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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 3:39:14 PM   
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And folks say MY threads are weird.............



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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 3:42:10 PM   
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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 4:24:41 PM   
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Oh, well..... that's ok then.



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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 6:30:11 PM   
Andalusite


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Status: offline 		Back when I was looking, I didn't have a major shopping list written in my profile. I'm fairly flexible on the kink front - both since I'm a switch, and openminded about trying new things. I generally assume that almost any toy or technique can be positive or negative, depending on how it is done. However, there were a lot of things that were important to me, that did come up early in dating, such as whether or not we got along with each other's friends, if they like animals, if they were interesting to talk with, how easy-going they are, and so forth. I don't think it's realistic to present most of those things as a checklist, though.

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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 7:36:32 PM   
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Shopping lists . . . yes, I seen some shoppin' lists.


Personally, I do like Chopin and Liszt (that one was for Pyro ;-)

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Oh goodness. So many puns I can Wagner finger at.

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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 7:39:03 PM   
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Shopping lists . . . yes, I seen some shoppin' lists.


Personally, I do like Chopin and Liszt (that one was for Pyro ;-)

- LA



Oh goodness. So many puns I can Wagner finger at.

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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 7:44:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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Shopping lists . . . yes, I seen some shoppin' lists.


Personally, I do like Chopin and Liszt (that one was for Pyro ;-)

- LA



Oh goodness. So many puns I can Wagner finger at.

:3

(HEY I AM ALOOF.)

>_>



AAAAAAAARGH!!! TOO MANY PUNS!! PUN OVERLOAD...



Wait a minuet! That is sonata nice of you to type all in caps. Besides, it's better than a pun overture!

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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 7:47:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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Shopping lists . . . yes, I seen some shoppin' lists.


Personally, I do like Chopin and Liszt (that one was for Pyro ;-)

- LA



Oh goodness. So many puns I can Wagner finger at.

:3

(HEY I AM ALOOF.)

>_>



AAAAAAAARGH!!! TOO MANY PUNS!! PUN OVERLOAD...



Wait a minuet! That is sonata nice of you to type all in caps. Besides, it's better than a pun overture!

- LA



nonononono not lisztnin not lizstnin...D:


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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 7:50:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:


Shopping lists . . . yes, I seen some shoppin' lists.


Personally, I do like Chopin and Liszt (that one was for Pyro ;-)

- LA



Oh goodness. So many puns I can Wagner finger at.

:3

(HEY I AM ALOOF.)

>_>



AAAAAAAARGH!!! TOO MANY PUNS!! PUN OVERLOAD...



Wait a minuet! That is sonata nice of you to type all in caps. Besides, it's better than a pun overture!

- LA



nonononono not lisztnin not lizstnin...D:



I orchestrate all these compositions for you and you don't liszten? I have no symphony for you!

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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 7:55:09 PM   
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I see a lot of people who seem to like to post a "shopping list of deal breakers and requirements" in thier profiles.

Where do you think this comes from?

Is it something that actually works?


I am going to answer this for shits and giggles and because I am bored....

If I were going to have a profile seeking I would not have a laundry list of dislikes, I would have a laundry list of things I would want to have... in other words I would try to focus on who I wanted to attract, not whom I wanted to repel. I am into positive thinking, and not into negativity. I would frame it always in the positive because people respond to positive...

I have also learned something else in my time on planet Earth, leaving my "must haves" to a minimum is more of a recipe for success than narrowing my vision too much. I am much more open these days than I used to be, of course I have preferences, but to state them exhaustively on a profile seems rather much. This is only how I feel about it all, and if other people want to try to weed out others and are more discriminating than me, well that is their preference which I respect... all this is moot as I am not currently looking, and part of the reason why I was successful when I am looking (I never lack for dates if a date is what I want) is because I am more positive in my outlook all the time, and that is appealing, more appealing than people even would think it is.

The things that turn me off about people are not laundry lists... the things that turn me off is negativity, and if people put forward profiles in which they are negative it would make me pass them by. Examples of such negativity? Well examples would be "Looking for a low drama submissive", "Tired of liars and game players", "No fat chicks".. etc etc etc....

Just my thoughts


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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 8:12:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Don't be Hayden on our Rebel nature. Puns are punderful... but perhaps we should change the pitch of our octave before become too somber/brain-heavy in our timbre?

Oh... another thing to put on the liszts....

somebody with good rhythm.

;3


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As your will is, so is your deed.
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RE: The shopping list. - 2/17/2010 8:25:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic

Don't be Hayden on our Rebel nature. Puns are punderful... but perhaps we should change the pitch of our octave before become too somber/brain-heavy in our timbre?

Oh... another thing to put on the liszts....

somebody with good rhythm.

;3



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RE: The shopping list. - 2/18/2010 1:36:23 AM   
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OP: The lists are to keep people from wasting each other's time, just like the rest of the profile.

They help you know something about the person so that neither of you have to waste each other's time considering one another, when you are not going to be a good match anyway. This is so basic, I can't even believe you're posing the question. Are you an adult?


As I think LittleWonder already said, there can't be any TFTB with someone with whom you haven't any established authority dynamic. You are perusing the profiles of strangers. They don't owe you anything, and you don't own them. If you don't like their requirements, tough shit.


If I don't drink at all, don't smoke at all, and don't do illegal drugs at all, its my perogative if I want to seek a partner whose habits match mine to a tee. If a partner who did any of that would be a piss- poor match for me, it would be monumentally stupid of me not to put that information very prominantly in my profile so I wouldn't waste mine or anyone else's time. People are doing each other a favor, when we put that stuff out there. Why are you looking at a good thing, as though its bad? Unbelievable.


 


Do you want to waste time persuing people you are incompatible with?

You should be happy we make those lists. You should be glad about all the time they save. Ours, and yours. Duh.
 
 





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RE: The shopping list. - 2/18/2010 6:55:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

And folks say MY threads are weird.............

Jeff

Difference is, there's nothing rhetorical about them.


If everyone jumped into this thread and exhaulted the brilliance of the OP's thought, it wouldn't have been a "rhetorical" question.

We are all apparently issued laden drama queens, and since we don't agree with him, the reason for his post was simply to let us know that we are all issue laden drama queens who aren't "subly" enough for him. The fact that a good number of us aren't looking and are too smart to want to hook up with anyway is completely lost to him. After all, the problems he has with partners couldn't possibly be anything to do with HIM, he is the dominant after all.

To the OP, 7 years ago you tossed someone out who "claimed" to be everything you could possibly want. It would seem obvious that you moved her into your home before you took the time to get to know her to begin with.

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People need to get a clue and figure out THEY DON'T HAVE POWER OVER ME, PERIOD.



Actually, you need to get a clue and realize that you have no power over anyone here that you don't have a relationship with (which since you are here posting for a partner, you don't have a relationship). Slapping the title "dominant" on your profile doesn't give you any power.

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RE: The shopping list. - 2/18/2010 12:41:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		i would like to do shopping for my domme but i dont have one

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RE: The shopping list. - 2/18/2010 2:32:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		It usually comes from their history - their disappointments and previous successes. I doubt it works but I could be wrong. I think it's probably a better idea just to see what happens.

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RE: The shopping list. - 2/19/2010 9:32:49 PM   
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Shopping list . . . sure. The shopping list starts when you fill out your CM profile and say seeking fem slave. A male Dom is "deal breaker" for me.

This is pretty much what it boils down to.  There are certain fundamental things that each person is looking for, it's kind of silly to pick an arbitrary point after which you say no, lists are bad.

If you really have requirements, you probably should be up front about them rather than wasting people's time.  At the same time, you probably don't want to list 'requirements' that aren't really so.

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