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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

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Your profile states: "Plus I have trouble thinking outside of black and white; I'm told this is off putting to many, and most likely holds me back. I'm working on it though."

Your post seems to comport with your profile. Sounds like you lost a chance to have some fun and gain some experience -- valuable stuff at age 25.

You said the experience was ruined, but imagine if you had the flexibility to role play and go along with the game -- you might have had a positive experience.

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ORIGINAL: Bodhisatva

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania




I have a question... if they had put roles that dominants were usually associated with in that same hat, would you feel "disrespected"? I noticed you posted this question in the masters section, do you feel that it is inherently disrespectful to dominants to have them assume a submissive stance, even in jest for fun and games?

BTW, I always take responsibility for whether or not my evening is ruined, I can always choose how I feel about something that happens, and whether or not I will allow an occurrence to spoil my good time... just me, etc

Well, I'm not sure how requiring people to act contrary to their natural orientation qualifies as 'fun' or simply in jest, particularly when such a event was a surprise. Well, maybe from the people doing the forcing I guess I could see that but not for the others.
Still, I seriously envy your emotional control. I didn't realize there were people who could simply choose how to feel about an event. Can you apply that ability to any situation or scenario? If you were shown pictures of genocide or chernobyl could you will yourself to feel good about them?

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder


You could have just smiled, said thanks but  no thanks and watched as everyone else had some fun. Was there a rule that said you had to do it or you had to leave???

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

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ORIGINAL: Bodhisatva

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania




I have a question... if they had put roles that dominants were usually associated with in that same hat, would you feel "disrespected"? I noticed you posted this question in the masters section, do you feel that it is inherently disrespectful to dominants to have them assume a submissive stance, even in jest for fun and games?

BTW, I always take responsibility for whether or not my evening is ruined, I can always choose how I feel about something that happens, and whether or not I will allow an occurrence to spoil my good time... just me, etc

Well, I'm not sure how requiring people to act contrary to their natural orientation qualifies as 'fun' or simply in jest, particularly when such a event was a surprise. Well, maybe from the people doing the forcing I guess I could see that but not for the others.
Still, I seriously envy your emotional control. I didn't realize there were people who could simply choose how to feel about an event. Can you apply that ability to any situation or scenario? If you were shown pictures of genocide or chernobyl could you will yourself to feel good about them?

Wow, now aren't you just the little drama queen?  I'm impressed!

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ORIGINAL: SweetNika

I think people are to easily offended these days and this is a prime example IMO. I have done a similiar game at a private party that I hosted but it included both dominant and submissive traits. It wasn't meant as disrespectful. There was no prior warning to my guests. Those that wanted to participate did and I wasn't offended if they didn't. Everyone did and it was hilarious. I have been to parties that had themes or group games that were hosted by others, making a scene that you didn't like it is disrespectful to me. Either quitely opt out or leave don't make a federal case over it (especially YEARS later). If you were truly offended by it take it up with the host privately at a later time.

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ORIGINAL: Bodhisatva

I went to a play party a few years ago. It was announced only after it had began that all in attendance were expected to pick a role from a hat, all of them having a submissive angle to them, such as not being able to talk without permission. I naturally left, more than a little annoyed that my evening had been waisted. I thought this was very disrespectful and a stipulation like that should have been made when the invites to the party were sent out, but is that just par for the course? Do you thiink this that kind of thing's just to be expected in this lifestyle?

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ORIGINAL: Bodhisatva
I went to a play party . . .
. . . expected to pick a role from a hat, all of them having a submissive angle . . .
. . . is that just par for the course? Do you thiink this that kind of thing's just to be expected in this lifestyle?

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

Ok. You all ripped the newbie a new asshole. You all had your red meat. Time to back off.

It's just pathetic how you people treat newbies.

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

Ok. You all ripped the newbie a new asshole. You all had your red meat. Time to back off.

It's just pathetic how you people treat newbies.

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Someone who creates a new profile, and, on the very first day of its existence, makes a baiting Opening Post in Politics and Religion, is not a "newbie." It's the fingerprint of someone well versed in the site, who decided to start a new name because he got the old one dirty somehow

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

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Someone who creates a new profile, and, on the very first day of its existence, makes a baiting Opening Post in Politics and Religion, is not a "newbie." It's the fingerprint of someone well versed in the site, who decided to start a new name because he got the old one dirty somehow

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If that is true then attack him for that. But that is probably off topic so you cant. There is no excuse for what happened.