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eroticone4u -> who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 10:28:52 AM)
i'm new to this lifesyle and wanting to become a great DOM to either a sub or slave. i would like to know what each of those look for in a DOM? would any female care to help me out with this?

AquaticSub -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 10:39:15 AM)
A man who loves me, listens to me, values me, holds me, leads me, knows he isn't always right, knows he has me for a reason and - in the end - it's not my boobies so he should give value to what I think... And, of course, lets me have as many shoes as I want. [:D]

peppermint -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 10:44:30 AM)
He's got to have a super sense of humor.

juliaoceania -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 10:46:12 AM)
I think that most of us would want different attributes in a dominant man... but here are a few things that I think would serve you well when seeking... 1) honesty 2) honoring boundaries 3) having a caring attitude when it is needed There are more, but most of it is just what a particular submissive wants, and not applicable to the majority...

elleX -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 10:50:45 AM)
..self-confidence ,,,, no issues with a super-ego,,,,good insight capacity,,,and sensitivity to others ,,, especially to submissive women ,,, and leading capacity,,, are a must to be a good dominant for me elleX

Jeffff -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 10:54:02 AM)
Jeffff

juliaoceania -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 10:58:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Jeffff But what is it about you that makes a "great" dominantlordlyonemasteroftheuniverseandallkinkdom? I mean what pearls of wisdom will you offer so that others may understand your greatness?

Madame4a -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 10:58:26 AM)
I was thinking ... in answer to "who" ... ME! and perhaps to what makes a good one.. .a big dick of course [;)]

osf -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:00:27 AM)
haven't a clue, i just know what works for me and the type of woman i want being a dominant is too individualistic for me to give you an answer for you

Jeffff -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:14:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Jeffff But what is it about you that makes a "great" dominantlordlyonemasteroftheuniverseandallkinkdom? I mean what pearls of wisdom will you offer so that others may understand your greatness? I am smart. I am funny, I am warm. I am kind, I am a sadist. I would have her back, I would also have her front...:). I can be trusted... mostly...:) I am not a dumbass................YAY!!!!!! Jeff

lucylucy -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:17:34 AM)
I want to be able to trust him to make decisions for both of us. For me to trust someone to have my best interest in mind, he has to actually have my best interest in mind. His perspective of what is in my best interest will involve how I can best serve him. I also want someone who is articulate. I'm terrible at guessing games and if I'm going to please him, he needs to be able to articulate to me how to do that, at least at first while I'm getting to know him and his quirks.

osf -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:22:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy I want to be able to trust him to make decisions for both of us. For me to trust someone to have my best interest in mind, he has to actually have my best interest in mind. His perspective of what is in my best interest will involve how I can best serve him. I also want someone who is articulate. I'm terrible at guessing games and if I'm going to please him, he needs to be able to articulate to me how to do that, at least at first while I'm getting to know him and his quirks. that can be said for a great nilla guy too

juliaoceania -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:25:09 AM)
quote: I would have her back, I would also have her front...:). This is the most important thing for me as a sub... a man that has my front and my back... yay

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:25:59 AM)
posted using fast reply if I was looking for a play partner, then someone who'd like to hurt me... if I was looking for a relationship, then I'd want someone who enjoys nearly equal oposite kinks as me. (as in I am sub, he'd be dom.. I like to be hurt, he'd like to hurt me). But, that I'd have in my life even if our kinks didn't match, becouse I couldn't see them as not a part of my life. He's also have to feel the same about me. *edited for clarity.

juliaoceania -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:26:45 AM)
quote: that can be said for a great nilla guy too You know what, most of the things that make a good person also make a good dom... who knew?

lucylucy -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:30:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy I want to be able to trust him to make decisions for both of us. For me to trust someone to have my best interest in mind, he has to actually have my best interest in mind. His perspective of what is in my best interest will involve how I can best serve him. I also want someone who is articulate. I'm terrible at guessing games and if I'm going to please him, he needs to be able to articulate to me how to do that, at least at first while I'm getting to know him and his quirks. that can be said for a great nilla guy too In vanilla relationships, I never trusted my partner to have my best interest in mind. :) But even if I had, the stakes are a lot higher when I'm tied up and can't do anything for myself.

osf -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:34:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy I want to be able to trust him to make decisions for both of us. For me to trust someone to have my best interest in mind, he has to actually have my best interest in mind. His perspective of what is in my best interest will involve how I can best serve him. I also want someone who is articulate. I'm terrible at guessing games and if I'm going to please him, he needs to be able to articulate to me how to do that, at least at first while I'm getting to know him and his quirks. that can be said for a great nilla guy too In vanilla relationships, I never trusted my partner to have my best interest in mind. :) But even if I had, the stakes are a lot higher when I'm tied up and can't do anything for myself. i think they define best interests differently

lucylucy -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:42:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy I want to be able to trust him to make decisions for both of us. For me to trust someone to have my best interest in mind, he has to actually have my best interest in mind. His perspective of what is in my best interest will involve how I can best serve him. I also want someone who is articulate. I'm terrible at guessing games and if I'm going to please him, he needs to be able to articulate to me how to do that, at least at first while I'm getting to know him and his quirks. that can be said for a great nilla guy too In vanilla relationships, I never trusted my partner to have my best interest in mind. :) But even if I had, the stakes are a lot higher when I'm tied up and can't do anything for myself. i think they define best interests differently Yes, which is another reason that the stakes are even higher in a D/s relationship.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:50:59 AM)
Who makes a great dom? I can't ever be absolutely sure but my guess is.... Jeff (cuz he's my fav) Merc LadyHabiscus LadyPact LaT KnightofMists I'd say RS but he'd smack me for calling him a dom RS (for the smacks) Ron Domiguy DominateUrDreamz (sic?) Ebonywood DarkSteven Especially MOD16!

sexyred1 -> RE: who makes a great DOM (2/11/2010 11:55:10 AM)
I am on pain meds right now so let's see what I can contribute... No particular order: 1. Very smart 2. Likes smart women 3. Passionate 4. Funny 5. able to communicate, verbally, written, non verbal 6. Loyal 7. Honest 8. Possessive 10. Trustworthy 11. Patient 12. Social skills 13. does not think spirit means bratty or topping from the bottom 14. wants a total relationship just not casual play 15. Highly sexual 16. Makes me feel safe, sane, crazy in love, lustful, wanting to rip each other's clothes off all the time, can cuddle, can kiss, is creative, kinky as hell, makes me think, adores me, accepts my faults, accepts his faults, understands compromise, has opinions, "gets" me, respects my brain but also loves to turn me into a begging, whimpering, slut. Does that help? Like I said, I am on pain meds right now, so I am well aware the above is a wish list, much like fairies and unicorns.

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