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RE: Expectation vs Reality - 2/15/2010 12:51:31 PM

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I would like to point out I had no part in the derailment.

Unusual, I know.

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RE: Expectation vs Reality - 2/15/2010 1:14:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

My first proper D/s experience was straight in the deep end, as a sub, and one of the things I wasn't prepared for was quite how much it was going to hurt (which sounds unbearably stupid looking back, I know). The first time I topped I wasn't at all expecting the chemical rush that came with being in charge, so I was in for quite a surprise...

So I was wondering how closely what you were expecting matched up to what you got, both when you first came to D/s in general, and when you tried more specific kinks? Was stuff more intense? Not as scary? Unexpectedly hilarious? Everything you'd ever hoped for or everything it had never occurred to you to want?

Sorry if any of the above sounds cheesy, but I do seriously want to know.

My first d/s experiences were intense and exciting. I had nothing to judge them against and I found them enjoyable. They were also with men who I had no emotional connection with. I then got involved with a man who I wanted to know on all levels, not just kink. The more I knew him, the more incredible our interactions became. He has completely blown my fantasies out of the water and ruined me for anyone else but him. I am his for life.

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RE: Expectation vs Reality - 2/15/2010 1:15:30 PM

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Wow...nice little squabble shoved in the middle of the thread there....

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RE: Expectation vs Reality - 2/15/2010 1:28:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
Sorry to destroy your thread, VaguelyCurious.

Sorry-I missed this when I skimmed through the row earlier.

Not your fault, Red-nothing to apologise for.

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RE: Expectation vs Reality - 2/15/2010 4:15:54 PM

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VaguelyCurious,
There's always a bit of a change in things going to one relationship to another. Where we are so used to things being a certain way, these are not expectations per se. What we might take for granted or might seem like no big deal. Well, rather are big deals in the next relationship. The fascinating part are the Tradeoffs. Giving up old territory for some new and different territory to explore.

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RE: Expectation vs Reality - 4/23/2010 7:50:52 AM

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Two weeks after arriving in San Francisco following school i enrolled in Mistress Kat's BDSM tutorial with her slave Mouse which opened my eyes a bit or put some structure around all the fantasies i had had since childhood ( i did not understand it all at the time but enough sunk in so...)......two weeks later i found myself strapped down on a bondage table while the Dr. Charle Moser (now an eminent BDSM author) instructed a newbie Domme on how to domme me/her auctioned won slave for the night, at the old Backdrop in Berkeley........a few weeks after that i discovered a wonderful Mistress at the old Chateau......so the beginning was well tended and helped things along quite a bit...

(this is tardy but it might make up for the unfort detour the thread seemed to spiral off to in its middle)

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