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sirsholly -> RE: What would you do............. (3/25/2010 7:33:41 AM)
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Other than that , this sounds like one of those silly lifestyle things to Me. It seems to Me that some people place more import on roles and activity than on the folks they are involved in. With all due respect to Jefffffffffffffffffff, i do not see it as a lifestyle thing at all, with the exception that his role of "Dom" gives him the freedom to express what he would not dare express with a vanilla partner.
I know Potsie pretty well (and love the hell out of her) but admit to knowing very little about Whasshisname, so i am shooting blind here, but shooting none the less.
It sounds to me like Pots is the bright light here in the social arena...bubbly, funny, cute, well liked, personable, etc (i need to stop before i puke). That bright light is partnered with a dud. Perhaps Pots does not see hid duddly ass as such...but that is how he sees himself. He feels overshadowed...sees himself as lacking with social skills, etc. He has tried to keep up, to match her vivaciousness, and failed each time, and he cannot tolerate that.
Wereas a vanilla man would find a reason to end the relationship (blaming her, of course), the "Dom" feels it is his right to demand she change, while offering no valid reason for that request. He is using his dominant role to try to force suppression of the part of Pots personality that he envies.
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