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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

I see you've opted not to suffer in silence, instead choosing to moan, whimper and complain. I suggest you spend at least eight hours a day scouring the web for pictures of fish. It's not in the medical journals yet, but current studies do support this approach for its calming effect of your oh so apparent problem... then again, there's always Viagra?!! Twit.

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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Once again, I know you're not that bright, so maybe this will get through to your pea-sized brain:

You Wrote: "...people who use them in the manner you did"
 
I Wrote: "...the 'manner' in which it was used was with HUMOR -- i.e., the SAME way others use outside pics in posts"

Got that, genius? The "manner" is the SAME as others have used outside pics -- for HUMOR, and without malicious intent. Can't state this in any clearer/simpler terms for your feeble little mind to comprehend.

Thus, once again, according to you EVERYONE that's used a pic in a humorous way in a post is an "Asshole"; thanks for clearing that up!!! 

So, once more, run along now like a good little blather-boi and go through EVERY thread here on CollarMe and blast all that have used a pic in a HUMOROUS WAY and who didn't have the picture owner's "right" to do so.  Go on... back up your loud-mouthed indignation... here's your chance not to look like the foolish, hypocritical, petty, little twit that you've shown yourself to be by making a complete "non-issue" into one.  I'll be waiting to see you back up your blather, but I'm not holding my breath... forum-fools like you are predictable little twits, at best.

To recap yet again: 

1)  Many on this site have used outside pics for HUMOROUS purposes, and without malicious intent; just as I did.

2)  RedMagic had the sense to simply provide the unknown history behind the pic.

3)  Once the history of the pic was known, the appropriate request to remove it was made;  which I did not have to do.

4)  Unlike YOU, there was no malice intended with my post.  Your blatherings are little more than petty, self-aggrandizing garbage in an attempt to present yourself in some pseudo, favorable light, where none exists.

Your holier-than-thou rantings STILL aren't working and you burry yourself further with every post... try again, Skippy.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
MasterSlaveLA -- and everyone else -- I made the mistake of posting the photo of the man in that picture MasterSlaveLA posted.  I wish I hadn't.  He's the deceased master of a semi-regular poster here, and I really hurt her feelings.  I know that's an easy-to-find image, but it turns out he was in the lifestyle, and his widow is an active CollarMe member.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

You guys really get my goat.

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
MasterSlaveLA -- and everyone else -- I made the mistake of posting the photo of the man in that picture MasterSlaveLA posted.  I wish I hadn't.  He's the deceased master of a semi-regular poster here, and I really hurt her feelings.  I know that's an easy-to-find image, but it turns out he was in the lifestyle, and his widow is an active CollarMe member.

Redmagic's response here is basically all that needed or should have been said regarding this matter. It's none judgmentmental and pretty much covers all sides/issues in the matter.

Icarys buddy, you don't seem to let up on trying to make people feel far worse than they already do. You are playing the verbal humilation game for real here for some unapparent reason of personal motivation.

You seem to be rather blind sided to seeing things from different perspectives, where's your own thoughtfulness in regards to things here? You could have sent private emails to MasterSlaveLA and whomever else. Instead you open up with name calling "Assholes" right here in a post on public forum. You did this after MasterSlaveLA clearly expressed regret for her own actions. Nice that you want to pour salt on an open wound, or otherwise kick somebody when they are feeling bad. I'm going to sincerely say this and mean this, I'd hate to be your submissive. I'm not trying to be a smart ass nor wise ass about it. What I just expressed is not a joke nor some form of mindless insult either. It's based upon my observation, and how I'm sizing things up at the moment.

What I'm about to express, may become your personal affirmation that I'm indeed part of the collective known as "Assholes" which have posted to this thread. It appears that I've already been judged in that manner anyways, so I have no fear of the "Asshole" label sub-title. Above all else, I'm a human being. I assure you that I have a full range and set of working emotions. I'm not 100% perfect nor fault free. Sorry Icarys my name ain't Jesus and God did not put me on the face of this earth. My name ain't Budda either, nor am I Buddist. I seem to have fallen off whatever conceived Pedstal/Standards you have.

I'm going to say this publically, attempt to explain myself as best I can. This may become a shock for some people to read. However, it's Raw Pure Unadultered Truth. I'm not gonna play the Jack Nickelson game with "You can't handle the truth". This is the truth, I'm not going to pretend that I did not mean anything I expressed in any of my posts. I'm not going to even apologize for it. I said things in humor that I actually meant. I'm going to explain why I meant those things, and if you want to take sticks and stones to me, so be it. At the very least my integrity will not have been compromised for the sake of placating anothers blood thirst for Guilt Tripping/Shaming/Humilating. I will not scarifice my integrity for the sake of sparing feelings either.

I said what I did, I take 100% ownership of what I said, I'm also gonna stand by it 100%. I took a day to reflect upon this matter personally even.

My comments regarding how that picture hurt my mind. I was being 100% honest about it. Pictures with extremely large naked people don't sit well in my mind, never have, never will, and I'm not gonna pretend otherwise about it. Some people have pictures like that on their cell phones and show it off to people for a reaction. I actually use the "Hide" profile feature on the other side of CM, to block any profiles with pictures that have this effect upon me. I have used "HIDE" far more than I have Add to Favorites. I will openly admit it, the reason why I use it and I'm very Thankful that CM has this feature. It is impossible for me to sincerely Apologize for the comments I made, because that would make me a Liar. You can attempt to push, bully or berate me in an attempt to make me feel bad for the effects that Picture of Extremely Large Naked people have upon me. It's not gonna make me feel an once of guilt. The sight of said pictures disturbs and I want to burn the images from my mind upon seeing them. Hence my remarks about killing brain cells with Shots of Jeagermister.

This post may appear to be somewhat insensitive towards the deceased guy and even his significant other. My empathy is somewhat limited, I'm not giving out special limited edition empathy for dead people today. I reflected upon this matter. The difference between somebody being Dead or Alive. Let me explain the reason why. That picture did not magically find it's way to the internet. Somebody made a choice or decision to post it. I have no Empathy for those that knowingly/willingfully subject themselves to becoming a target or brunt of humor and degradation. It could be argued that this was not the intent at the time the picture was taken and released. I don't have Empathy for their own lack of forethought/judgement on this matter. Why should I magically feel different just because they are deceased. It was a very bone headed move when they were alive. There's something to be said for the legacy we leave behind after death, this includes our own decisions and choices that were not the brightest.

It's painfully obvious that this picture has become popular in the Public Domain, and it's use. Yes. it's used in very comical or funny ways, in degrading ways and otherwise demeaning ways. Perhaps the guy in the picture enjoyed the attention, perhaps he takes no True Insult to it, then again perhaps he was mortally crushed by it. To rush to judgement and to assume that this guy was deeply embrassed and is a victim of this negative attention become rather subjective according our own Personal Projections. This guy obviously had a reasonable level of self esteem, else he would not have permitted somebody to take a picture of him naked in a chair in front of a PC. For all we know he could have relished in the fact people use his picture in the manner that they do.

I'm not making this post to mindlessly hurt or offend anybody, but rather to be blunt ass honest. If I'm gonna be tossed into a group that's label "assholes" I'm going to run with it. Not gonna try to cover myself up with fig leaves and run and hide.

I did feel bad after reading RedMagic's post to the thread, in fact I emailed him on the other side. Mind you, from his own experience and interaction with this girl appears to be legit, however it's just this, that she seems legit. There is an assumed truth that this guy really is a deceased Master of girl that's a member of this website. There is a degree of Hearsay in the matter. However, in cases like this benefit of the doubt is best to be given. Perhaps I'm too cynical at times, however there are people that will go to lengths for sympathy and attention using extremely less than ethical means to obtain it. There simply is not enough to factually go on. We all may be working off from either a TRUE or FALSE premise that this guy was her Master and that he's did. For all we know he could be still alive and not even her Master.

I don't see anybody expressing concerns about the misuse of the girls picture that was part of the image. I guess if your skinny attractive and beautiful you can be used in Demeaning ways and nobody is gonna think twice about. but we won't talk about her at all. Let's give the big naked guy all the attention. Amazing how morals and values shift around... only apply to certain people, or types of people.

In regards to the Whole Image itself. There was a message that was expressed, regarding Expectations and Reality. Some people or things ain't what it always appears to be.

Expections of civil behavior and the reality of things can be a little tricky as well. I've sincerely have wrote way too much in this post. It's not exactly a pretty topic or issue that I'm responding to.

When it comes to humor and jokes. It's a bit of a no brainer that it's at the expense of somebody else most of the time. There is a certain degree of Sadistic nature in jokes/humor... there is also a degree of truth, else it would not be funny.

I am Empathic regarding anybody's loss of a Loved one, it's sad affair, and I truely am moved by bad news of other peoples death. Last year I went through some deep personal losses. I am not totally insensitive regarding things. I am a human being with a full range of working emotions and I'm not perfect. I can assure anybody that I will fall from whatever pedastal they place me upon.

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I hate it when I'm late to the party....Who should I being making fun of?

Cliff notes please.

Just so I cover my bases, I think that MasterslaveLA and Icarys are complete assholes for doing whatever they did. I am appalled that you douchebags continue to act in a manner, which I am completely unaware of, that would warrant me to chastise you in such a horrific fashion.

You guys really get my goat. (Not that I have a goat to get or even the remotest idea why you would want it in the first place)

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

I'm pretty certain RedMagic was not acting out of Malice at the time when he used the picture.

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Icarys, your apology is not accepted, because you and I both know you meant what you said. You repeated over the course of a few days. You sincerely meant what you said and that's how you sincerely felt and think. It's rather passive agreesive on your part to play, the false Apology game. Just because you let your thought slip out does not mean you did not think or mean those things.

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ORIGINAL: intenze

I am bummed to see this thread dissolve into name calling and crap. Can we get back to the original post? People have written such amazing and beautiful memories.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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Icarys, your apology is not accepted, because you and I both know you meant what you said. You repeated over the course of a few days. You sincerely meant what you said and that's how you sincerely felt and think. It's rather passive agreesive on your part to play, the false Apology game. Just because you let your thought slip out does not mean you did not think or mean those things.

Yes I meant what I said. Just sorry I felt the need to verbalize it in that manner. I don't like to curse.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
So I was wondering how closely what you were expecting matched up to what you got, both when you first came to D/s in general, and when you tried more specific kinks? Was stuff more intense? Not as scary? Unexpectedly hilarious? Everything you'd ever hoped for or everything it had never occurred to you to want?

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

My first proper D/s experience was straight in the deep end, as a sub, and one of the things I wasn't prepared for was quite how much it was going to hurt (which sounds unbearably stupid looking back, I know). The first time I topped I wasn't at all expecting the chemical rush that came with being in charge, so I was in for quite a surprise...

So I was wondering how closely what you were expecting matched up to what you got, both when you first came to D/s in general, and when you tried more specific kinks? Was stuff more intense? Not as scary? Unexpectedly hilarious? Everything you'd ever hoped for or everything it had never occurred to you to want?

Sorry if any of the above sounds cheesy, but I do seriously want to know.