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heartcream -> RE: Just ranting? (2/13/2010 10:47:01 AM)
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ORIGINAL: OriginallyFromLA
See miscommunication is the crux of my problem. The thing is, I am not trying to be underhanded. I'm trying to be honest. I understand that women, all women can pick and choose from a hundred different responses a day and as I guy I am just one in a sea of them.
As far as the scene I described, My point was not the play, but the Trust I was given. She was the one that asked me, because she felt she could trust me. I loved her so I indulged her fantasy. The last thing I would have ever done would be to hurt her and without the context of our relationship as a backdrop you will just have to accept that.
And I am not blaming women for being careful, I'm not blaming women as a group at all. But I do have a target audience of whos opinion I am interested in and it's not other Dom guys, at least on this speciffic topic.
And I am not talking about reasonable relplies saying "you know I just don't feel comfortable talking to you about my personal life". It never gets that far. It's not about me being underhanded and trying to get an in with someone on the subtext that I'll get laid out of the deal, It's the opposite, are they interested in me as a sexual partner, if not talking is not an option.
I think I can honestly say that I won't be in a sexual relationship with anyone here. I'm just trtying to work it all out. I risked everything and "bared my soul" in the topic post and pretty much got flamed which is why I didn't want do this on the public forum in the first place. You guys don't know me, but you assume I'm some kind of player looking for easy targets. You all went right to "he's just whining because he not getting any pussy". I just want to talk to somebody.
I'm just a nice guy having trouble integrating something I have kept hidden all of my life because no-one wanted to see that side of me, until my last relationship. I just want to talk to the type of women I typically date in vanilla circumstances to see if there is any real hope of finding another woman who is seriously interested in the same kinds of things I am. I'm not proposing marriage, I would just like to have an objective conversation, in private, with someone with experience. I'm willing to take time to get to know them as people if they want to. But I'm either too far away or we don't have the same interests on paper or I have to speak in some kind of code, whatever.
Like I said before, as a member of this site, we all have one thing in common. And my question still stands are there any women here merely willing to talk?
JuliaOceana, Did I come of as hitting on you when I sent you a message saying I recognized your nick? I just love that movie and watch it every time it comes on. I haven't hit on anyone I have tried to contact.
I'll take a munch suggestion but those are not daily things and this forum is.
Like I said, I'm just ranting. relating my experience and observations, not blaming anyone as much as I am trying to understand.
I'm gone for the day so don't take my absense as storming off to my room to pout. I'll be interested in reading the replies I get.
But I do have a target audience of whos opinion I am interested in and it's not other Dom guys, at least on this speciffic topic. Why not talk to men about these things. Feck you would not be making me unconscious, I am not interested in that in any way but if I was I would want someone with mad skills to do it and I am not sure not turning to other people who do this is smart. Sure a woman who digs having it done could give you all the pointers you need but I dont understand you seem to not want to engage in discussion with other men and yet plead you only want to learn and share.
I think I can honestly say that I won't be in a sexual relationship with anyone here.I will go with this one line to make a point that permeates throughout your postings that I have seen. You seem to preemptively smack about yourself or others I am not sure who the target is. This bolded sweeping statement has me shaking my head going, wtf is he on about? This is a free world wide sexually based website where anyone from the woman who you already were with on down the line can show up here looking to meet someone they might connect with. Why would you assume you wont be meeting anyone here? I dont get it.
You have this, "I am a good guy" rap going and then the underpinnings that you are a loser, that women are mean and rude to you when you dont deserve it and it doesnt add up. Maybe your self-esteem is low, maybe you havent seen any women you felt you clicked with but the tossing the baby out with the bath water is a red flag for me.
I dont know, you look okay and you say some interesting things but there is a field of red flags flapping around you from what I can see. You say there is some code going on here? I think your subtext is so full of code I have a stomach ache.
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