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RE: When Milking Your Sub.... - 2/13/2010 1:05:27 PM

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OK, OK, that's enough - I've only just finished cleaning my screen from yesterday.

Then this topic is sort of a method of milking then, eh P?

Ouch. True. I never thought of that one.

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RE: When Milking Your Sub.... - 2/14/2010 8:03:16 AM

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I can see how this could work well. I'm still trying to wrap my head around this...
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Actually, so am I. I've just realised that my example - of my 'one favourite act' does, pretty much, seem to prove that I want to pretend. Doh!

I'll try again. It's like this: I need, most of all, to know that she's enjoying dominating - whatever thing she's doing, or whatever she gets me to do. It's all about her motive. I need to be able to look at her face (or hear it in her voice, her moans, her breathing; or feel it in her muscles) that's she's getting off on dominating me. Whatever my feelings are, are secondary. That's the whole point.

Pfft. Maybe it's my inexperience speaking. Too many vanilla GFs in the past who've pretended, then, at the end, saying nervously, 'Did you enjoy that?' - then, my suddenly feeling quite depressed and thinking, 'Yes, I did enjoy it - till you asked that question'. I can't have anybody dominating me just as a 'favour' to me, either.

What's wrong with her wanting to know if you enjoyed something? If a sub doesn't enjoy your activities how long is he going to stick around? Isn't that the reason for those little BDSM activity boxes? To see if theTWO of you like the same things?

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RE: When Milking Your Sub.... - 2/14/2010 8:31:10 AM

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At first I thought that too, LO, then I read it again and he did say "nervously asking".

There is a big difference in saying, "Tell me how you feel and what you thought", vs. "Honey, was that ok? Would you maybe like to do it again?"

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RE: When Milking Your Sub.... - 2/14/2010 7:15:09 PM

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What's wrong with her wanting to know if you enjoyed something? If a sub doesn't enjoy your activities how long is he going to stick around? Isn't that the reason for those little BDSM activity boxes? To see if theTWO of you like the same things?

There's one little activity that I've always liked, and I can't imagine that I'd ever stop liking it. She'd soon find out what it is. It's transcended, though, with a dominant as opposed to a vanilla. It wouldn't matter any more because it was only ever symbolic of domination anyway. (Who needs a symbol of a thing when you've got the thing itself? That's how it feels to me.)

The rest of it's an open book. I have some experience to go on, but not much. I want to be surprised, even shocked; perhaps cut, bruised, grazed, bitten and exhausted. Or none of those things, so long as . . . most of all, by far: used, and seeing and feeling the heat of her using me, whether quietly and intensely, or like a carnivore spitting and growling with hunger.

I want it to be unfair. I get off on unfairness. So, all the above (for me, ideally) would follow a day (week, month, whatever) of day-to-day unfairness. (It's not fair that one person should be the unpaid servant of another, for instance. Or for her to treat him as an inferior, for her to control aspects of his life.)

The things that I don't want are those that are a) really smelly and b) would put me in hospital.

Right, er . . . Yup, I think that about covers it. Ahem.

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