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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 6:41:16 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: slutsusan
i think it would please Him and be proper if you use Sir and name or Master and name if that is what He wants

slut susna

Except that he specifically requested to be called by his name.

Trust me, if I asked someone I was talking to to "Please, just call me Liz," and they called me "Miss Liz" or "Maam Liz" I'd find it quite presumptuous and rude. 

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 5:02:24 PM   
NYCSubmissive


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Status: offline 		I can't imagine calling a dominant man "Sir," simply b/c he IS dominant. To me, those titles come into play only once some kind of relationship has been established. Just b/c someone calls himself "dominant," doesn't mean that every submissive should automatically call him "Sir." But then I don't go in for all that protocol stuff. Just my 2 cents.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 5:14:50 PM   
subslavemale


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Status: offline 		Initially I always call them either ma'am or sir. If they ask me to call them something else, then by all means call them by what they want to be called. If you do not feel comfortable with calling them by thier first name, talk to them about it...the cornerstone of any relationship is communications...

The one's that get me are those that want to be called Master/Mistress right off the bat...that is reserved only for the one that I have submitted too...but that's just my take on it...

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 5:22:21 PM   
CeeNYC


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Status: offline 		Truly depends on the relationship. If I am meeting someone for the first time, IMHO, we are equals. As the relationship progresses, builds and trust develops thereby the relationship evolves. When there is play he may get a Sir out of me.. but then reverts back. Those labels that we give each other truly depends on the individual relationship dynamic.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 8:24:22 PM   
Submotive


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ORIGINAL: slaveladyj

What do you feel is the proper way to address the dominate person in your relationship? Sir, Master, Mistress, Ma'am, or by their first names. I'm speaking with a dominate male, and I address him as sir, a sign of respect in my mind. He tells me to call him by his first name. To me, I don't know him that well, so that's disrespectful. I'm just wondering how others on the bottom feel about this.


LOL - glad i'm not the only sub who attempts to second guess a Dom - but, bottom line is - what HE wants to be called is what He should be called, regardless of what a sub thinks.


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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 8:31:57 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		You know...I keep coming back to this thread and I keep thinking that if you are struggling this much with just what to call him then maybe he's not the right one for you.  Just a thought and my opinion.  Probably totally off base with this.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 8:37:27 PM   
HisAvalon


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Status: offline 		If I'm meeting someone for the first time, unless it is in an explicit D/s setting, I refer to them as they are introduced to me (usually first name). I would not want to call anyone else Master, obviously, but I will use Mister, Sir, or Mistress if that is what the Dom wants.

In my own relationship, he is my Daddy and I refer to him as such, unless daddy is disciplining me and then I am to refer to him as Master. In public, I often still call him Daddy, especially if we're with friends. When we have to be vanilla, I can usually get away with calling him "my lord" since we're both acknowledged ren faire junkies and people already think we're strange. I don't really like calling daddy by his given name anymore, since that makes it seem we're on equal footing, and I often get my unruly self into trouble that way.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 10:10:59 PM   
MLskajira


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Status: offline 		from the first moment this girl met her Master is was either Sir or Master. when W/we are around this girl's family or in public, it is Sir (most of her family are lifestylers) but the rest of the time it is Master for that is what He is.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/3/2006 10:46:35 PM   
APhacetoSit


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Status: offline 		i believe that one should call the Dominant whatever She/He wishes to be called.  it tends to keep things simpler that way.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/4/2006 5:29:45 AM   
slaveladyj


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Status: offline 		We just started talking, getting to know each other. And spent most of our time discussing this. I did agree to refer to him as requested, I just thought for me, it felt wrong, and wondered about what others thought.
But I thank everyone for their replies.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/7/2006 1:53:19 PM   
NControlofU


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

You know...I keep coming back to this thread and I keep thinking that if you are struggling this much with just what to call him then maybe he's not the right one for you.  Just a thought and my opinion.  Probably totally off base with this.


This was my initial feeling, as well.  Sounds like there is probably more than just a "name" issue that might be going on here.  Talk with him about your feelings, openly and honestly, and get to the root of what isn't working for you.  One of two things will happen:  1) You will resolve your issue(s) and develop a deeper understanding with each other or 2) You will realize that this just isn't going to work and you need to move on.  If you don't try to resolve this now, you are likely to remain feeling unsure and/or frustrated.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/7/2006 3:36:05 PM   
sweetbbwsub31


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Status: offline 		i address anyone who is a Dom as "Sir" and agree with you that addressing them by their first name is not respectful. Unless, of course, they tell you to call them something...in that case follow their lead.



< Message edited by sweetbbwsub31 -- 4/7/2006 3:44:10 PM >

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/7/2006 3:41:00 PM   
sublace


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Status: offline 		I always use Sir or Maam.  I guess its just the way I am.

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/7/2006 4:01:01 PM   
zenditz


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Status: offline 		I like address Him however He wants,

I mean some of the time different Doms like different titles.  I like ussually don't start addressing like a potentional Dom as like Sir, until we're like actually getting somewhere, or it like looks like we are.  And I like really if ever like call my Doms Master... although I have like called them that like a few times.

< Message edited by zenditz -- 4/7/2006 4:39:31 PM >

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RE: Question for subs/slaves - 4/7/2006 6:46:34 PM   
ropesubby39


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Status: offline 		If i talk to a Dom, i always call Him Sir unless i am told otherwise.  As for my Master, it always depends on the situation.



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