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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/12/2010 7:32:11 PM

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I think that some men are just lazy, or get discouraged when longer, more involved e-mails don't get a response. So, they put in less and less effort, while becoming more and more whiny. (Women might as well, but I've never sought them out online, so I wouldn't know). The submissive men who contacted me back when I was looking had about a 75% spam rate, while that from all other orientations was around 10%. The numbers were far more balanced on a different site, when I was looking about 4 years ago, but still a little slanted. I tried giving a few of them the benefit of the doubt, and attempted to engage them in conversation, but it didn't work.

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 5:03:55 AM

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This, paraphrased, is what I got today...

first mail

Hi

I like your profile

I want to get to know you
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If you've even looked at my profile, its about as far as I want in terms of an approach. I look at it
for a bit.. not picture of course and really no profile from him to speak of. Dominant
male profile... I decide to write back.

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Why?
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and I get:

I am sub now
let's talk on the phone
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so I just wrote back and said.. I appreciate your interest, but no thanks.

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Why do men think that will work? I don't quite get it. I also find the immediate "I am sub now" .. as if I should be interested in that to immediately pick up the phone... argh...

because they're idiots?

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 3:30:13 PM

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The women on this site very rarely answer a message, so it would be foolish to spend much time writing something long and thoughtful. At first it's better to send a short sentence or even just a few words to see if there is any interest. By the time you send one long message you can send 10 short ones, which improves the odds, which aren't that good anyway.

I'm not sure what phrases work best but probably things like, "hey, you are cute", or "spank me please", "let's play", or "I would like to spend at least 10 hours a day washing your dishes, vacuuming your carpets, and scrubbing your bathroom".

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 3:47:18 PM

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So are there women who actually reply to phrases like that?

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 4:10:13 PM

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So are there women who actually reply to phrases like that?

I forgot a few others that have equal chances of working: "babe you hot", "let's do it", "let me kiss your feet", "let me lick you", "I'll worship you free of charge".

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 4:15:39 PM

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and do these lines work well enough to lead to actual realtime meets?

(This is a genuine question-I'm not trying to be nasty).

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 4:24:09 PM

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I wouldn't count on it. He's been complaining that nobody wants a married man for quite some time now. I *think* his replies are just sarcasm due to his own frustration.

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 6:02:10 PM

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A short comment like those have better odds of getting a response -- and they aren't necessarily hostile responses. As to real time meetings, I haven't seen an approach that worked on that one. Craigslist used to be a lot better until the spambots took over.

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 6:19:39 PM

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When I get a letter and do not see they looked at my profile that's an automatic delete

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I like that policy! I've put in BOLD RED to at least skim to the end for the magic words... either "Let's be friends" or "Please consider me" because I get tired of repeating myself. I want to know that when they say "I like your profile or it is really special" that they have read it and understand it. Mind you, I don't expect that to necessarily be followed if I make the first contact with someone, although it is nice to know that they have read my profile anyway.

Depending on my mood sometimes I ignore, sometimes I tell em off. My favorites are the ones seeing an online mistress. Top few lines of my profile is the fact that I do not cyber. They want to serve online only... clearly they can't be bothered to read. I always hit them with the fact that someone who truly wanted to serve online would take the time to at least skim a profile before writing so he could show that he could indeed follow directions should he be fortunate enough to find one who would play with him on his terms.

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 6:46:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

A short comment like those have better odds of getting a response -- and they aren't necessarily hostile responses. As to real time meetings, I haven't seen an approach that worked on that one. Craigslist used to be a lot better until the spambots took over.

A few lines, in pretty vanilla, friendly and light-hearted tone; something a little humorous, plus a comment or (better still) a question about something she's said in her profile. Just the equivalent, really, of the way one would act and talk to someone one has just met at a social function in real time. I think that's all that's required.

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/13/2010 9:27:09 PM

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As a rule, if someone makes an effort to write me an interesting message, I will respond, even if it is just to say, no, thank you. What I look at first is their location. If they are not in my area, or even my state, there will have to be something really compelling in the message for me to even want to look at their profile.
Since most of my profile shows up in the first window, I don't necessarily hold it against someone if they don't "view" my profile, but on the other hand, it does make me think that the only reason they wrote to me was because I popped up on the online now feature.
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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/14/2010 5:22:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

The women on this site very rarely answer a message, so it would be foolish to spend much time writing something long and thoughtful. At first it's better to send a short sentence or even just a few words to see if there is any interest. By the time you send one long message you can send 10 short ones, which improves the odds, which aren't that good anyway.

I'm not sure what phrases work best but probably things like, "hey, you are cute", or "spank me please", "let's play", or "I would like to spend at least 10 hours a day washing your dishes, vacuuming your carpets, and scrubbing your bathroom".

Bitter much ? I have never sent a polite email and not had a polite reply. Maybe your problem is more to do with your attitude than anything else.

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/14/2010 5:37:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

The women on this site very rarely answer a message, so it would be foolish to spend much time writing something long and thoughtful. At first it's better to send a short sentence or even just a few words to see if there is any interest. By the time you send one long message you can send 10 short ones, which improves the odds, which aren't that good anyway.

I'm not sure what phrases work best but probably things like, "hey, you are cute", or "spank me please", "let's play", or "I would like to spend at least 10 hours a day washing your dishes, vacuuming your carpets, and scrubbing your bathroom".

Bitter much ? I have never sent a polite email and not had a polite reply. Maybe your problem is more to do with your attitude than anything else.

I always reply to polite inquiries that do not have that 'I beg to be YOURS' feel to them. Often, the "I beg to be YOURS" comes from men in Nigeria or Ghana anyway...lol.

Anyone asking genuine questions about my beer, or any number of things listed in my journal or website, get responses. They don't all lead to face-to-face meetings (often due to distance), but they get replies.

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RE: Why do men think this will work? - 3/14/2010 7:17:39 PM

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It's not just this site. I get spam on my MySpace all the time saying stuff like "r u for real? I hope u r cause you r butiful I am looking for my one and only let's b true to each other IM me at (name)." And that's a MySpace FILM profile where I talk to my fans about my movies. Do male directors of g rated films get this kind of stuff on THEIR MySpace profiles? I doubt it. Some guys just spam women on every site they belong to.

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