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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/29/2006 1:49:39 AM   
TexasMaam


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ORIGINAL: SoulfulSadism

Carde - well written, well expressed. And you kept your poise and politeness all through. Good writing.



out for a kinky fuck
 
Being a bitch doesn't make you a Domme
 
but ... if your husband left you because you had decided to stop trying to look good for him (and I do not mean extra weight, more like dressing up, and at least showering), you didn't like to go out, or get involved in things, sex became mundane etc., then why in hell's name should someone else pick up where that left off?
 
say "I'm a couch potato, horny and want to learn more about being a Domme"

Well written?
Well expressed?
Good writing?
Poised?
Polite?

Bah.

Texas Maam

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/29/2006 2:02:14 AM   
SoulfulSadism


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Status: offline 		I wrote what I felt.

You wrote what you felt - and your feelings happen to have attained the heights of a real, deeply felt and focussed 'Bah'. Fair enough. You felt what you wrote !

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/29/2006 2:04:48 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		<reads SoulfulSadism's post and busts out laffing....

TM

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/29/2006 4:44:54 AM   
carde


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Status: offline 		Hi again E(e)veryone,
I am glad that I posted this originally. I know that it was out of frustration, and was well aware of what I was going to say would raise a few eyebrows to say the least. I would just like to make a couple of comments, and then I think that I am going stop my participation in this even though I had started it. I will still watch it for that reason and I believe it is my responsibility, but I am not going to get into a pissing (there's that word again) match with anyone. I will reply however if anyone asks.

1) With this post all I was looking for was to voice my experience and express my feelings for how it is. None of this was a shock to me as I have not only been on collarme.com for more than a year, but also a couple of other sites advertising locally. I had just had enough that morning with an email from a Domme (who was contacting me initially) that said nothing more than "where in the triangle are you?". Not a hello, not a f**k off, not anything. I just ignored it of course, however in looking at the ads later on, the very first one was in a HUGE font, coloured red and was nothing more than saying all you subs are just terrible because you don't do what I want, don't say what I want ,and don't accept me for what I am. The next couple of ads were basically the same without the HUGE fonts. I didn't however just pen off a temper tantrum post for my first post that was all spelling mistakes and anger. I thought about it for a while then came back online to try and express myself.

2) I didn't take swipes personally at anyone because I don't believe in it, especially in a public situation. It is humorous, and kind of sad that a few people raised a great cry out of what I said when it was obvious that they did not even read the whole post. They seemed just to need something to shout about, and that's ok, but this whole take a swipe at someone then go "block" so that they cannot see the reply (if there is one that is) just proves what I was complaining about. With these people, if I burned a bridge to them, it was a bridge on a road that I would never take. Chance are it is booby (not the fun kind) trapped.

3) Whereas I did not think past posting my comments, I happily found some very nice people here (a few actually in NC as well) that posted their thoughts whether in agreement or not. For this I am glad and will participate in the messages boards as I now have had confirmation of good people. As for those who blocked me ... well, who cares

Lastly, there are some people who posted that actually read my post all the way through and got what I was at least trying to say and were supportive of the spirit of it at least. You people .. I thank you all, you are want forums are all about. We don;t always have to agree, but respect for each other and their opinions is what the D/s community wants from the vanilla world. It is good to see it within.

This has been fun, I think I will stick around.
carde

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/29/2006 8:16:07 AM   
talltxsub


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Status: offline 		TexasMaam....

You have perhaps hit it on the head.  There are male jerks online (in abundance, it seems), but there are also women who seem to have simply gotten lazy and have apparently decided that the way to get some good sex without having to do anything is to act like a bitch and call themselves "Dommes".

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/29/2006 9:20:18 AM   
michaelGA


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well, he "did" manage to get people to respond...for good or ill...in the long run...who really does have the intelligence here?

just curoius.

Michael...did that count as a response? Just curious <grin>




Nahhhhh...that was a mental observation (A.K.A.- brain fart) LOL


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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/29/2006 9:53:45 AM   
GoddessDustyGold


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ORIGINAL: talltxsub

TexasMaam....

You have perhaps hit it on the head.  There are male jerks online (in abundance, it seems), but there are also women who seem to have simply gotten lazy and have apparently decided that the way to get some good sex without having to do anything is to act like a bitch and call themselves "Dommes".


I absolutely agree...and My respect for carde has grown considerably throughout this thead, albeit some poor choices in his wording.  It wasn't a hit and run thread, and it has engendered some very good discussion.
carde, I will say this.  Being at, and participating in, the message boards, I believe, will expose you to Ladies who are not the "bitch machines" you are hearing from. 
I, for one, will not even begin a correspondence with a boy, with the rare exception of one I am familiar with from these boards, or the occasional name on My Admirer's list who has a profile that actually might impress.  I have probably initiated less than 8 correspondences with submisive or slave boys in over 2 years.
So the main thing that bothered Me was your assumption that the boards are for venting frustrations, and that you had not had anything to say prior to this personal upset.
I am glad you are going to stick around, read and participate.  Hopefully you will see that we are not all bitches with a capital "B", and that, although we do have our standards and expectations, we are also warm, loving human beings of the female pursuasion.
 

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 3/29/2006 9:55:03 AM >

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/30/2006 5:01:01 AM   
carde


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Status: offline 		Thanks guys, and thank You GoddessDustyGold Ma'am

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 3/30/2006 6:33:47 AM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		So happy you were able to find us worthy.

Oh... and I did read your original post all the way.  and your subsequent posts.  My original opinion hasn't changed at all, although I admire your constant justifications for acting like an ass.


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ORIGINAL: carde
For this I am glad and will participate in the messages boards as I now have had confirmation of good people.


< Message edited by LadyMorgynn -- 3/30/2006 6:36:47 AM >

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 4/1/2006 11:43:47 AM   
LostLenore


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Status: offline 		>>>>>>Since being on here, I have been contacted by numerous Dommes with one line, quetions, demands, looking for photos etc. without even a short introduction. I have contacted Dommes whose criteria I meet, with well thought out and polite emails to not even get a "not interested" or even a "fuck off". But these same people whine that they cannot find anyone, or are not happy with some of the emails that they get. Or say "I am interested I want to go further" but never actually get back to you saying that they are "swamped with something or other" yet still manage to get online 5 times a day to check their collection of emails.<<<<<
 
As I was reading through the replies, this paragraph from the original post kept echoing in my conscience.  I don't make a habit of initiating contact with subs, but I have at times been guilty of writing terse replies such as "Got a pic?" to even the most florid of inquiries.  Despite the Goddess complex that I share with many Dommes, I don't feel obligated to "answer every prayer" the way God is said to do.  Sometimes I don't respond to a message, usually because the sub lives too far away, doesn't turn me on or seems like a jackass.  I figure my being "not interested" is conveyed by silence, and while it may not earn me an award from Emily Post, beats the "fuck off" option.  So if anyone I've "blown off" is reading this, I apologize for any lack of courtesy I've displayed.  Time and patience run short in today's world, but I'm not deluded that being dominant gives license to being rude.

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 4/1/2006 12:29:46 PM   
DigitBox


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Status: offline 		Well yes honesty is always the best policy.  Being polite unless someone gives one a reason to be abrupt.  It's all what one would hope people would be.



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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 4/2/2006 5:22:06 AM   
carde


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Status: offline 		Mistress LostLenore,
What a wonderful and honest reply, thank You.

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 4/2/2006 6:16:54 AM   
Badkitty0810


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Status: offline 		Carde, I'm a submissive female and I applaud your initial post.  While it probably wasn't the best way to make your arrival on the boards, I support it (for what it's worth).  We've all, whether we be Dom(me) or sub, have had to deal with this type of thing at one time or another. For those of you who find it necessary to launch a personal attack against this sub for expressing his frustration when he clarified over and over what he was expressing, then perhaps you're just a little ticked off that his words hit too close to home. Good luck to you Carde. I hope you find the one you seek. 

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 4/2/2006 9:24:08 AM   
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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 4/2/2006 5:34:50 PM   
MasterUnknown


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Status: offline 		well I think that I am about to make an enemy here but thats all right as I am not out to win everyone's respect.  But I do actully think that he has a valid point and like some one else said in this thread then again it migh thave been him.  I do not recive a lot of emails but a few of the ones I have gotten are one liners  asking me where I am in the state.  No hello or anything else. 

So you don't like some one expressing his or her opions in what I thought was a well thought out post.  thats fine I am sure he did not post it to gain yout approval.  and I am sure he is not going to lose any sleep over it.

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 4/5/2006 12:47:41 PM   
carde


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Status: offline 		Thank You Sir,
i appreciate the kind words.

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RE: I will probably be shouted down ... - 4/5/2006 4:10:37 PM   
OneX2


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Status: offline 		It is well written, but you have to be able to step back. I agree with you and it is always great to encourage people to a better place.

TexasMaam I Think of it as these people are not replying to you. They are replying to the image of you that they have in their own mind. That is two different things. It can be hard to be the new guy, but stick it out. I invite you to look around and try different posts if you haven't already. There are a lot of great people here as well.

Joseph

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