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RE: Newbie Questions - 3/16/2010 6:59:04 AM

GraciousLady

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I give this two months and she will be back here asking if it is normal for him to have disapeared and not talked to her or if it was okay that he posted the videos online.

We should start a pool on CM where people can place bets on how long some of these "relationships" will last and rank posters by how close they guess the time and the particulars of the breakup. Would be interesting.

I wonder what happens to all those people who come here wanting advise for totally wrong things then go and do that totally wrong thing anyway. Like, what happened to that young woman who posted her phone number was being put all over the net and she wanted collarme to do something about it? Anyone here from her? I would look her profile up but I blocked her username from my memory to quickly.

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RE: Newbie Questions - 3/16/2010 7:27:04 AM

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At this time, I am corresponding with someone via email, Yahoo IM, and phone....he seems perfect for me in many ways...and I hope he will eventually be my Master...

He already refers to me as slave, but says I must earn the right to call him Master...i thought the two were connected....am I wrong?

Also, i listed on my profile (at his request and with great pleasure!) that we were corresponding and he was training me, but he says he will list nothing about me on his....is this the usual?

As a Master/Slave relationship develops, should I expect some rights...are all of the rights his? I hope I am asking these questions in the proper manner and with clarity....

Any advice would be appreciated!

first off, if you hadn't submitted to Him then you have all the rights in the world including the right to tell Him to go boil His head. Though frankly why (Other than desperation and fantasy) a girl would submit to a Guy she has never actually met is beyond Me. Anyone can portray themselves as anything they want from behind a keyboard, or being 'in character' in front of a cam or on the phone for an hour. That doesn't signify who they are day to day.... and Who they are day to day is the person you need to be concerned about.

If you have submitted to Him on M/s terms then He can call you whatever He damn well pleases and if He decides you need to 'earn the right to call Him Master' then you need to earn the right. If you hand over Authority to Someone then don't be surprised that they use it.

As for listing on profiles, again, if you have submitted to Him... you follow HIS rules and it doesn't matter what anyone her says. Personally however such would be rather a red flag.... as I've seen it too often with those who have suckered some girl into a supposedly one on one 'relationship' (All to often they have never met... but gosh don't they have fun on cam!) but the girl never gets put on HIS profile because it would tip off the other two or three that also believe they are in a one on one situation with him, (Who have also never met him, but gosh don't they have good phone sex.... etc.)

If you want rights... stick to being a sub, if you enter the M/s arena then your rights are whatever your master says they are (Outside of those where He ends up on the recieving end of a leathal injection if He doesn't observe them!). The only RIGHT My girl has is to withdraw consent and leave.... this only works because of consent and it is the only thing she can't give up if this stays in the realms of reality... other than that, this works because she trusts in Me to handle that Authority properly.

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RE: Newbie Questions - 3/16/2010 9:45:14 AM

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Actually, I think there was a thread about that not to long ago. If I remember correctly, he ended up raping her daughter and she left him. Not sure what the current status is though.

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RE: Newbie Questions - 3/16/2010 12:46:52 PM

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Ok... new meat. 10 days on the site and already found by a master... what are the odds?

PRETTY DAMNED GOOD!

I probably had a couple dozen inquiries trying to spark the submissive side in me when I joined. LOL if I didn't find it laughable that each and every one of them assumed I was clueless and new, it might have made me irritable. If I had been new to this I still wouldn't have fallen for it because in my profession I have been trained to look at the underlying cause. In your case it is that fresh meat smell. It is a great lure for the bottom feeders.

Now for your questions.
If you are HIS slave, then he is your master. Otherwise in my opinion if he is referring to you as slave, then you are just some random person he has decided is A slave. Which might make sense for the next question. If he is thinking of you as some random slave, then why would he mention you on his profile? It is not like you belong to him.

How many rights you have are dependent on a few things. How gullible are you? How much thought did you put into YOUR choice in a master. And if in fact you do want a master and not a dominant.

You have been here 10 days. How much thought did you put in so far?

Of course, it might be that both of you are here to get the juices flowing for a bit of cyber-nookie. If that is the case you are on the right track!

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RE: Newbie Questions - 3/16/2010 3:17:34 PM

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Most of it seems normal as for as im concerned if your his slave then its none of your business what he puts on his profile or has you place on yours its not your place to question then. If I instructed my girl not to call me master then id expect her to do that with out needing a reason just accepting my decision but we also exist in the real world not over the internet. and yes in a master slave relationship all the rights are his at least thats how I do it. Now if your not his slave that changes some things I suppose.

Really? All that is normal for people who have known each other for 10 days or less and haven't even met? If you say so.

Ahhhh... to be 19 and naive again; how I miss those days. [/sarcasm]

Its not being naive...

If I agreed with you, then we'd both be wrong.

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RE: Newbie Questions - 3/17/2010 12:32:14 AM

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Most of it seems normal as for as im concerned if your his slave then its none of your business what he puts on his profile or has you place on yours its not your place to question then. If I instructed my girl not to call me master then id expect her to do that with out needing a reason just accepting my decision but we also exist in the real world not over the internet. and yes in a master slave relationship all the rights are his at least thats how I do it. Now if your not his slave that changes some things I suppose.

Really? All that is normal for people who have known each other for 10 days or less and haven't even met? If you say so.

Ahhhh... to be 19 and naive again; how I miss those days. [/sarcasm]

Its not being naive if it works. Its true that they haven't meet but then that means its all fantasy just an online game. Like a show they viddy to get off. My own girl told that some take online seriously though I couldn't believe someone wanted my permission to talk to her online she told me and I had a nice little chuckle over that. To each his own I suppose if it works for some veck let him have it. I did say that mine was real world and said that if she was not his slave then it changes things. If she is though then as far as im concerned its all normal.

If I agreed with you, then we'd both be wrong.

There was once an occasion where I thought I was wrong turns out I was very mistaken.

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RE: Newbie Questions - 3/17/2010 12:37:20 AM

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Guys, please trim your quotes unless you want a quiet Mod with a big stick up in here.

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