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ORIGINAL: Johmey

As a Dominant, I know you know what you like best of your slave/sub! Please do share what you like most out of your toy(s) :)
I aim to be a spectacular sub, and while I am very creative with how I pamper and serve, I could still listen to what someone with much more experience has to say and learn accordingly. I am talking about the small stuff too! Creative ideas? Things to consider? Tips? Advice? What makes a great slave????????

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

You know, of course, the answer to these questions are going to be relative to the person/s you choose to involve yourself with...everyone has different wants/expectations.

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ORIGINAL: Johmey

As a Dominant, I know you know what you like best of your slave/sub! Please do share what you like most out of your toy(s) :)
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What makes a great slave????????

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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

You think we're getting through to him? 

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

i have said it many, many times, and probably will say it many more times in my life to come:

"If you want to be Owned, be something worth Owning."

And being something worth Owning does not mean just knowing how to perfectly serve tea, or clean a toilet, or give a foot massage. What it means is that you must first focus on being a good person - your authentic self - with emotional maturity and responsibility for your actions, your physical and mental health, and your interactions with others.

And ultimately, it means taking your own personal responsibility for your submission as a slave and as Owned property to your Dom/me/Owner.

Your submission is your life's journey - no one else's. Yes, the fantasy about being "taken" as a slave is wonderful, and even more wonderful when you get to have that in real life with a wonderful Owner (like mine). But it still is just that - the fantasy. Your Owner facilitates and defines your slavery to him/her, but only you can internalize and be that slave.

The reality of slavery is that it begins inside of you, with your actualization as a slave, and the reality of your existence - which is a journey of your own self-exploration and development. Once you learn how to be aware of, and responsible for, your own mind-space as a slave, then you can focus on things like learning tea. But not the other way around.

i hope this helps.

edited because sometimes i can't type.

julie

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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

1.) Willing obedience.
 
2.) I gave you my best answer in your last thread, in the parting thoughts section of my post here:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057699/mpage_2/key_/tm.htm#3065222


Johmey, being a good submissive or slave is about being a good partner. Just like in a vanilla relationship. Find someone with whom you are compatible in and out of the bedroom, whose needs and desires fit well with yours.

My advice in the thread I linked to above is much more about the big things, than the little things. I could give a shit if you can give a good massage, or if you're a good cook. I'm not saying those might not be big things to another dom, but those are skills that you can learn relatively easily, compared to the things I'm interested in: Are your finances in order? Are you well educated? Are you compassionate? Do you have good control over your thoughts, emotions and actions? How are your communication skills? Are you able to form, and nurture trusting relationships? Are you honorable and trustworthy? How do you handle difficulties and challenges, in your life?
What are your short, mid-range, and long-term goals for your career, your education, your primary relationship, your finances, and your life? What is your plan, for achieving them?

Those are the big things, for me. Fuck the little things. Anyone can learn how to make my tea, in a jiffy. Pay attention to the important things, and don't sweat the small stuff. Work on the things that are important to you, and when you find the domme who fits well with you regarding those, you can turn your attention to how she likes the little things done.

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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

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ORIGINAL: Johmey

As a Dominant, I know you know what you like best of your slave/sub! Please do share what you like most out of your toy(s) :)
<snip>
What makes a great slave????????

1.) Willing obedience.
 
2.) I gave you my best answer in your last thread, in the parting thoughts section of my post here:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057699/mpage_2/key_/tm.htm#3065222


Johmey, being a good submissive or slave is about being a good partner. Just like in a vanilla relationship. Find someone with whom you are compatible in and out of the bedroom, whose needs and desires fit well with yours.

My advice in the thread I linked to above is much more about the big things, than the little things. I could give a shit if you can give a good massage, or if you're a good cook. I'm not saying those might not be big things to another dom, but those are skills that you can learn relatively easily, compared to the things I'm interested in: Are your finances in order? Are you well educated? Are you compassionate? Do you have good control over your thoughts, emotions and actions? How are your communication skills? Are you able to form, and nurture trusting relationships? Are you honorable and trustworthy? How do you handle difficulties and challenges, in your life?
What are your short, mid-range, and long-term goals for your career, your education, your primary relationship, your finances, and your life? What is your plan, for achieving them?

Those are the big things, for me. Fuck the little things. Anyone can learn how to make my tea, in a jiffy. Pay attention to the important things, and don't sweat the small stuff. Work on the things that are important to you, and when you find the domme who fits well with you regarding those, you can turn your attention to how she likes the little things done.