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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 6:59:30 AM

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Those to whom it is sanctified to the point where going to buy milk needs to involve some bdsm/D/s principle of behavior.

How dare you suggest that I disguise the true nature of my soul while purchasing milk just to protect the sensitivities of people blinded by unjust and hypocritical notions. I am a dominant. I have purchased the milk. I am the owner of the milk. The milk has entered my dominion and is under my control. Should I choose to announce this at the checkout lane, either verbally or by using a silver paint pen to mark it with my brand, it is the purest expression of my character. The milk is mine. That you lack the power to sanctify your character to this extent is your flaw and I wish you the best in your journey towards enlightenment and feeling the full satisfaction of complete ownership of milk. Perhaps if you tried purchasing a pint, rather than a gallon, you'd find it easier.

Ahem.

On a more serious note, to answer the OP, cultural conservatives. It doesn't surprise me that there are so many of them involved in bdsm, it certainly offers plenty of opportunity to act out some old school notions about gender roles, women as chattel, etc. But at a political action level, it actively pisses me off that someone with a dungeon and "slaves" would be nodding along as Rush Limbaugh sneers about how there is no "right to privacy" in the constitution. People who claim this "lifestyle" as a privilege for themselves but would not extend the respect for autonomy to their fellow citizens. Those people piss me off. Which is part of the reason I rarely venture to the politics forum here.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 7:01:44 AM

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that was brilliant! All of it! Thank you!

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 7:27:09 AM

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There is only one thing for me, those that denigrate the kinks of others. That truly irritates me and makes me want to smack them.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 7:29:48 AM

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justifying every thing as kink, is a turn off for me

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 7:33:37 AM

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that was brilliant! All of it! Thank you!

I missed it. I was at the store buying a....aah nevermind.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 7:33:46 AM

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People who abuse and call it BDSM.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:03:30 AM

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People who use the word "twue" to mock the prestensions of others.

Please don't get me wrong. It is NOT the mocking of the pretensious that I am against (I'm all for it, in fact), just the use of the word "twue."

Every time I see it I get this image in my mind of Elmer Fudd decked out in a leather vest and ass-less chaps - and it is just wrong.

"Heh, heh, heh, heh. I'm a twue dominant and I'm going to ass wape you, you silly wabbit."

Lucienne said:

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How dare you suggest that I disguise the true nature of my soul while purchasing milk just to protect the sensitivities of people blinded by unjust and hypocritical notions. I am a dominant. I have purchased the milk. I am the owner of the milk. The milk has entered my dominion and is under my control. Should I choose to announce this at the checkout lane, either verbally or by using a silver paint pen to mark it with my brand, it is the purest expression of my character. The milk is mine. That you lack the power to sanctify your character to this extent is your flaw and I wish you the best in your journey towards enlightenment and feeling the full satisfaction of complete ownership of milk. Perhaps if you tried purchasing a pint, rather than a gallon, you'd find it easier.

This reminds me of the classic "Houseplants of Gor" parody. I can just see it now:

Dominant: "You will be poured."

Milk: "How dare you! I am not to be poured! You will not pour me!"

Dominant (grabbing a glass): "you will be poured."

On a more serious note:

You can count me in the ranks of those who don't like the pretensious, the abusers who masquerade as BDSMers, etc,etc.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:17:24 AM

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This reminds me of the classic "Houseplants of Gor" parody. I can just see it now:

The very notion of "Houseplants of Gor" has me sufficiently giggly that I'm afraid to click on the link lest I be disappointed.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:19:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

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ORIGINAL: Marc2b

This reminds me of the classic "Houseplants of Gor" parody. I can just see it now:

The very notion of "Houseplants of Gor" has me sufficiently giggly that I'm afraid to click on the link lest I be disappointed.

Click on it; it is hilarious.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:25:07 AM

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Is there anything that you cannot stand in regards to it as far as play, people or anything else?

I wouldn't say turns me off......but there a couple of things that aren't really my cup of tea as follows......

a) The competitive aspect.
b) The clique aspect.

I'm only ever in competition with myself. I set my own standards and measure myself accordingly so the less attractive aspects of group behaviour really aren't for me. But then the same applies to every day life; it's not particularly exclusive to 'bdsm'.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:25:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

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ORIGINAL: Marc2b

This reminds me of the classic "Houseplants of Gor" parody. I can just see it now:

The very notion of "Houseplants of Gor" has me sufficiently giggly that I'm afraid to click on the link lest I be disappointed.

And here I thought my milk example was too damn silly to be parodied. Those damn Goreans had it already covered. Will all inanimate objects fall to their evil control? Are any of us safe?

Heading for the bunker.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:30:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: winterlight

Is there anything that you cannot stand in regards to it as far as play, people or anything else?

The biggest turn off for me is anything that would make this seem as if it's a skit or an act in a play. I am instantly turned off by anyone wanting me to call them Master So And So. It has always seemed fake to me.

Edited to add...public play is a huge turn off too. I have no desire to participate in that and the public play I've seen has always had the vibe of being a performance and that all feelings shown are for the response of those watching.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:32:36 AM

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Ah . . . and their counter parts who use BDSM to become perpetual victims.

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People who abuse and call it BDSM.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:38:18 AM

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Edited to add...public play is a huge turn off too. I have no desire to participate in that and the public play I've seen has always had the vibe of being a performance and that all feelings shown are for the response of those watching.

Whether or not it's a circus I wouldn't know.....but it's not for me either. There's a time and a place for these sort of things and I like my private life kept private. Plus I'd be laughing me cock off if I turned round and some sweaty bloke was wandering round with his cock in his hand.......I mean....where's the dignity?

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:42:04 AM

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In all my public play and viewing I have never seen anyone with their "cock in their hand".
You really shouldnt judge that which you dont know. Public spaces are very good for meeting like minded people AND for learning about the right way to do things to keep a sub safe. Every club has monthly workshops. Yes, Its different from private play but still it serves a very good purpose that should not be looked down on without even a "look see".

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:44:59 AM

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I've been to two clubs and both times I've seen cocks in hand. And they weren't pretty cocks either. Shudder.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:48:00 AM

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In all my public play and viewing I have never seen anyone with their "cock in their hand".
You really shouldnt judge that which you dont know. Public spaces are very good for meeting like minded people AND for learning about the right way to do things to keep a sub safe. Every club has monthly workshops. Yes, Its different from private play but still it serves a very good purpose that should not be looked down on without even a "look see".

It was a joke. All that I know is from what I've heard from other people.....and quite frankly it's none of my business what goes on - nor do I care. Good luck to anyone is what I say..whatever you do!

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 8:48:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

In all my public play and viewing I have never seen anyone with their "cock in their hand".
You really shouldnt judge that which you dont know. Public spaces are very good for meeting like minded people AND for learning about the right way to do things to keep a sub safe. Every club has monthly workshops. Yes, Its different from private play but still it serves a very good purpose that should not be looked down on without even a "look see".

Hi Lushy, maybe it's because it's NYC but all the times I have been to public clubs, there were huge amounts of men who were showing their cocks to anyone and everyone. It was mostly submissive men (no offense to any submissive men at all here). So it does happen and I have also seen some great workshops.

But I agree that the lack of intimacy, for me, is what prevented me from public play and why I am not into it.

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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 9:06:08 AM

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all the above.
Also, I find it irritating to read the ones that are very new to a relationship and think they know it all. Or propose questions that make it seem like everyone else who does it another way are wrong. Don't get me wrong. I think new relationships are great. I just hate the crowing.
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RE: What turns you off about bdsm? - 1/31/2010 9:10:52 AM

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In all my public play and viewing I have never seen anyone with their "cock in their hand".
You really shouldnt judge that which you dont know. Public spaces are very good for meeting like minded people AND for learning about the right way to do things to keep a sub safe. Every club has monthly workshops. Yes, Its different from private play but still it serves a very good purpose that should not be looked down on without even a "look see".

Hi Lushy, maybe it's because it's NYC but all the times I have been to public clubs, there were huge amounts of men who were showing their cocks to anyone and everyone. It was mostly submissive men (no offense to any submissive men at all here). So it does happen and I have also seen some great workshops.

But I agree that the lack of intimacy, for me, is what prevented me from public play and why I am not into it.

Really I have never had that happen in a club in chicago. And in chicago penetration is allowed so I have scene some fuckin and CBT and even someone who was painted and then rode like a horsey. But never have I seen someone's cock in their own hand.

Public Play may lack intimacy. But I view it as a different animal. Its social and its learning. That to me is important. Especially knowing someone I play with has been to the many workshops. Plus the fact that playing with someone new is much safer with people around looking after you.

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