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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: DickSteel
A vanilla would be humiliated to wear an animal collar.
A submissive would be proud to wear their partner's collar.

I didn't realize automatically that all goth folks were kinky. Who knew?

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ORIGINAL: DickSteel

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
.... should not be allowed to touch you through a hazmat suit with a fishing rod mounted on a bargepole.

Also, you might be surprised at the stuff that you think will bother you which actually doesn't-DickSteel's got a point, although he coulda been a bit nicer about expressing it-maybe take it for a test-drive before you dismiss it?

I love the whole hazmat imagery!

About being nicer, the naivety of the OP is glaringly prudish. A vivid verbal comment, whether about about nuns, prudes or even hazmat suits, only serves to get her attention. I believe I shed some light by showing the contrast of her perspective. Actually, I'm not sure I could have been nicer.

She is a little cutie, apparently with big boobs too! If her capacity for passion is half as intense as the look in her eyes, she is wasting her perfectly good inner slut while it collects dust in a closet.

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ORIGINAL: jbcurious

I'm curious... Within BDSM there seems to be a lot, of what in the vanilla world, would be considered derogatory language in regards to subs/slaves.

If someone were to say to me "get me a beer slut" my first reaction is "fuck you" as opposed to "can you grab me a beer" which I'll happily do.

So my questions are...

Is this just the way things are said online and it's different in real life or is this standard terminology in BDSM?

subs/slaves... If you are spoken to in that manner how do you respond... is it positive in confirming your status, do you like it???

Doms/Dommes/Masters/ Mistress's.... Does it help to establish a boundary, of keeping a person in their place?

Or is it just a bunch of words and no one gives it much thought?

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ORIGINAL: jbcurious


I didn't find your reply either nice or mean but rather witty...you made your point and made me laugh as well.

I do however, fail to understand your assumption that I'm a prude or that my "inner slut"

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ORIGINAL: DickSteel

I love the whole hazmat imagery!

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About being nicer, the naivety of the OP is glaringly prudish.

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A vivid verbal comment, whether about about nuns, prudes or even hazmat suits, only serves to get her attention. I believe I shed some light by showing the contrast of her perspective. Actually, I'm not sure I could have been nicer.

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She is a little cutie, apparently with big boobs too! If her capacity for passion is half as intense as the look in her eyes, she is wasting her perfectly good inner slut while it collects dust in a closet.

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ORIGINAL: jbcurious
I didn't find your reply either nice or mean but rather witty...you made your point and made me laugh as well.

I do however, fail to understand your assumption that I'm a prude or that my "inner slut"

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ORIGINAL: jbcurious

To anyone that I didn´t directly reply to...  I appreciate your taking the time to answer, there has been a good variety of answers and I´ve taken them all on board. 

Leadership, you´re always so personal with your replies and I appreciate the use of your and Carols personal experiences in giving me advice. 

VC I always appreciate your replies, honest direct and patient.

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ORIGINAL: DickSteel


I am glad you see my replies in the light in which they are given. When I said I couldn't be nicer, I was sincere in that I didn't think I was being mean.

I stand corrected. You certainly may not be a prude. Your reaction to certain "terms of endearment” seems a bit prudish. Some girls would get hot if they heard "get me a beer slut". If you asked a slave of mine if she was a slut, she would reply that she is the best slut she could be and studying for a degree in whoredom. She might retort that she is not merely a slut but a cock sucking, ass licking, cum whore slut.

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ORIGINAL: Nslavu





prude...(?)



*snickers*

Forget the beer slut, I've changed my mind


In context that means go find a "beer slut". Look in the usual beer slut places, bars, parties, you know. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with beer sluts and I don't understand why people get so weirded out by them.

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ORIGINAL: DickSteel
It's all about humiliation. ...

Along the same lines, a vanilla would be humiliated to be called a slut, bitch, cunt, whore, slave, boy, girl, puppy, pony, kitten, baby, prisoner, pig etc. Most submissive's with an active libido find all that quite stimulating and they a quite happy to hear their partner call them buy these names. Most Dominants get arroused by using these names, especially in the heat of passion. It makes them both cum harder. So, take your inexperienced little cunt on a test drive and try it, you'll like.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite


I don't see anything humiliating about "baby," "kitten" or "girl," and a lot of vanilla people use those, too. So far, I haven't been drawn to verbal humiliation like "slut" or "whore" on either side of things. It's not a hard limit, but it comes across very role-playish and a little stilted. I don't think I'd be humiliated at all by being called a slut or a whore - if it were said in a nasty tone of voice, rather than affectionate or "hot talk" I might get offended or argumentative. I don't think being hot for *MY* Master (or for my partner in past relationships) makes me a whore or a slut, it makes me sexual with *him*. There's nothing wrong with other people being into casual sex, or even being sex workers, but it's not my style.

jbcurious, if my Master decided to call me anything - slut, whore, doormat, or whatever, I'm sure he could use tone and what he was combining it with to make it hot, or to at least be a positive experience in some way. If he kept associating it with pleasure, it's even possible that it would turn me on all by itself. Or, I could be surprised and find that though the idea of it doesn't turn me on at all, the reality does - that's happened with a lot of other things. Online, with someone I have no connection to, someone calling me one of those names would make me cross them off of my list of potentials. I'm the opposite of most of the others here - I wouldn't mind it at all as an endearment outside of play, but I *think* I'd be a little taken aback/distracted/at least momentarily turned off in the heat of play. That's certainly no time to argue semantics, though, so I'd just carry on as best as I could, and think about it/talk with him about it later. When I was looking, if someone had "humiliation" on their profile, I asked them to clarify what their needs and expectations were in that area. Some people considered kneeling, crawling, and giving blowjobs to be humiliating! *giggles* I've been doing BDSM and/or D/s in one form or another, in person, for about 16 years now, and it has never really come up for me. There are other people here who get into humiliation play right off the bat. Keep an open mind, figure out what works for you and what doesn't, take your time getting to know and trust the person, make sure they are reasonable and fair, and you should both be fine regardless of the specific details of the kinks each of you are into.

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ORIGINAL: Nslavu





prude...(?)



*snickers*

Forget the beer slut, I've changed my mind


In context that means go find a "beer slut". Look in the usual beer slut places, bars, parties, you know. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with beer sluts and I don't understand why people get so weirded out by them.

You have the advantage of having known me and my posts for 3 years... you have indeed done these poor people a disservice by introducing me to this site...

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

jbcurious, I figure my Master can do just about *any* activity in a way that I will love, or at least can handle, or to a degree that is more than I can take. I think a lot of people focus so much on limits relating to activities, that they lose sight of that. I trust my Master to be able to read my body language most of the time, or to listen to me/check in with me if I express a difficulty I'm having. I hope you find someone who you can similarly trust, for the journey into the good places and the bad.