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osf -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:12:44 AM)
maybe in your profile you should lie a lot say how sensual, soft and cuddly you are and you'll cherish their gift forever

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:13:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkRomancer I hate trying to present a skewed perspective of myself. Honesty has always been one of my defining principles, so... Right. Off to tweak with my profile :3 Who said you have to present a skewed perspective of yourself?! Don't! Honesty and clarity, that's all anyone is asking for.

Jeffff -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:14:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf maybe in your profile you should lie a lot say how sensual, soft and cuddly you are and you'll cherish their gift forever LOL.... sometimes osf... you really bust me up...:)

Icarys -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:15:35 AM)
If he's close to the Beaverton munch it might be his best bet..That sounds strangely promising.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:15:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf maybe in your profile you should lie a lot say how sensual, soft and cuddly you are and you'll cherish their gift forever Are you lying in your profile, osf? Do you secretly love snuggles and kittens? I bet the gruff exterior is a total LIE! ;-P

Jeffff -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:17:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys If he's close to the Beaverton munch it might be his best bet..That sounds strangely promising. Who could pass up a Beaverton munch!

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:17:50 AM)
Your profile is an ad. You are selling yourself on it. If you are shopping for a convertible, and you see one ad that says "Convertible for sale" and 50 ads that say "2009 Convertible, low mileage, runs great, moving must sell - make an offer" do you think people are going to waste their time with the advertisement that gives no information? Your profile is your resume. You can focus on your lack of experience and skills, or you can focus on your talents and abilities. Attending munches, play parties gives you the opportunity to watch experienced players, learn techniques, meet people. It is worth the effort of browsing online porno until you can find what you want. Although I have never had any problems finding munches online with a simple search for "BDSM MUNCH (city/state)."

Icarys -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:22:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys If he's close to the Beaverton munch it might be his best bet..That sounds strangely promising. Who could pass up a Beaverton munch! Not I.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:22:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: DarkRomancer I hate trying to present a skewed perspective of myself. Honesty has always been one of my defining principles, so... Right. Off to tweak with my profile :3 Who said you have to present a skewed perspective of yourself?! Don't! Honesty and clarity, that's all anyone is asking for. First, ignore osf. You are way to be jaded like that ;-) Secondly, if you might ask someone to interview you in a chat session. I've done this with friends in the past and it helps. They end up taking the transcripts and writing up a stellar profile. Also, look for online dating profile tips. The vanilla ones are just as valid. Here is a good one that I find would work well for a Dominant man: http://www.singleguyadvisor.com/online-dating-advice.html - LA

KnightofMists -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:24:27 AM)
Just be the person you like to see in the mirror... Put your hook in the water with openness and integrity! Sooner or later you will find someone that likes what they see as much as you do. It will be the worth the wait and effort

Icarys -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:25:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkRomancer Okay, so here's the deal; yes, I am new to the scene, yes you could probably say I'm inexperienced. Strike that, you could definitely say I'm inexperienced. However since joining Collarme, I've had a total of one person respond to my messages. Just one, and that's because we struck up a conversation about mmorpgs. I mean, it might be that I only really look for subs/doms in my area, and that my area is a little divided, what with being right on the border of two states, but... What's the deal? I'm forward, I'm not being a creeper in most of my messages, and far as I can tell, my profile picture doesn't scare people off. So sorry if this sounds like a bitchfit, I'd really just like to know the best way to actually get a response out of someone in a message. After all, we all have to learn some time, and I can't seem to figure this out on my own. Thanks in advance for your help guys ;3 http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3027562 She makes some good points. I'll add that you don't have to participate and you don't have to agree with that way of lifestyle to learn from the person. Go there and observe for learning only if you like. Okay did something wrong with that link lol.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:27:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: osf maybe in your profile you should lie a lot say how sensual, soft and cuddly you are and you'll cherish their gift forever Are you lying in your profile, osf? Do you secretly love snuggles and kittens? I bet the gruff exterior is a total LIE! ;-P I heard rumours that at night, he and his goose cuddle in front of a roaring fire... - LA

LadyAngelika -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:28:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys Okay did something wrong with that link lol. http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3027562 Just click on Post #27 and then copy the link in the pop up window :-) - LA

AquaticSub -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:29:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkRomancer Hrm, thanks for the advice. Any specific idea where I would go about finding information on local meetings and things of the like? I doubt I can just google "local bondage meets" without having to wade through a sea of porn and spyware... You'd be surprised. Google "munches" in your area. The people who attend munches, dinners at public resturantes with like-minded folk, will be able to tell you were the local play groups are and, if needed, how to get invited. What you might need is several scenes with what I refer to as a teaching bottom. The point of the scene is not to get in any particular headspace but to help you learn your skills. It's something I do when possible but I wouldn't feel comfortable agreeing to do a teaching bottom scene with random guy on the Internet. I much prefer to be asked at a munch or a play party where I can get a feel of the top in question. The reason for this is doing a teaching scene where the bottom is giving tips to the top can be tricky. If the top isn't willing to take the advice or gets frustrated with the fact that the bottom isn't going floaty, it just ends up a mess. Also, from my point of view, I want the top to pay attention to my tips and listen - because if I'm going to scene and I know I'm not going to particularly get anywhere headspace wise, there isn't any point if they aren't going to take me seriously. If they aren't going to listen, I could spend that time playing with the dominant I've scened with several times before and know that he takes me where I wanna go every time. Also, when you find someone to help you learn your skills, seek out someone who has experience receiving what you want to learn. IMHO, it's easier when the bottom can say "It feels like you are just grazing me with the flicker, try stepping in a bit". YMMV

CarrieO -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:31:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkRomancer Hrm, thanks for the advice. Any specific idea where I would go about finding information on local meetings and things of the like? I doubt I can just google "local bondage meets" without having to wade through a sea of porn and spyware... In post #13 I included a link for organizations and groups in your state.

OttersSwim -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:31:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: osf maybe in your profile you should lie a lot say how sensual, soft and cuddly you are and you'll cherish their gift forever Are you lying in your profile, osf? Do you secretly love snuggles and kittens? I bet the gruff exterior is a total LIE! ;-P I heard rumours that at night, he and his goose cuddle in front of a roaring fire... - LA Kinky... [;)]

Rule -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:32:46 AM)
Take a hammer and smash your computer. It will necessitate you leaving your quarters and going to a shop to buy a new computer. Repeat until you meet a shop assistant who is the sub that you desire. (Please do tell us afterward how many computers you did buy and smash.)

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:35:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rule Take a hammer and smash your computer. It will necessitate you leaving your quarters and going to a shop to buy a new computer. Repeat until you meet a shop assistant who is the sub that you desire. (Please do tell us afterward how many computers you did buy and smash.) Disclaimer: No computers were actually harmed in the making of this post.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:37:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OttersSwim quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: osf maybe in your profile you should lie a lot say how sensual, soft and cuddly you are and you'll cherish their gift forever Are you lying in your profile, osf? Do you secretly love snuggles and kittens? I bet the gruff exterior is a total LIE! ;-P I heard rumours that at night, he and his goose cuddle in front of a roaring fire... - LA Kinky... [;)] That reminds me of a joke. What is the difference between kinky and perverted? Kinky is a feather whereas perverted is the whole goose! (Let's stop here as I'm treading lightly on the TOS beastie line ;-) - LA

AquaticSub -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/25/2010 11:37:45 AM)
Mine was. She's emotionally scarred now.

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