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heartcream -> RE: If you told your slave (2/22/2010 8:28:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven
And i firmly believe that whatever you put out into the world is what you get back, especially in your relationships. If you put out fear and distrust, that is what you will receive in return. i choose to operate with faith and trust. i may make a mistake every now and then, but the absolute joy i receive in return is worth it.
I really havent read all the posts, it is too difficult to take it all in and follow along but this bit here is something I would like to address and feel it is super important.
Fear and distrust are feelings, they are not things you put out or not, tell to be something else or one is wrong, "making a mistake" if these feelings get triggered. They happen before one can think about it.
Sure what one does with these feelings is all telling fo sho, fo sho.
I will say though to label them as something 'negative' and mow over them with so called faith and trust is a bit too trigger happy and skipping over an essential part of the emotional bodies process in order for them to fundamentally evolve into faith and trust.
I am not a slave, wont ever be one and dont have much to add about this part of the discussion but were I to trust a man and he asked me to do something I felt was too dangerous, there is no way I would do it and if he was adamant because he was commanding me I would find him pitiful in my eyes.
I am talking something that made me fearful for my survival, my safety. If he pushed me to do something that blew up my boundaries like that I would find him not a man I would ever trust or have faith in.
The main point I am making here is that it is not cool at all, at all, in my opinion to shove aside feelings like fear and distrust because they are somehow unacceptable feelings. Better, much better, much healthier and more critically informing is to allow the feelings to fully express until they naturally turn into something else. And when totally felt it is usually compassion being the feeling the body is transformed into experiencing.
It is not cool to have a head that commands one what to feel. Feelings are feelings, they are there to warn and clue into all the things one does not see going on.
As far as acting out emotions, I na say dat. I am saying to shut them down absolutely within one's own head and heart when they show up is a sure fire way of asking for a heart attack for example. All parts of us are important. Allllll of us counts. The real feelings of joy come from being completely full of all yourself, not some trained behavior of tossing out certain awkward, unpleasant, difficult emotions.
Not acting them out I am saying that. In the privacy of one's car, bedroom, bath, shower, wherever real privacy is available to check in what these feelings are. Fear? Anger? Grief? Frustration? Fill in any potential emotion here and this is our way out, through our feelings getting a real listen to. Not ordering and tossing willy nilly by our cool heads.
Feeling real joy is available to anyone and certainly not only to people who heartlessly and coldly wipe out parts of themselves in order to achieve it. Even when they have the best of intentions. Intent is important of course and will help lead the way but it is important to note the vital difference here with dealing with feelings like fear and distrust.
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