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ORIGINAL: BigEyes

I have been offered money recently for humiliation, and although the cash is tempting, that is just not why I am here or infact who I am. If I was a pro domme I would advertise as one. Has anyone else had this, and if so what was your reaction?
Big Eyes

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ORIGINAL: MsMacComb

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ORIGINAL: BigEyes

I have been offered money recently for humiliation, and although the cash is tempting, that is just not why I am here or infact who I am. If I was a pro domme I would advertise as one. Has anyone else had this, and if so what was your reaction?
Big Eyes

 

You are rather new to this I presume and rather young. Don't listen to anybody's bullshit (if they are coping the "moral" attitude or that of emotional nonsense). Everybody is selling something and buying something. Everybody has needs and desires and somebody, one way or the other, is willing to pay for it, either through cash or time, effort and emotional attachment. Think of it like this, 40 years from now you will be old, wrinkled, decrepit and who will take care of you? If for some reason you don't have a large family, don't end up married into money or inherit it, you may well be screwed in your old age and I don't mean in a good way. Life can be harsh and brutal. Make money where you can (and no I am not advising becoming a hooker, not that theres anything wrong with that) and when you can. You obviously enjoy some aspects of this so take the ball and run with it. As an aside I will attach a link of one of the main female adult owned entertainment companies. If you read through it you will see her company will gross $30 Million and about half, $15 Million is expected to be profit, and she has sex with her husband now ONLY. This is from Forbes Magazine so its not B.S. Money doesnt buy happiness but take it from one who knows, it buys a lot to offset misery.  
Take control of your own destiny. In 10 or so years this option (based on looks) will no longer be open to you. If you are open to it, make a website, control how its done, do what you want and retire by the time you are 30.
http://www.forbes.com/free_forbes/2005/0704/124.html

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ORIGINAL: BigEyes

I have been offered money recently for humiliation, and although the cash is tempting, that is just not why I am here or infact who I am. If I was a pro domme I would advertise as one. Has anyone else had this, and if so what was your reaction?

Big Eyes

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

As a Pro,I get the same type of thing,they think because I am Pro I should do anything and not have limits.Often they even feel like I have to session with them again just because I am a Pro.

I still have the right to choose what I will and wont do,not matter how much money is offered.
My advice would  be this: Be true to yourself and you cant go wrong.

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ORIGINAL: MsMacComb

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ORIGINAL: BigEyes

I have been offered money recently for humiliation, and although the cash is tempting, that is just not why I am here or infact who I am. If I was a pro domme I would advertise as one. Has anyone else had this, and if so what was your reaction?
Big Eyes

 

You are rather new to this I presume and rather young. Don't listen to anybody's bullshit (if they are coping the "moral" attitude or that of emotional nonsense). Everybody is selling something and buying something. Everybody has needs and desires and somebody, one way or the other, is willing to pay for it, either through cash or time, effort and emotional attachment. Think of it like this, 40 years from now you will be old, wrinkled, decrepit and who will take care of you? If for some reason you don't have a large family, don't end up married into money or inherit it, you may well be screwed in your old age and I don't mean in a good way. Life can be harsh and brutal. Make money where you can (and no I am not advising becoming a hooker, not that theres anything wrong with that) and when you can. You obviously enjoy some aspects of this so take the ball and run with it. As an aside I will attach a link of one of the main female adult owned entertainment companies. If you read through it you will see her company will gross $30 Million and about half, $15 Million is expected to be profit, and she has sex with her husband now ONLY. This is from Forbes Magazine so its not B.S. Money doesnt buy happiness but take it from one who knows, it buys a lot to offset misery.  
Take control of your own destiny. In 10 or so years this option (based on looks) will no longer be open to you. If you are open to it, make a website, control how its done, do what you want and retire by the time you are 30.
http://www.forbes.com/free_forbes/2005/0704/124.html

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ORIGINAL: MistressImp

I love the whole Upping the Anity....but I have to contribute... I've had the ones messaging me to serve.... and after I inform them I am not looking at this time, and good luck with their search..... I've gotten back several times messages begging to purchase everything and anything of mine..... from floggers to panties to knee socks LOL.....I've gotten to the point of responding to this with..... Okay I'm Mistress Imp..... not Ebay.

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ORIGINAL: MsMacComb
Everybody is selling something and buying something. Everybody has needs and desires and somebody, one way or the other, is willing to pay for it, either through cash or time, effort and emotional attachment. Think of it like this, 40 years from now you will be old, wrinkled, decrepit and who will take care of you? If for some reason you don't have a large family, don't end up married into money or inherit it, you may well be screwed in your old age and I don't mean in a good way. Life can be harsh and brutal. Make money where you can (and no I am not advising becoming a hooker, not that theres anything wrong with that) and when you can. You obviously enjoy some aspects of this so take the ball and run with it.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
She said she isn't into it and that's not who she is.  Yet you give her the "take the money and run" attitude and try to scare her with a picture of being old, poor and unable to earn a living because she is no longer pretty? 

A little bit of projecting on your part?  A little bit of trying to justify YOUR fears and why you do things for money, even though you are not into it orit makes you uncomfortable?  Are you going to be an old hag in ten years and unable to earn any money?

No amount of cash is worth betraying yourself, your morals and your own codes.  She said she wasn't into it and that's not who she is. NO amount of money should tempt her to change her mind.  And, no amount of WEALTH will make up the regret she feels in her heart, or how it impacts her moral code -- you know that thing rubbing her conscience right now and making her think, "Wow...easy money...wow...this guy is asking me to humiliate him for cash..that's not who I am though...what do I do?"
What sad advice you give her, and what a sad woman you are.
Oh, and by the way, you can have millions of dollars and still be a miserable, old and ugly woman.  And -- alone.
To the OP -- follow your heart.  Do not focus on money or cash, and you will have all the wealth the world can offer. Do what makes your heart SING when you look for a career, do what makes you glow. If you are earning money but feel guilt, remorse or like you are taking advantage of someone, or not being TRUE to yourself...you are not in the right line of work.  It's also not fair and honest to the poor guys paying you.
Akasha

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ORIGINAL: disretion7

Dear MsMacComb
 
Well said!  Knowing (as I do) what it means to grow old without being wealthy, I hope others pay heed to your wise counsel on that matter.
 
Still, I thought others many made great points both pro and con.  It is, ultimately, a matter of being true to oneself, the better to be true to others. 
 
Not having encountered dominatrices until late in life, I was of the initial mistaken impression that ALL dommes are pro-dommes and I came under seven of them before I ever heard of purely lifestyle dommes.  That became a moot point, in practical terms, however, since I was never, subsequently, able to persuade a lifestyle domme to take me under no matter how deferential or conciliatory the spirit of my request.  Perhaps I'm too flawed to be a suitable lifestyle sub?
 
As to the OVERALL trend of money offerings that others are complaining of, perhaps that is because there seems to be many pro-dommes here, who make no bones about expecting financial tributes, some demanding "good faith" financial tributes before they will even book a session.  One such domme took my "good faith" tribute and, then, broke further communicaion with me. I reported this to Collarme support, but she remains one of the first dommes displayed here whenever I logon. Perhaps she reciprocates just enough good faith (to others) so as not to unduly trouble Collarme support? 
 
Of course, it was thoroughly discussed (on another thread) with most (myself included) agreeing that I lost my money for being a fool and most agreeing that a pro-domme should not solicit good faith tributes with no intent to reciprocate.
 
In any case, it seems the nature of this venue is that, so long as its broad membership wants (or will tolerate) ALL kinds of representation here, that is what we shall continue to have, all the way from purists to rip-offs.
 
Respectfully,
 
disretion7 (Phil)

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ORIGINAL: MsMacComb


Gee, now this seems like a bit of a personal attack to me. Why do I almost feel like I'm being set up? Perhaps its a diabolical plan to piss me off and when I reply in a equally hostile manner than a moderator will ban me, lol.
Haksha, I have everything I could possible want or need in life. Family, friends, health, money, wits, a sense of humor, charm, looks and a sense of priorites. Society makes women feel like anything they may do in the sexual genre as they are then a whore. I disagree. She mentioned the offer was tempting, and I thought perhaps some of her reservations may be tied to the brainwashing that society does to people, especially women. Money is not the issue nor the point but it does provide the freedom to do what you wish as well as the freedom to not have to work for some overbearing boss your whole life. She is free to take my advice, consider it or disregard it, obviously. It makes no difference to me.
So now tell me, are you a moderator or DelightMachine undercover? Or are you his so called Mistress? Again, I feel as if I am being entrapped. Whats with the hostility? I thought we were getting along so swimmingly, lol.  And really Ack, jealousy is not one of your better features. Have a very pleasent.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha



It's rare these days that I get accused of being other people in disguise. I don't think I've had that happen on a forum since 1997 when everyone was Tanith. 

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ORIGINAL: GoddessAlexia

Just tell him you are not a pro and he will understand.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

I wasn't jealous (jealous of what?); I was pointing out that your advice was crappy and could lead to a young woman doing things she did want to do because you put the idea in her head that when she is older, and "no longer pretty" she will be unable to earn money.  Does that also mean the only reason she is being offered money is because of her looks? Gee, how nice.
If you continue to give bad advice, I'll continue to counter it.  I also think you give femdoms a bad name when you encourage a young lady to do something she's not really into for the cash just because she can.  This breeds the financial game of women who are NOT INTO DOMINATING men but still do it online for the money. That's not fair to the submissive.  But you wouldn't know anything about taking advantage of poor sub guys for cash, would you?
Akasha

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ORIGINAL: MsMacComb



I think your real issue is that you have been promoting your fake little agenda for years. Then when someone else comes along and shows a better way, or an alternative and your whole little for profit world is going to come crashing down around you. And your right I wouldn't know anything about taking advantage of "poor sub guys cash" as I have never and will never do it. I could explain the world of business to you but why bother. Anyway, once again its been a pleasure, have a nice evening.