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subtee -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 6:47:52 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

It's fair, and in a sense, it's also connected.  There would have been comfortable sitting on the train if the pass hadn't been lost, wouldn't there?  For at least a little while, the discomfort you expect to be having while riding the train will be a very good reminder not to lose things of such importance.

As to your other question, no.  I do not negotiate punishments.  I don't have to punish clip often, but when I do, what course of action is decided by Me.



LadyPact rocks.



littlewonder -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 7:24:06 PM)

I don't think he's being fair enough. Spanking doesn't seem to work very well on you since you've repeated losing things over and over again. I'd make you go without the bank card for awhile instead of replacing it. Make you have to ask for something until you've learned how to handle one responsibly. Good thing I'm a slave and not a Master though.

Imo you need to learn to grow up and accept your position since it's what you agreed to when you entered a relationship with him.



wisdomtogive -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 8:49:39 PM)

yes, if punishment is his thing.

i assume you knew that prior to being his, so why come on here and question his authority over you? Sorry this in itself makes zero sense to me.

I do not though feel you are being fair to your sir.



littlegirlangel -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 9:02:40 PM)

As a submissive myself I do believe that the punishment is fair considering how many times you said you've lost cards in the past six months. Hopefully you'll learn to put them back where they belong after you use them.

I haven't been punished by Daddy yet, I do tease him about keeping count of my "checks" (we use a chalkboard to keep track of ticks, when I get to five then its punishment time) but if I did something bad enough to get punished then I'd just go with it. Daddy's fairly easy going unless you step over a line big time.



BKSir -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 9:06:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I don't think he's being fair enough. Spanking doesn't seem to work very well on you since you've repeated losing things over and over again. I'd make you go without the bank card for awhile instead of replacing it. Make you have to ask for something until you've learned how to handle one responsibly. Good thing I'm a slave and not a Master though.

Imo you need to learn to grow up and accept your position since it's what you agreed to when you entered a relationship with him.


Precisely this, yes.  Almost verbatim what I was going to say, littlewonder.

And were you my sub and I saw this thread, the spanking over the lost pass would be the least of your worries, I daresay.



takemeforyourown -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 9:14:49 PM)

It kind of sounds like you're unhappy with the arrangement and need to either renegotiate or run.



Phoenixpower -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 9:25:23 PM)

well, there is nothing to add anymore really...though it makes me wonder are YOU organising the replacement of those cards or does he has to do that for you...because quite frankly it already got on my nerves when at times (rarely) I missplaced my travel card (which is valid for years, so not an issue) and had to get a new one, so make damn sure to know where my cards are...so of course it is fair and if I would be with you (though as well, thankfully I am not from the dom side) I would make sure you organise the replacement card and live on cash when you obviously cant handle having a card in the first place...no worries here, then we both would know it would not get lost another time [:)]

and well, your traincard I would secure on your coat on a metal chain that it stays in place...might be a lil bit embarrassing but would not bother me as a Dom as once again...at least it would not get lost [:)]

Alternatively (depending on the distance) I would make you walk the distance for a change instead of using public transport...as a kid when I was about 12 I walked to town with a friend which took us about 90 minutes or 2 hours...didn't kill us and i did the same again when I was about 17 as at a certain time of the day no fucking bus came for ages...maybe that would help you as well to learn to look after your valuables...

I seriously could not afford to lose my stuff on such a frequent basis over here considering that my family network (which isn't great either) is nowhere near me as they are in a different country. So if I would lose my items on your level I would not consider myself as being fit to live on my own abroad as I grew out of the age of needing to be looked after (and still some years to go until I might reach the other age for such a stage...)

So good luck to you [:)]

edited due to typo



WyldHrt -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 9:35:37 PM)

Another sub chiming in to say yes, it's fair; and add a third/fourth/ninth whatever to those who said that posting here looking for backup was a very bad move.

That said, and in the spirit of being helpful, you might want to get one of these:
http://www.ubiquitousproducts.com/
I have a wallet like this. Once a card is removed, the wallet will not close until the card has been replaced. This will keep you from leaving bank cards in stores, or tossing them in the car change holder or on the seat instead of putting them back where they belong. Of course, you do have to make sure that you don't lose the wallet, but maybe seeing that "card guard" every time you use it will be a little reminder to keep track of such things.



Phoenixpower -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 10:00:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

Of course, you do have to make sure that you don't lose the wallet, but maybe seeing that "card guard" every time you use it will be a little reminder to keep track of such things.



well, that wallet or card guard could just be added onto the chain with her travel ticket...then it should stay in place [:)] or to avoid that she could lose the coat with the chain, the chain could also be locked around the neck at times when she is out of the house...



wandersalone -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 10:36:21 PM)

wow if I even thought about questioning a punishment or if it was fair I would be out the door



mastersslut69 -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 11:21:33 PM)

Hi
thanks to you all for taking the time to reply. Your posts actually helped - you've made me feel bad for questioning him and even asking the question is it fair? It was asked 'is my master a fair person
- the answer is yes he is incredibly fair so I don't know why I questioned this. I think I'm testing boundaries and master says that I'm used to getting my own way but he won't tolerate that kind of behaviour from me. I guess i was just trying it on trying to get out of this. I shouldn't have done that. I trust his guidance on everything in my life so there's no reason to question this is there? I'm just not looking forward to it. I think when I know I'm getting punished I get anxious as it's not exactly
pleasant is it and was hoping for some sympathy maybe. Thanks for your time. I will ask him to help me organise myself so that I don't keep repeating the behaviour though. I don't want to be black and blue again on my ass in another 6 months. Thanks



mastersslut69 -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 11:27:32 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

It's fair, and in a sense, it's also connected.  There would have been comfortable sitting on the train if the pass hadn't been lost, wouldn't there?  For at least a little while, the discomfort you expect to be having while riding the train will be a very good reminder not to lose things of such importance.

As to your other question, no.  I do not negotiate punishments.  I don't have to punish clip often, but when I do, what course of action is decided by Me.



This really helped me. Thank you.



BKSir -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/26/2010 11:33:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mastersslut69

Hi
thanks to you all for taking the time to reply. Your posts actually helped - you've made me feel bad for questioning him and even asking the question is it fair? It was asked 'is my master a fair person
- the answer is yes he is incredibly fair so I don't know why I questioned this. I think I'm testing boundaries and master says that I'm used to getting my own way but he won't tolerate that kind of behaviour from me. I guess i was just trying it on trying to get out of this. I shouldn't have done that. I trust his guidance on everything in my life so there's no reason to question this is there? I'm just not looking forward to it. I think when I know I'm getting punished I get anxious as it's not exactly
pleasant is it and was hoping for some sympathy maybe. Thanks for your time. I will ask him to help me organise myself so that I don't keep repeating the behaviour though. I don't want to be black and blue again on my ass in another 6 months. Thanks


Now that is admirable, and, in my experience, most d-types tend to be pleased and even proud when their s-type comes to them and openly says "please sir/ma'am, will you help me with this to better myself for you?"

As far as not looking forward to it... well, that's why it's called 'punishment', not 'a trip to the amusement park'. ;)

Best of luck... oh... and sit carefully for a while. [:D]



LadyPact -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/27/2010 12:10:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mastersslut69


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

It's fair, and in a sense, it's also connected.  There would have been comfortable sitting on the train if the pass hadn't been lost, wouldn't there?  For at least a little while, the discomfort you expect to be having while riding the train will be a very good reminder not to lose things of such importance.

As to your other question, no.  I do not negotiate punishments.  I don't have to punish clip often, but when I do, what course of action is decided by Me.



This really helped me. Thank you.

I'm glad it did.  I will wish you well.  My regards to your Master.



wandersalone -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/27/2010 12:16:49 AM)

OP kudos to you for taking the comments with good grace and turning this thread into a learning opportunity for you.  I wish you and your Master well [:)]



WyldHrt -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/27/2010 12:35:46 AM)

Nicely done, OP. I'm very glad that you found the responses helpful, and took them to heart.
Best of luck to you and your Master.



GraciousLady -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/27/2010 12:48:29 AM)

your 33 and you keep losing bank cards. you are on here having an adolescent temper tantrum. The issue here is not are you being treated fairly by your master. The issues here can be many.

~your not responsiable maybe? That is something you can work on. Keeping your hands on important things is something all 33 year old women should do easily.
~your not mature maybe? your on here pouting. Grown ups do not pout. They deal with a situation.
~your not in a relationship that is right for you maybe? If you don't like what is happening between you and your Master talk to him. He's already asked you for alternatives. Communication is key to all relationships.



sirsholly -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/27/2010 3:38:54 AM)

My first thought was "WANK material!!" but after reading this:
quote:

I've lost about 3 bank cards and my train pass already this past 6 months

i seriously suggest professional help to the OP...



Elisabella -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/27/2010 5:40:38 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I don't think he's being fair enough. Spanking doesn't seem to work very well on you since you've repeated losing things over and over again. I'd make you go without the bank card for awhile instead of replacing it. Make you have to ask for something until you've learned how to handle one responsibly. Good thing I'm a slave and not a Master though.

Imo you need to learn to grow up and accept your position since it's what you agreed to when you entered a relationship with him.


Exactly. I think in this case spanking is a fairly useless punishment that will do absolutely nothing to resolve the problem in future.



LadyAngelika -> RE: Do you think my master is being fair? (3/27/2010 7:18:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

I don't think loosing so much stuff will be solved with punishment
He needs to learn you how to be tidy...but ok...some only punish..and don't teach...it is the easy way.



Let's put the D/s portion aside for a moment.

The OP has issues with losing things and misplacing things. There are a few possible explanations for this. Possibly she just has an absent minded personality. One is that she is stressed or overwhelmed and this is leaving her distracted. Then again, this can be a sign of depression. And of course, she could just be careless.

I don't see how physical punishment is going to fix any of these really, except for maybe the last one. I fact I would add that punishing you without addressing the issue of why you are losing and misplacing things is irresponsible.

I know that back before we understood dyslexia and other learning disabilities and that physical punishment was allowed in schools, many a child got beaten for their learning difficulties. And of course, this did not solve the learning difficulties.

OP, if you dynamic is set up that you are going to be physically punished for these things, then it's best you accept what you agreed to. But I would ask him if after the punishment, he might help you figure out why you have this pattern. Then once you get to the root of the problem, you can start working on it to avoid further punishment.

- LA



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