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alicenwondrland -> RE: A legend returns ... (2/19/2010 11:13:24 AM)
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As for alice... put me in the group of people who don't understand or agree with the harping on her gender. Her profile says "Female." I have no interest in seeing her naked or going anywhere near here dainty bits. So the exact nature of her anatomy today, or 20 years ago, is of no consequence to me. I don't care how many people she calls fat, ugly, or old, she offers plenty of words to criticize without having to assault her gender identity. I wish people would reconsider doing so, because it's a rather ugly thing to do. And it's lazy. Plenty of other things to criticize her for before you get to that.
As much as I can appreciate your lack of sexual desire for me, I must say , perhaps everyone I could state my piece here to help clarify where this began, why they are attacking my gender and continue to do so, and why I've called people fat, ugly and old. I do NOT comprehend how this is not obvious to anyone following any of this drama
As for my gender now or 20 years ago being different, it is a funny thing to say considering not only am I 33 but no one believes I am 33. I get carded daily for cigarettes. Whatever.
When I first posted on the Question About Demographic thread a couple weeks ago, after several nice and friendly postings, I was surprised to have been attacked quite harshly by someone who accused me of having insulted "everyone on the board" and lacking "taste, class and intelligence". I replied quite civilly with genuine confusion and by re-clarifying that I was NOT judging anyone or had made any link between negative traits and middle-aged men, but had a valid question. Quite shortly after, I was attacked again unexpectedly by someone who said he "would not be hitting on me" because I was full of "prejudices and baggage".
Here is evidence of that: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3054016/mpage_1/tm.htm
From this point is just got nasty...You can make your mind up for yourself as to what happened. My feeling was then, as it is now, that people were truly offended (and I *still* dont get how anyone could be THAT insecure) over my avoidance of older men. They lashed out at me and continued to do so, even after establishing that I was new and after a couple pages of the thread that the BDSM age predilections are entirely different than the vanilla world. I had inadvertently stepped on people's toes HOWEVER did realize it and make everyone aware that I had no previous knowledge of this. I tried to remain jovial. There were posters who *continually* pretended to simply not comprehend why I would be attracted only to a male in my own age. I replied eventually by exasperatedly, jestingly, stating "Look all politeness aside, " I am young and hot. I wasnt a man who is young and hot. How hard is that to understand?" But this just exacerbated the attacks. Here, they all began attacking my looks, calling my ugly etc. I believe it was about page 3 or 4 when a male here said "you look like a man". Domiguy as well as several other people all at once started on this tract of calling me ugly and masculine looking- this continued for about 17 pages. I fought back every single post-and would not stop- because I couldn't believe so many people would gang up on one person and wanted to take these predators down. No one should get away with behavior like that. I do NOT post in message boards (this was the first time in my ENTIRE life) and was not used to this sort of vitriol. It ended with my very essence of a human being being called black and empty..something like that, by sexyred1, who started the entire thing and helped keep it going. The mods got involved finally and clsoed the thread. Haha- RIGHT before I posted a page long opus- I was *this close* to having the last say on all of them.
It sort of spiralled downwards from there, into alot of bizarre speculation, rumors, a meme that just won't die...
NOW.
Just one last time I will clarify this. For those of you who are confused or intimidated a bit by the way I act, please think for a minute about the context that I may be attacking these people in- that is, you may have not seen ALL that that person may have said to me. I *rarely* read even the entire page, and *never* read the entire thread. So the way I see it, whenever I'd called some poster "a despiccable hideous hag" for example, or old, fat and ugly it is BECAUSE
1. I have been attacked by like 3 people at once previously- so I am enraged and hurt at this point.
2. This person has attacked my looks, without provocation, before. I am only returning the favor.
3. I think it's only fair to note that there are both men and women in the world who can be quite nasty to people who are significantly more attractive than they are. Ask any women who is attractive, they *will* tell you this. I promise you!!! I get nasty looks all the time by older ugly women when I simply waiting in line at the drug store and have made no eye contact with her until I realize someone is glaring at me. I in fact will bet any single person here, $100 that you will get the same answer if you take a random poll and ask if they feel that other women have not in the past been nasty towards them based on their looks. Or you could also do google reserach if you don't believe me. *sigh* I'd thought it was common knowledge. But here? It's rude to call this out, but let me clarify that I am stating this to give some background to the psychology of what has happened here. Plenty of people on this thread have manipulated things to seem as if somehow it is ME that is some TERRIBLE, GRINDINGLY SHALLOW NAME-CALLING human when I was consistently attacked for NOTHING BUT my looks for 17 pages almost- and in fact, continue to be ( no seriously, get a life!) AND further, I AM ONLY CALLING THEM OUT ON JEALOUSY BEING THE REASON FOR THEIR ABUSE.
So this is the outline of what happened. I encourage anyone to read the thread. That is all I have to say. Good night and good luck.
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