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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

There's this "lesbian" I know, who is suddenly "homoflexible" and suddenly found an interest in men and I've been dying to send her this text message:

"Hillshire farms has an opening in their poultry division that pays $28.75 an hr. When they heard about how well you handle cock...well...you start on Monday."

Primarily because the response I would get would be "Well...just fuck you!" And I would laugh for days.

However, for some reason I have been distinctly told not to do this under severe penalty. AND, I'm temped to anyways because I enjoy my own humor that much.

boi

This has nothing to do with my opinions on cowards who can't own up to being bi because of the social stigma around the word "bisexual". Besides, I needed to share it at some point.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Okay, that is just mean. Which is not to say that I did not enjoy a good SNORK at the expense of my friend. Who let's hope just comes to her senses and goes back to knowing that grrrrls are better!

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen


Behaving for now

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ORIGINAL: stella41b

Okay. Let's say you meet a guy and you invite him out for a few beers. How would it be if it ended up that you're buying all the beers? Fair? It's also not fair for him to be buying all the time, right? You you either buy 'rounds', your turn, his turn, or you buy your own, right?

This explains some of the tributes. Some of the guys want to meet the domme, who's got to of course supply the venue, the equipment, and of course wear certain clothes. This takes a bit of time, effort, and needless to say, money.

Now quite a number of male subs turn up, ready to submit, so they play, get on with what they're doing (that's if they turn up in the first place) and then when the scene's over they leave. This leaves said domme with the cleaning up to do, putting the equipment away, and also changing out of that certain clothing she wore.

Seems a bit one-sided, right? So she gets wise after a few of these meetings and she starts asking for a tribute. It could be anything, stockings, a book, chocolate, a bit of money, but some token of appreciation for all the effort she's gone to to put everything together (and it's not that easy from the domme side of things). Would you call this a scam?

Yes there are some others who want a financial contribution, to help pay a bill, the rent, also on a quid pro quo basis, and these I would suggest are akin to pro-dommes. It's nothing more than a nice little sideline, but very much on the basis of what is above - appreciation for her time and effort. Again, would you call this a scam?

Some guys would, but that's because they think BDSM is about sex, and even if she's not handing out the condoms when he arrives they still think she's a prostitute and scamming them. It's this notion that BDSM=sex. For some yes, but not necessarily so.

No need to go into pro-dommes, let them speak for themselves.

And then you get the dommes which very clearly aren't dommes, but vanilla women out for whatever they can get, whether it be top ups on their cellphone, additional cash, sexual gratification, free domestic cleaning, or whatever else. They call it BDSM but it isn't, it's exploitation and the rule of the game is simple - get as much as you can out of whoever without giving anything back in return.

The problem is is that there's a lot of guys out there also playing the exploitation game and so there's a grey area where some aren't sure and a darker area where everyone, male subs, dommes, and everyone else loses.

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen
Personally speaking, I pay tribute every day with a foot rub when She gets home. She got Her "dream ring" for x-mas and a nice new pair of boots for v-day. I LIKE to give Her things and find no problem doing the work to afford them. My next goal in tribute: a house! lol

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ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas

What is wrong with giving a Domme a gift? NOTHING!
I detest cheap men.