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RE: Offered money?? - 5/7/2006 4:02:55 PM

MsMacComb

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It would be a *hell* of an agenda to operate a free femdom web site for an entire decade before charging money for it. Yeah, that's it, it was my get rich scheme. Never mind my career that has nothing to do with kink.

You're backpaddling off the point enitrely - that is, that you suggested to a woman that she should earn money by doing something she admits not being comfortable now, because when she is old and "not pretty" any longer she might not be able to. Even to say "Think of it like this, 40 years from now you will be old, wrinkled, decrepit and who will take care of you?"

What a sad view of women and their earning potential! I am happy to say I make a fine living with my non kink job; and, when I *do* charge for my kink via my web site, none of it is fake, nor do I do it with any hesitation or regret, as you are encouraging the OP to try to do.

Sure -- go ahead. Encourage more women to go into online domming, humiliation, etc -- to earn money "while they can" -- even if they admit it makes them uneasy. Just what we need -- more women charging online for domination when they are not *sincere*.Akasha

Go read my thread on Porn (its just for you).

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RE: Offered money?? - 5/8/2006 9:16:12 PM

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I have been offered money also, I am not a pro Domme and turn them down because most are wanting sex in reality.
Now I do get alot of gifts, and not from submissives I get most of my gifts from fellow Dominants. Which I find interesting.

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RE: Offered money?? - 5/9/2006 9:23:24 AM

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I have been offered money and drugs, to do things or to sleep with people or play with people. One person on CM has offered me money a few times and I just report him to the cyber division of my local police department. The guy who offered me drugs, was part of a sting, he offered me meth and is not serving time [I posted the IM up on a blog and a friend of mine saw and called me, we set the 'wannabe pimp' up he got what he deserved]. That's what I call justice, he now probably has a new 'girlfriend,' he was 18 and already he is in trouble.

Its disgusting what some people will do and offer.

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RE: Offered money?? - 5/10/2006 10:53:34 AM

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I do realize that not all submissives act that way,if they did I wouldnt have
such a big family.
I frequently ask for a submissives input on a session.

My point was only that even Pros get the attitude from others that money talks and that We should do whatever they want.

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ORIGINAL: disretion7

Dear MistressSassy66,

For as much as other sub/clients may have been so presumptious as to think you would do anything without limits, I have NEVER come on to ANY pro-domme with that attitude.

From the outset, I submit to their TOTAL authority to run the session, as they see fit. I do tell them my FANTASIES, as much because THEY want to know these in order to make the session a good experience all around. Additionally, I defer to THEIR wish to add (or subtract) program elements and they are not bashful about doing either.

So far as I know, dommes ARE dommes precisely because they are good at setting limits and enforcing compliance.

Respectfully,

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

As a Pro,I get the same type of thing,they think because I am Pro I should do anything and not have limits.Often they even feel like I have to session with them again just because I am a Pro.

I still have the right to choose what I will and wont do,not matter how much money is offered.
My advice would be this: Be true to yourself and you cant go wrong.

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RE: Offered money?? - 5/10/2006 8:06:10 PM

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I'd probably do it. I've done a stint as a pro domme, and it was fun. It isn't what I do any more, but it was good fun at the time, and I didn't mind providing a fair and honest service. A straightforward transaction - my skill, energy and time as an experienced dominant for your money - is perfectly ethical and reasonable. Legal even, as it does not involve sex or sex acts per se.

Now it isn't what I'd consider "real" D/s in the sense that the male is actually submitting to my wants and needs. We're having a simple play transaction, each stating what we are willing to give and what we expect to get. Not much different from negotiating, say, a spanking scene at a distant BDSM event with somebody I'm probably never going to see again. We are each honest about what we want out of the scene, and if we can come to a mutually satisfactory arrangement that is a fair exchange of time and energy, it's all in good fun.

I don't think it would occur to me to ask for money, as that is really not what I want from a submissive. But if that was offered honestly as what this person was willing to give in exchange for my time and energy, I'd consider the offer and make sure that our mutual expectations were clearly communicated. If I'm negotiating a scene with a sub, I'm more likely to ask, "Are you willing to let me leave serious marks on your body, welts, broken skin, bruises, blood, etc?" That's the tribute I really want offered to me, the one guaranteed to perk my ears up at a play party and get me seriously interested. Offer me the blank canvas of your skin and let me paint it in cerulean and crimson, and that is a great gift for an artist of the flesh. The jewels I like best are the bright strings of tiny ruby beads that follow in the wake of my blade. There are no flowers as lovely as the delicate rose petals that bloom on white sheets after a heavy caning.

But hey, not all subs are willing to make me happy that way. So if you won't give me what I want out of a session but you still want my time and energy, my innate sense of fairness demands that you be prepared to offer something else that makes my life more pleasant. Money wouldn't be my first choice, but it does make the transaction fair and straightforward rather than selfish and one-sided. So yes, I'd consider it, and I wouldn't be insulted by the offer unless it was clear that I was being treated like a drive-through McDommes.

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