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What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/25/2010 11:25:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		What type of a man seeks this type of a woman?

Is there anything that can be gleaned into the psyche or mental make up of this type of man?


Discuss amongst yourselves.




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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/25/2010 11:32:12 PM   
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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/25/2010 11:34:25 PM   
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What type of a man seeks this type of a woman?

Is there anything that can be gleaned into the psyche or mental make up of this type of man?


It says that we don't like him very much.

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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/25/2010 11:54:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy

What type of a man seeks this type of a woman?

Is there anything that can be gleaned into the psyche or mental make up of this type of man?


Discuss amongst yourselves.





It depends, oh mighty Ambassador.

Is this man looking for a personal doormat, one who is such only to him and, possibly, a chosen few? Or is this someone who is looking for a doormat to use and throw out later, initianting the relationship with that particular scenario in mind from the beginning?

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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:05:48 AM   
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It's rather impossible for me to make blanket statements against something that I can see for myself works so well for some.



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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:12:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not a single serving doormat or a doormat that is perceived to be only useful for one or two seasons at the most.

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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:14:32 AM   
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It says that we don't like him very much.




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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:16:28 AM   
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Not a single serving doormat or a doormat that is perceived to be only useful for one or two seasons at the most.

Was that to me, or a clarification of the original question?


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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:20:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		A clarification. Anyone might go for someone that will allow them to have their 100% way for the short run or for a few hours....But what does it say about a guy that never wants or will tolerate any confrontation or disobedience over the long haul?

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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:21:31 AM   
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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:25:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy

A clarification. Anyone might go for someone that will allow them to have their 100% way for the short run or for a few hours....But what does it say about a guy that never wants or will tolerate any confrontation or disobedience over the long haul?


It says to me that our concept of the word "tolerate" might need re-calibration.

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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:28:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I always enjoyed a little "eka pust ya poona" even when my gal didn't exactly fancy the act.

That's one nice thing about having a doormat at your disposal. You never hear a single "methla boo." They are always good to go.

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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:29:14 AM   
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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:30:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		"Want" confrontation?

I don't think Nietzsche meant that we should actively seek out difficulty or impediment for the purpose of self-tempering...


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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:31:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy
What type of a man seeks this type of a woman?

A man who is seeking this type of woman.

(Ask better questions if you want better answers! For example, define what YOU mean by "doormat".)

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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:31:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

"Want" confrontation?

I don't think Nietzsche meant that we should actively seek out difficulty or impediment for the purpose of self-tempering...



maybe, maybe not, but what I meant is that if I've decided that someone doesn't "tolerate" any kind of confrontation or disobedience whatsoever, then that indicates that my definition of "tolerate" is no longer realistic or viable.


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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:32:04 AM   
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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:34:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

maybe, maybe not, but what I meant is that if I've decided that someone doesn't "tolerate" any kind of confrontation or disobedience whatsoever, then that indicates that my definition of "tolerate" is no longer realistic or viable.

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The "in reply to" thingie was mistakenly due to using the 'Fast Reply'.

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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:36:48 AM   
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A clarification. Anyone might go for someone that will allow them to have their 100% way for the short run or for a few hours....But what does it say about a guy that never wants or will tolerate any confrontation or disobedience over the long haul?

Depends on the guy, really. I've seen guys that fit the above description that are complete assholes, and others that make me wish that I was their partner.


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RE: What does it say about a man that seeks a doormat? - 2/26/2010 12:40:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy

A clarification. Anyone might go for someone that will allow them to have their 100% way for the short run or for a few hours....But what does it say about a guy that never wants or will tolerate any confrontation or disobedience over the long haul?


Hmm 100% have their way for the short run--Anyone?--Hmm..


>>But what does it say about a guy that never wants or will tolerate any confrontation or disobedience over the long haul?

If a guy is like this and many are... Ex: something goofy/wonky happened the day before, the last time you saw him, whenever. But not in that exact moment and you take a minute to talk about it, thinking, hoping it might be a good time to bring it up and the immediate response is.."Why you gotta bring that up, that is the past..." or, "Dont bring me down, why you gotta be so negative...why do you hold onto to stuff...?" Stuff like that. They shut you down as soon as the 'boat starts to rock'. Even if you bring it up in the same moment you are met with the same sort of deflecting blame, sometimes worse.

To me it says the guy is weak, shallow, does not want to connect to his own feelings of inadequacy or fear. He turns into a stone instead. He would rather whack you upside the head instead.

It has been fun (not really though) to try to be pleasing to a guy like that to believe all that brawn is real, oooh big strong man but it is a coating, like icing. It is not real. There is nothing to hold it together, they are more about their presentation, holding it 'together' than being real. They think they will die if they admit to feeling afraid, sad, angry, confused, unsure, vulnerable. They are more concerned about 'face', about being right than being kind, for instance. They are looking in but not to see what is really there but to more hunt down and squash any signs of the dreaded feelings of inadequacy etc before anyone might notice.

A woman that triggers any of that in them will be blamed and pay the price. Sometimes women dont know how to deal with it for fear of the consequences so spend their anxious lives trying to learn every detail of how to present to him what he wants to see. Not who they are but who they think he wants to see so they wont get caught in the crossfire.

My opinion if someone cannot be questioned, even God Himself, it is the wrong man, the wrong God.


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