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Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:28:10 PM   
SternFather


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Status: offline 		Ok Ladies, you are my target audience for this but anyone please feel free to jump in.

I know someone who wants a partner to take balroom dancing lessons. And since I'm not ready to go looking for a new submissive partner just yet, I was toying with the idea to give myself something to do until I have someone to do.

Do you think a guy that can dance is sexy? Or is it just so lame you want to dig your eys out with a spoon?

I know this may not seem like an on topic post but when I think about it it fits. The male lead is very dominant and controls the pair while the female is very submissive and on display. I kind of like it, but I also kind of whince at it. I think because I remember dancing in grade school and that blew.

But I'm not doing anything on most Tuesdays that I can't do afterwards anyway so I think I'm going to give it a shot.

So I want to get a general concensus. Sexy or lame?
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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:36:57 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I don't find it sexy or lame..just not an interest of mine.

If it interests you then do it. If it doesn't then don't do it but don't do something just because you think women will find you sexy.

I'd rather  a man do something because he enjoys it. That's what makes anything sexy imo.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:41:11 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I love to dance and a guy who can dance is sexy to me.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:46:04 PM   
DaddysGirl160


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Status: offline 		may i ask where You will be taking those lessons?? *grins*

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:48:34 PM   
Caissa


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Status: offline 		Personally, I don't think it's the dancing itself that is either sexy or lame.  It can be either, depending on the attitude of the man.  If the focus of doing it is the enjoyment of the act, then its sexy as hell.  If it the beauty of the dance gets lost in doing it "right",  then it's lame. 

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:48:41 PM   
ShoreBound149


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Status: offline 		Dancing = hard limit for both of us.

I dance like I'm trying to put out a brush fire wearing snow shoes...

She dances like she has cerebral palsy....on ice.....





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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:49:40 PM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: DaddysGirl160

may i ask where You will be taking those lessons?? *grins*


I already know how to dance, but most of the men I know don't like to. Although younger men do, so that is a bonus with them.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:52:48 PM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		Dancing is sexy. Ballroom dancing is sexy in a masculine yet still cultured sort of way. Way cool.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:53:42 PM   
UniqueRaven


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Status: offline 		While i am unable to categorize whether ballroom dancing by a man is "sexy or lame," i will say that serving an Owner who not only knows how but enjoys dancing at appropriate occasions (i.e. wedding, on a cruise, etc.) is just a nice little "something extra" to share with him. It does need to be something *he* wants to do (like anything for me with him).

But then i'm a hopeless romantic.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:54:27 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I so agree...when you watch hot men in tuxedos waltz across the floor holding a woman and perfectly in sync, it is romantic and hot at once.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:55:15 PM   
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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:58:29 PM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		hot definitely, I think something like salsa is a bit sexier, but ANY dancing is a plus in my boat, can't stand to show up at an event with a guy who can't show me off on the dance floor...

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 7:58:32 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		We've been to a couple of parties that had ballroom dancing. It is awesome to be led around the floor by a man who knows how to lead wearing a power suit.

Unfortunately this is a small town so there is no place for us to go do this. If there were, I would have done my best to talk him into it.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 8:01:17 PM   
ShhhImNotHere


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Status: offline 		I can & DO dance and have always found that partners who could and DID dance were eXXXtremely seXXXy.
It's just another way to lead *swoons*

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 8:09:35 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShoreBound149

Dancing = hard limit for both of us.

I dance like I'm trying to put out a brush fire wearing snow shoes...

She dances like she has cerebral palsy....on ice.....






Imagine if we had to dance AND karaoke at the same time.



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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 8:11:19 PM   
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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 8:11:54 PM   
igor2003


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Status: offline 		Okay, I'm going to jump in here with a couple of cents worth my own thoughts even though I'm not female.

I used to hate dancing. I felt uncoordinated. Two left feet and no sense of time. Then one day an ex girlfriend talked me into going to a Fred Astair's dance party with her since she had started taking lessons. I said I would go watch, but that was all. Well, the female dance instructors were very good looking and quite persuasive and finally got me on the floor for some very basic steps. I found out that it was actually quite easy...at least the "beginner" steps...and I found myself really enjoying it. So much so that I signed up for the cheap "introductory" lessons. There were only a few of those and when they were coming to an end I was kind of sad because the Fred Astair lessons are not cheap and I couldn't afford their regular bronze level lessons. However, at the last dance party I could go to they had a drawing and I won $500 in dance lessons! If I remember right that was only 4 lessons and 3 dance parties, but it was better than nothing!

By the time those lessons ran out a new place had opened up that offered group lessons which were considerably cheaper, so off and on for the next 10 years I took lessons, not only in ballrom, but country, swing, and Latin as well.

It isn't really about "sexy", especially if you are strictly a social dancer and don't really care who your partner is on any particular dance. But some dances like the Rumba and Tango can be VERY romantic and intense when you are with the right partner.

If nothing else it is great socially and is good exercise.

Leading can be looked as dominant, however I normally enjoy a more submissive role in my personal life, but I still lead when I dance (and have been complimented on my strong decisive lead many times). The reason a man usually leads is not really dominance, but simply because the man is normally taller and can see where he is leading to so that they don't run off the floor or into other dancers. I HAVE known couples, though, where the woman did do the leading, and it was often a disaster when dancing near them since I had to watch out not only for "us" but for them as well.

I would say to at least give it a try. Maybe it's for you. Maybe it isn't.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 8:13:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can't dance, I end up stepping on toes left and right and apologizing the whole time. 

I think it's very appealing, but I'm not sure I could keep up!



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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 8:30:09 PM   
igor2003


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ORIGINAL: KneelforAnne

I can't dance, I end up stepping on toes left and right and apologizing the whole time. 

I think it's very appealing, but I'm not sure I could keep up!





Stepping on toes is a minor problem, easily fixed. If that is all that is stopping you then take a few lessons (not the free lessons at a bar, but from certified instructors) and give it a try.

P.S. When facing your partner don't stand directly in front of him....you should be centered on their right shoulder. This is what offsets your feet from theirs so that you step past your partners feet instead of on them.

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RE: Ballroom dancing. Sexy or Lame? - 2/7/2010 8:30:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oooh super hot. I think it is great if a man can dance. So much fun! Love it.

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