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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 12:53:38 AM   
timmaygirl


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Status: offline 		lol someone always says that its not a matter of "looking down" on but just trying to understand. I have yet to see an online sub coming on here to ask "I just dont get it how you all do real time. I mean really people in real time seem far less capable of using their imaginations!!" Some people are capable of online, some are not. Some are capable of real time, some are not.

That being said ... i have been with my Daddy for a long time and just this past year took it to real time. No relationship is easy all of the time. It is a matter of communication, trust, and committedness ... just like every other relationship.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 2:17:12 AM   
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Pick someone who understands about real life, who cares that you get enough sleep to function properly and so on.

You know that noobs come on all the time to say guys they've met are causing them to lose their jobs, outing them, causing family upset etc. So does knowing them in real life mean they're smart and realistic? Nope.

Same with online. You talk to them and see how realistic they are, how concerned with your well being they are.

The Man and I were LDR for about 3 years. We saw each other about every six weeks in good weather and every three months came winter. He still wanted to know about my real life; where I was going, what sports events I was taking the kids to etc. He understood that if I was escorting a school hiking trip then I sure wasn't going to be pantiless in a short skirt and heels. He would never have done anything harmful to me. And he insisted I sign off and go to bed at a reasonable hour.

Just because you've met them in real life doesn't mean they're good dominants and just because you haven't yet doesn't mean they're bad. It's up to the individual as always.


Rapturous applause!!!!

I've had a couple of very genuine and meaningful online-only relationships and loads of genuine and meaningful online-liny friendships with people I've met on fora, chatrooms etc.

In the former case - Yes, OriginallyFromLA is absolutely right - if you're not web camming there's always the possibility that she is munching a sandwhich and doing sudoku while assuring you that she's spankng her pussy and applying clothespins to her breasts... And I'm sure that lots of that happens, and I'm sure that it's happenned to me - But I have laughed with subs I've subsequently met about how ridiculous it was that they did go and change into a school uniform before calling me - even though I'd never have known if they hadn't - but in a genuine relationship you trust that your sub is obeying if she says she is.

Don't get me wrong - I'm absolutely certain that I've been fooled many times in the past, if someone isn't genuine it usually becomes clear fairly quickly, or the whole scene becomes boring..

OriginallyFromLA's comment did remind me of the early days of "cybersex" and IRC - in the late 80's and early 90's the internet was full of dudes, pretending to be girls, logging onto "bisexual female" chatrooms to cyber with people who were more often than not, also dudes pretending to be girls....

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 9:43:25 AM   
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That's not the only way online can work. I never did that with the two girls I have had online relation with. They were online collared and had to obey Me but I never punished them online. that's silly. The commands they received were no big deal. If they were late because of traffic. No big deal. they called Me Sir and sat on My lap when in the chat rooms.




That doesn't sound silly at all.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 9:57:31 AM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: domiguy


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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19


That's not the only way online can work. I never did that with the two girls I have had online relation with. They were online collared and had to obey Me but I never punished them online. that's silly. The commands they received were no big deal. If they were late because of traffic. No big deal. they called Me Sir and sat on My lap when in the chat rooms.




That doesn't sound silly at all.


Ooooh domi....can I sit on your lap?????? Please?

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 10:09:12 AM   
EbonyWood


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ORIGINAL: crazyml

OriginallyFromLA's comment did remind me of the early days of "cybersex" and IRC - in the late 80's and early 90's the internet was full of dudes, pretending to be girls, logging onto "bisexual female" chatrooms to cyber with people who were more often than not, also dudes pretending to be girls....



Thank God those days are over, huh?

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 10:42:38 AM   
crazyml


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ORIGINAL: EbonyWood

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml

OriginallyFromLA's comment did remind me of the early days of "cybersex" and IRC - in the late 80's and early 90's the internet was full of dudes, pretending to be girls, logging onto "bisexual female" chatrooms to cyber with people who were more often than not, also dudes pretending to be girls....



Thank God those days are over, huh?


Grin.

Sorry I should have made it clearer - no, those days aint over, as the irony in your comment points out!!





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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 1:13:05 PM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		I have received some of the best advice and guidance possible through online discussion and scenes.  It helped me flush out what works for me, and what doesn't, and to understand myself.  Yes I did find myself wanting more than online after a while, and that was very hard, especially when the person was far away (like another country).  maybe some people are not like that, I don't know. 

Ultimately the D/s relationship didn't work for me online because I really sought a real time relationship, but for some, at various points might work.  I can't say enough about the mentor and friend relationships I found through this though, it's been a huge huge help along the way.  

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 1:29:34 PM   
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I have received some of the best advice


when you gonna use it?

lol

just teasing :P

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 1:36:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: timmaygirl

I mean really people in real time seem far less capable of using their imaginations!!" Some people are capable of online, some are not. Some are capable of real time, some are not.

That being said ... i have been with my Daddy for a long time and just this past year took it to real time. No relationship is easy all of the time. It is a matter of communication, trust, and committedness ... just like every other relationship.



Some people in real life have tremendous imaginations but the just lack the "committedness" to spend their time in the fantasy world of online. They just figure it is better to be actually living out their dreams and desires and using their imagination to further a real life relationship.

Maybe if I lived in the sticks online would have more appeal. I don't. It doesn't.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 2:07:02 PM   
HisSweetElysium


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ORIGINAL: Justme696

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I have received some of the best advice


when you gonna use it?

lol

just teasing :P


Maybe when dorks stop teasing me, and pigs fly, probably as likely!


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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 3:30:49 PM   
Whiplashsmile4


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Status: offline 		I don't do anything until the funds have hit my PalPay Account. from there on out, I'll be anything to anybody online. I'm pretty ethical cause I cut the crap about it being Tribute.

edited to note - this was a sarcastic joke and by no means am I engaged in this shady business practice of trolling for people with impaired judgements skills for financial gain.



< Message edited by Whiplashsmile4 -- 2/21/2010 3:34:44 PM >

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 4:36:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: domiguy


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19


That's not the only way online can work. I never did that with the two girls I have had online relation with. They were online collared and had to obey Me but I never punished them online. that's silly. The commands they received were no big deal. If they were late because of traffic. No big deal. they called Me Sir and sat on My lap when in the chat rooms.




That doesn't sound silly at all.


Ooooh domi....can I sit on your lap?????? Please?


As your protector I am afraid I can not allow you to set your cyber ass on his cyber lap.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 4:42:13 PM   
Aileen1968


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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 4:42:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		agreed.  cyber erections are dangerous!

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 4:47:21 PM   
Whiplashsmile4


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19


That's not the only way online can work. I never did that with the two girls I have had online relation with. They were online collared and had to obey Me but I never punished them online. that's silly. The commands they received were no big deal. If they were late because of traffic. No big deal. they called Me Sir and sat on My lap when in the chat rooms.




That doesn't sound silly at all.


Ooooh domi....can I sit on your lap?????? Please?


As your protector I am afraid I can not allow you to set your cyber ass on his cyber lap.


I want to know who the hell is Mentoring all this?



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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 4:54:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy


quote:

ORIGINAL: timmaygirl

I mean really people in real time seem far less capable of using their imaginations!!" Some people are capable of online, some are not. Some are capable of real time, some are not.

That being said ... i have been with my Daddy for a long time and just this past year took it to real time. No relationship is easy all of the time. It is a matter of communication, trust, and committedness ... just like every other relationship.



Some people in real life have tremendous imaginations but the just lack the "committedness" to spend their time in the fantasy world of online. They just figure it is better to be actually living out their dreams and desires and using their imagination to further a real life relationship.

Maybe if I lived in the sticks online would have more appeal. I don't. It doesn't.


....and some of us have real relationships but live too far apart to be together 24/7...for now. Online fills the time til we are together again so it isn't necessarily a fantasy world, just a way to keep in touch. Is it our preference? No but for now there isn't any choice.


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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 5:03:37 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		sure there is. Find someone that is somewhat local. No big deal.

I see you do live in the sticks...Maybe online is the only option available. That Sucks.

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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 5:10:39 PM   
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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 5:12:37 PM   
zephyroftheNorth


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Status: offline 		So i'm supposed to end it with Master Tim just because the conditions aren't perfect right now? I never said we are only online just that we live far from each other.....FOR NOW.  Online fills the time between visits.

What makes you think I live in the sticks? Montreal is a huge city


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RE: how does online work? - 2/21/2010 5:17:54 PM   
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What makes you think I live in the sticks? Montreal is a huge city


This: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BhTZ_tgMUdo ;-)

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