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ORIGINAL: Kana
Hater my ass. I was actually nice, considering the content. I gave you the benefit of the doubt, assuming your intentions were good and you didn't know better. ...

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...Hater...sure...but I'm an equal opportunity hater. I abhor idiocy and paternalism equally, regardless of race, class, age, creed. Worse,what really terrifies me isn't idiocy, but the blind assumption that people, read the teeming illiterate masses, are so blinded by stupidity that they need others to do their thinking and moral decreeing for them. The folks who think like that scare piss outta me.

Since it's obviously a handing out advice sort of day, here's some: When you post anything regarding true domination on a forum board here, prepare to get roasted. There are few better forum lighting rods than the infamous "One Twue Dom." ...

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ORIGINAL: stella41b

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The last and most dangerous type of enemy is the rapist or predator. These are the men most likely to damage or even end your life. The truly frightening thing about these evil men it that there is NO easy way to spot them. Rapists can be anything from bums to bank mangers, and anyone from family members to total strangers. One in four women has suffered an attack from this vile creature, and one in seven men as well! Their motive is violence.The best defense is never make yourself too vulnerable.

Stating the obvious is one thing, but I was truly surprised to learn the bit I bolded. I had always assumed that the motive of a rapist was sexual gratification. But hell, what do I know?

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Not to derail:

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Test #9: "I'm a [bank president, captain of industry, combat photographer, self-made millionaire... yadda yadda yadda.]" Wouldn't it be nice to meet a rich Dom too? Sure it would! But use some common sense. How many captains of industry have hours to spend in an AOL chat room? Also, think about this personality profile; If this super successful, always-in-control person is really into BDSM, he's likely a submissive! Worse yet, it could very likely mean he is a control freak. I have met a lot of submissives that fit this ambitious profile, but not one Dom yet!

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ORIGINAL: ishyB

Dejesus...
Thank God this test came along, because now, after a year and a half of being owned, I finally found out that my Master is a total fake and fails the acid test miserable on nearly all counts.
Thank you so much for opening my eyes.

Test #1: Fail
Yep, he sometimes made me feel uncomfortable and doubtful about packing up my stuff and moving to a different continent to be with him because he can be so hard and demanding and I didn't know if I could live up to his expectations...
Come to think of it... I still feel that way very often...

Test #2: Fail
Well, at least he didn't demand I'd call him 'Sir' the first time we talked... he preferred 'Master' instead...

Test #3: Fail
While he didn't allow me his collar until her felt HE was ready/willing to place it around my neck, he did demand absolute obedience from me long before the first time we met offline, and expected me to defer to him completely every minute I spend with him, even before I had his collar, both online and offline.

Test #4: Fail
Well, that was not his opening line to me... but I have to admit that he's used it several times after we started talking already... *swoons*

Test #5: Fail
While he doesn't tell me I can't ask questions he does reserve the right to choose whether he answers them or not. Depending on what sort of question it is, I usually know beforehand if I will get an answer or not. Questioning his motives or reasons usually doesn't work. And a line of questions that tries to get a promise or a commitment out of him (can we watch a movie tonight?) never gets met with ANYTHING but a "perhaps".

Test #6: Fail
While it's not "my way or the highway" it is "my way or I'll make you do it my way". Leaving when I don't want to obey isn't really an option I have, though I don't think he would forcefully and illegally try to stop me if I was determine to withdrawal consent and make it to the door. Problem is that I've consented to a non-consent situation and as such, I don't see "the highway" happening any time soon.

Test #7: Pass
Puh, the first pass.
He didn't collar me before we met offline. But after he collared me he expected that collar to have meaning everywhere, in all situations, both on and offline.

Test #8: Fail
If I asked him if he ever made a mistake during a scene, he'd tell me "no" simple because he doesn't not scene/play.
Now if I asked him if he ever made a mistake, I'm sure he'd tell me "yes" he's never had trouble owning up to his mistakes.

Test #9: Fail
Owns his own business. Nuf said.

Test #10: Pass
He hasn't been around since he was 18, nor does he claim to be.
On the other hand... I myself HAVE been around since before I was 18... and started working in BDSM clubs weeks after becoming of age... so... does that make me a fake?

Test #11: Pass
He's well known by several people, both on and offline.

Test #12: Fail
He's married, and it took me months of talking to him before he first let me speak to his wife. Even after that initial contact, we only spoke very sporadically until I moved in with them.

Test #13: Fail
Yeah, no safewords... That falls back to that "my way or I'll make you do it my way thing" and the consensual non-consent situation.

Test #14: Fail
See #13

Test #15: Pass
He's married, but his wife does know about me.

Test #16:
I learned to not take "Acid tests" seriously...

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ir means gentleman and I use “sir” to address my waiter, barber, butcher, fellow Dominants etc. If a submissive doesn’t have the manners to address me with the same respect I address others, she can -just fuck off. The world is full of polite people who don’t feel their first impression on others should be rude until they judge whether someone has earned the right to be treated politely. That is the control freak, not the people who refuse to interact with “the free range rude*”.
*quoted Hannibal Lector

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And if a man had a problem with that, well he could fuck off too.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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And if a man had a problem with that, well he could fuck off too.

It sure seems like your a warm person.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Obviously you have little problem taking a Bull by it's horn and judging it for what it is.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ir means gentleman and I use “sir” to address my waiter, barber, butcher, fellow Dominants etc. If a submissive doesn’t have the manners to address me with the same respect I address others, she can -just fuck off. The world is full of polite people who don’t feel their first impression on others should be rude until they judge whether someone has earned the right to be treated politely. That is the control freak, not the people who refuse to interact with “the free range rude*”.
*quoted Hannibal Lector

To be fair, I rarely address someone as "sir" or "ma'am" unless they are service providers... I do not see this as a politeness at all in this society.. in fact it is rather a way of denoting that someone is to be kept at arms length.. as a result I rarely call someone by that term, especially a dominant that I maybe into...In fact as time goes by I try to pull people into my orbit by being warm and approachable and kind...

And if a man had a problem with that, well he could fuck off too...especially since I am one of the most polite, kind, and genuinely appreciative person one is likely to meet.

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ORIGINAL: everythingzen

This may have already been posted, but I think it is a very valuable read for submissives looking for a dominant partner: http://askdollie.com/acid_test.htm

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Controls Freaks can be spotted because they often talk about "taking care of you" and also "knowing what's best for you." They almost always try to play on your emotions; especially guilt. They also usually criticize and even resent the advice you get from other people. They often talk about 24/7 BDSM relationships without going into any details about what kind of actual scenes they play. They are fond of telling you that they prefer the "mental aspect" of Domination and submission. They tend to be both demanding and argumentative. Nothing you do will ever be quite right. ...<snip>...Once they have their hooks into you, it's very hard to get untangled.