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It's my opinion that the wank posts tend to get the most attention anyway, so what's the bother of trying anything else. I've tried starting conversations and creating my own threads, but mostly they get ignored. Now, I'm not complaining (cause that's what it sounds like) but just pointing out that for the most part a certain type of behavior tends to get the most attention on these boards, and if you're not someone who does that sort of thing, you generally end up getting passed over and ignored. Again, this isn't a complaint, but just an observation because it doesn't really matter to me anymore.
I've seen you mention this perception on multiple occasions. While I'm sure you take more notice because of your first hand perspective of your own writing, I can tell you that it doesn't seem that way to other readers of your comments. Just an observation on My part that, I completely admit, could be incorrect.
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In observation, I see a lot of threads that end up being continuous flirt-like conversations that get carried over from one thread to the next, and always by the same people. The real conversations tends to get glossed over for the most part so that the main focus can be the conversations that many of us have probably read over and over again. The other conversations that get a lot of action and attention are the ones that are basically people picking fights with others, who I sometimes think do so because it's the only way they can possibly get a conversation going with one of the known women on the boards.
I'm thinking this may be both correct and incorrect at the same time. I do think some sexually charged topics are going to bring out some of that cyber flirting that you mention. I engage in that Myself, especially when I find folks who have certain kinks in common on the forums. I think it's part of the fun and the turn on of discussing things that turn us on.
Three of the most popular threads on this board that were dynamic and/or kink related were "Tribute Done Right", "Does Anyone Else Seek A Male Wife", and "Heterosexual Males Sucking Cock". (I may be paraphrasing some of those titles and by 'popular' I'm saying it in context of number of replies.) Now, I'll be the first to say that the 'Tribute' thread wasn't exactly pretty, yet there was a lot of various opinions in there regarding how many people felt about the subject. The 'Male Wife' thread had a lot of content to it about female led households where the male wasn't the primary income. The 'Cock Sucking' thread, talked about the various aspects of the activity, and even included mini discussions on the psychological aspects of that kind of play. There's a ton of flirting in that last one, but there is also a wealth of information on what makes Dominant women tick about the subject.
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At one point, I used to try to create threads that I thought would bring about really intriguing conversations, posing questions that I felt were higher level than the usual fill in the blank stuff that tends to permeate the boards. But unfortunately, what ends up happening is that someone who has been blindly responding to every other thread responds in really simplistic commentaries, and then everyone else picks up on the simplistic stuff, and the conversation goes that way, and nothing can be done to increase the level of discourse because people are already actively going back and forth with simplistics that cause the senior members of the community to just sigh and look for some other thread to inhabit. A lot of times this will happen when someone who has been around the block in bdsm a few times generates a conversation, and then all you get are responses from people who have a lot of "fantasy" experience but have fantasized long enough to believe that they have something significant to add to a conversation, even though they really don't know anything about the subject matter at hand. Someone once told me (after I talked about this before) that my response should be to continue to "englighten" the conversation, but what I discovered is that no one listens to what you have to say and even though you might be talking about the complexities of how to organize a bdsm outreach organization, someone has turned the conversation into "attend a munch, and you might find someone to smack your pee pee".
I tend to think that, on a subject of that nature, it has to be understood from the beginning that those with actual experience on the matter is going to be a very small percentage of the participants here. In the example you're using, I can only think of perhaps a dozen regular forum participants. Even I wouldn't qualify for that one. While I was elected to run a BDSM organization and did so successfully for a year, I've never started one.
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Anyway, I've been reading through some of these threads in the last few days thinking of responding, but then it just gets frustrating, so I decided to write for myself instead. It's amazing how fast one goes from being an insider to an outsider in these communities.
I appreciate your perspective and would like to thank you for responding.
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