitler.

(runs for cover, and grabs more popcorn)  [:D]



*tackles Rochsub from behind.* Oop! Sorry, sweetie. Didn't mean to flatten you. Sometimes I forget I'm not 110 lbs, anymore. (That's just over eight stone, to you Brits. I *know* you know. I just wanted you to know that *I* know) Anyway, that was fun. You okay?




cloudboy -> RE: Lame posts: "No, I'm not into that. Sorry" Why bother? (1/25/2010 2:53:24 PM)

quote:

So what I'm getting is that you want me to say that because your female that you have special issues that the rest of us don't understand because we are men? Hogwash.

You go on believing that..I'll stick to the real. and steer away from the pity party.


She also fails to mention all the advantages that she enjoys, as well. From my view, LA is playing up the hardships (which are few for her) and downplaying the advantages (which are many.)

Let's take the OP as an example. She has a perfect marriage to a perfect submissive. In addition to that, she claims to have a series of hot relationships (in a non fluid exchange way) with a series of tertiary male subs, and in addition to that she has whole classes of malesubs who register for online training from her and who pay for it to boot.

Well, not all the cherries in an overflowing bowl are going to be ripe, sweet, and satisfying.

So, its funny to me for femdoms to classify their "hardships" as only relevant to them. Every person out there in the dating world has hardships in finding a compatible partner. There may be some differentiation of hardship, but there is also a high degree of universality as well.

Here are some other thoughts to ponder.

Do maledoms pound away on femsubs who start threads relating to their own kinky interests?

Do maledoms criticize one another for what they see in each other as "crossing the line," or do they instead close ranks -- leaving it up to the femsubs to raise such issues?

On the maledom board, do you see a lot of "us" v. "them" rancor across the gender divide, or do you feel common ground is more the norm?




Page: <<   < prev  7 8 [9] 10 11   next >   >>

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
0.046875