RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard???

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard???

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard???

Page: << < prev 1 2 [3]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 3/30/2006 1:00:46 PM

CERCKL

Posts: 1039
Joined: 3/4/2006
Status: offline

quote:

the terms and conditions of what this slave will do, when and with who are decided solely by Master, therefore this slave "has" only the limits that Master has for her.
on the other hand, if this slave was His submissive, NOT His slave, then she would "have" her very own personal set of limits that she would expect Him to respect, as negotiated and agreed upon at the beginning of our Dom/sub relationship(and re-negotiated should either party feel it necessary), especially if they were prefaced with the word Hard, suggestive of NON-flexibility.

I can understand that...and I appreciate the other posts where limits can be explored beyond with in a relationship of trust, growth and intimacy...of the three she has now...two are inappropriate, involving those who are not in as place to make an informed, consentual decision and the last involves an act which holds no interest to me...though if it did, I would not press...the two mentioned in the intitial post were not originally told to Me and I found out they were limits after the fact, as well as ones which she had defined as 'hard' until then...they were also mentioned in conversation after these acts had been performed several times...I feel they are connected to emotional issues more than anything else.
One thing I appreciate with her is something which I have never experienced so intensely which is the trust and honesty in communication which I have never experienced previously...including after 12 years with My ex...I would do no harm to she whom I now own and I focus a lot of My energy and thought to bringing out from her what I see she is fully capable of...
If I had known these had been 'hard' limits previous to doing them with her, would I have NOT done them? NOT pushed her...well, eventually but not in the manner they were accomplished, I have no desire to lead her farther than she is capable of going BEFORE she has been prepared.
C

_____________________________

AND I AM TOO AN ASSHOLE, I HAVE REFERENCES!!!

"Please, please, please believe me, I really am an asshole. All that Enlightenment and Higher Learning shit was all a ruse."

(in reply to Mercnbeth)

Profile

Post #: 41

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 3/30/2006 1:07:37 PM

CERCKL

Posts: 1039
Joined: 3/4/2006
Status: offline

quote:

*clears her throat and says in her most soothing come hither voice...

CERCKL, dear, come here and have a cookie..I'm not scary at all, dear, and pay no attention to the woman behind the curtain...

May be a L. Frank Baum reference...but why do I feel it's more a narrative from the Brothers Grimm??? Hmmmm...
I do expect to hear narrative of the genital crucifiction...and sorry I am in the wrong region to observe but if You ever travel to the Pacific NW area, let Me know and lotus and I would be privileged to take you out for dinner and conversation...
Did enjoy the soothing come hither voice.
C

_____________________________

AND I AM TOO AN ASSHOLE, I HAVE REFERENCES!!!

"Please, please, please believe me, I really am an asshole. All that Enlightenment and Higher Learning shit was all a ruse."

(in reply to yourMissTress)

Profile

Post #: 42

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 3/30/2006 1:35:58 PM

runawaykajira

Posts: 2
Joined: 3/21/2006
Status: offline

Greetings
i just read a small bleep as i was playing game about hard limits.
Anyone who has been in this life for any lenght time knows that there should be for safety reason limits. Example for me i can not have any gags in my mouth this is for phyiscal as well metnal reason. Can or should that limit be broken by a Master/ dom or top, then we dont play anymore. Plus once it done they found out quickly why that is a hard limits. But also i belive any limits hard or otherwise should be discuss during the negoation time, and the explortain time. for a realtionship to start and to be bond together there needs to trust, and sometimes that trust comes from respecting the slave and her limits.
thank you
runaway kajira

(in reply to CERCKL)

Profile

Post #: 43

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 3/30/2006 3:46:39 PM

MizSuz

Posts: 1881
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

ORIGINAL: ModeratorOne

There are 10 types of people in the world, those who understand binary and those who don't. [/quote]

BAAAAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! too funny

Or maybe it's

100001010101010!!!!

<End of thread hijacking>

_____________________________

“The more you love, the more you can love—and the more intensely you love. Nor is there any limit on how many you can love. If a person had time enough, he could love all of that majority who are decent and just.”
- Robert Heinlein

(in reply to ModeratorOne)

Profile

Post #: 44

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 3/30/2006 5:01:04 PM

denika

Posts: 619
Joined: 8/30/2005
Status: offline

I have never set hard limits with Knight, but from the very begining we talked about likes,dislikes, personal fears and such. He sets the limits. He knows my body and what it can and can't take as well as I do, sometimes even better.(I know, I know that sounds very cliched) He has walked me through an intense fear of fire. I have never been burned but I've seen enough results to know accidents happen and it's ugly.. I trust Him with with something very precious, my life. That being said it is also my responcibility to speak up if He is doing something that will endanger my life or my psyche and we will discuss the reasons and go from there.

denika

(in reply to runawaykajira)

Profile

Post #: 45

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/1/2006 12:45:22 AM

DragonNphoenix

Posts: 617
Joined: 8/2/2005
Status: offline

My limits are limits for a reason. Weather that reason be ethics, morals or preferances doesn't matter. The great thing is that My Dragon respects my limits, he does not push.

1st Girl Phoenix

_____________________________

**Pain is just pleasure with a twist**

(in reply to CERCKL)

Profile

Post #: 46

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/1/2006 1:56:52 AM

Angeni

Posts: 88
Joined: 3/11/2006
Status: offline

Greetings :)

Hard limits are hard for a reason. Those that I would consider to be hard, I would not tolerate being breached for any reason.

(in reply to CERCKL)

Profile

Post #: 47

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/1/2006 9:20:37 AM

carlita

Posts: 2
Joined: 3/27/2006
Status: offline

i am proud to say i have no limits in humiliation
in the rest of bdsm activities i take all i can to the highest level
i am ready to offer an advice to all slaves girls

_____________________________

Slave Carlita

(in reply to Angeni)

Profile

Post #: 48

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/4/2006 9:01:32 AM

MsBearlee

Posts: 1032
Joined: 2/15/2006
Status: offline

" Then there were those thresholds crossed that sent my mind reeling, leaving me in a dazed puddle, going WOW, why the hell did i think i was not into that." ..... LOVELY!

I see all lists as 'living documents'....... things change; life, trust, limits!

(in reply to carlita)

Profile

Post #: 49

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/4/2006 9:08:44 AM

MsIncognito

Posts: 742
Joined: 5/24/2005
Status: offline

My hard limits are pretty damn hard. Given that my hard limits are death, dismemberment and permanent physical/emotional/psychological harm I don't think that's unreasonable. There are some things I'd rather not do but I don't consider those hard limits. In the right circumstances I could probably be persuaded to do them by the right person, it's just that the chances that those circumstances/that person will coincide are probably slim to none

quote:

How Hard are your limits? Would you ever consider being taken past them, as long as you didn't find them ethically wrong (no, I'm not speaking of other's 'ethics' here...)?

(in reply to CERCKL)

Profile

Post #: 50

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/4/2006 9:16:28 AM

RavenMuse

Posts: 4030
Joined: 1/23/2006
Status: offline

Hard limits are hard limits.... one in particular is a phobia, another is illegal, a couple are just things I will not initiate (Personal viewpoint thing) and the other two are simply not my thing under any circumstances.

When it comes to my comfort zone, then I enjoy pushing myself past that point on occassion as much as I enjoy pushing my girls softer limits or comfort zone, but hard limits are just that, immutable. As it happens it so far seems that where hard limits are concerned my girl and I very well matched.

_____________________________

This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Owner of metalmiss

(in reply to MsIncognito)

Profile

Post #: 51

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/4/2006 9:53:29 AM

Mikesbeth

Posts: 15
Joined: 3/30/2006
Status: offline

Maybe it's just me but my hard limits that I thought I had when we started are gone. We have discussed and passed throught all of them so far. There are a couple of things I can think of that I would not want to do, but then if he actually presented them to me as an option of play, I would be able to say no and he would back off of it. If it is really intense when something is presented, I would just have to say uncle and he would let it go.

(in reply to CERCKL)

Profile

Post #: 52

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/4/2006 9:56:54 AM

saltygoodness27

Posts: 28
Joined: 12/22/2005
Status: offline

My hard limits are hard, and I expect them to be respected. But that doesn't mean they can't change in the future. But it's something that needs to be discussed, and not just done mid-scene because the top is bored.

(in reply to CERCKL)

Profile

Post #: 53

RE: Your Hard limits are HOW Hard??? - 4/4/2006 12:51:53 PM

MistressSassy66

Posts: 1675
Joined: 11/5/2004
Status: offline

I have perhaps 4 or 5 things that are absolutely Hard Limits,that will never be crossed.
I respect limits that others set for themselves.I wont push someone past their hard limits,unless they ask for it.For there are a few who like to be pushed to the edge.

I do have some things that used to be a limit that no longer are.
As time goes by some people change and things that were scary or questionable at first arnt anymore.

_____________________________

Mistress Sassy

http://www.mistresssassy.com

In the Immortal Words of Bob....Fuck the dumb shit.

"I love you not only for what you are,But for what I am when I'm with you."- Opening line from a poem by Roy Croft

(in reply to CERCKL)

Profile

Post #: 54