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LadyPact -> RE: A legend returns ... (2/19/2010 8:17:46 AM)
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Actually, OP, I don't think anyone here cares whether you sanction casual BDSM or not. If the position that you hold today is the same one that you held when you were here before and then were gone, I don't think it honestly mattered. Your personal beliefs didn't change anyone else's personal beliefs. You're entitled to your opinion, and if that's working for you, great.
At the same time, My opinion is different than yours. Like you, I've based Mine on My experiences and My interactions with others. It works for Me and since you can't prove My conclusions on the subject are incorrect due to fact, you're not changing My opinion any more than I am changing yours. So, you are quite correct that people are going to do what they are going to do, regardless of what you believe. I happen to be one of them.
While I'm at it, I'll tell you something else that I believe. We don't agree on the premise that casual BDSM shouldn't be for anyone, I do happen to think that it isn't for everyone. Hang on a minute, because there really is a difference between the two. There are some people who are just not wired for casual play, just like there are people who are not wired for poly, bi-sexuality, or any other thing that isn't right for them. For the majority of folks, I figure they are reasonable, sane adults who know how to make thier own choices and what best fits them. I'm not here to attempt to convince them to be something that they are not.
We are just going to have to agree to disagree because personal opinion is not fact. As I've said before, when you can bring fact, I'll be more than happy to take it under consideration.
Next, I'm going to address alice. Unfortunately, you have a very bad habit of attempting to insult people that I have a personal fondness for. In My opinion, that's something that you are going to have to work on.
I really shouldn't have to tell you this, but folks involved in BDSM are just like any other subsection of society. That means that all points of view on the gender debate are going to exist here just like they are anywhere else in the world. Everything from accepting someone as female because that is the gender that they have always felt they were, to those who will never see someone as female because they were XY at birth, and all positions inbetween.
What I tend to think more people care about when relating to someone who may be in transition or who has gone through transition, is how honest someone is about who they are, as well as who they've been. I've seen folks on these boards who have chosen the route of dishonesty about their birth gender. That generally doesn't end well. Not because they were born male, but because of the fact that they chose not to be honest in their interactions. There are a lot more people out there who want to be able to take people at their word than there are folks who are willing to deal with people who lie to them. After all, don't you want people to be honest with you?
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