juliaoceania
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Joined: 4/19/2006 From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Status: offline
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"romantic love" That is lust, dude, at least in my book... the monogamous type of love comes after the romantic rush of hormonal hotness... quote:
Your insistence lust must accompany love ignores situations where sexual experiences are either impossible or no longer important, such as might exist for the aged or those who suffer from certain illnesses/injuries. Actually it is you that insists this, not me... to me long term monogamous love has nothing to do with romance, even though romance and sexual attraction are often (hopefully) a part of that... quote:
Lust is about me worrying about whether my physical needs will be satisfied. Lust plays no role in love as a beloved will always concern him/herself with the needs of their beloved, including physical, emotional and sexual needs. quote:
lecherousness: a strong sexual desire crave: have a craving, appetite, or great desire for self-indulgent sexual desire (personified as one of the deadly sins) wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn Now you may only define lust in one way, I choose all of them as definitions... Iquote:
n other words, in love, I need not concern myself with getting my needs met because my needs are important enough to my beloved that she will do her best to meet them, just as her needs are my concern and I would do the best I can to meet her needs. I do not agree, human beings are always trying to get their needs met... another theory for you to digest http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs quote:
In love, there is mutual giving and thus no need for selfishness or selfish concerns. If that were true there would never be a divorce or a fight between couples that love each other, and let me tell ya, there are fights and problems in the best of relationships quote:
As you've not read my essay, you don't know what I have. Before I waste my time, what is your educational background, your methodology, and your research design? quote:
Considering the immature and very public demonstrations made by those who claim to be having positive experiences, I consider the validity of the information in light of the behaviour exhibited Even those who haven't posted on this thread, yet talk about casual BDSM experiences as a positive thing.. I will refer you to this board for some more data.... http://www.collarchat.com/forumid_54/tt.htm
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