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LadyConstanze -> RE: 'Other Dommes don't like...' (4/3/2010 1:07:58 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Some dommes don't even feel un-dommely being on their knees and giving a man a BJ (or so I hear).  I suspect that they might feel a little differently if the man's resting his pint on her head at the time, though. 




Will he still have his penis at the end or are they biting it off?



domiguy -> RE: 'Other Dommes don't like...' (4/3/2010 1:20:13 PM)

Just another reason why the community is full of shit heads and should probably be avoided.

Very odd thing to have happen. I wonder if this would have happened to a man? Not to sound sexist, it's just a very odd set of circumstances.

I Come out here quite routinely and rag on my Domme sistahs. Some of you I truly adore. I think it is difficult for some of you to be in your position and to have a clear cut idea of what you are supposed to be doing.

Upon being approached and once I realized the direction that the conversation was heading there would have definitely been a slew of "go fuck yourself's" followed by wanting to know who sent the errand boy over and where they were located.

No one puts baby in a corner.



hardbodysub -> RE: 'Other Dommes don't like...' (4/3/2010 6:28:03 PM)

VaguelyCurious, as everybody else has already said, you're completely in the right. There's no universal rule about dominants staying higher than their subs, and anybody who says so is full of BS. There are plenty of cliches that the "establishment" tries to get everyone to accept: subs must keep eyes cast downward, subs must dress a certain way, or use a particular method of address when they speak to dominants, all kinds of things. It all boils down to how you fell about it, and what you want. Outside of the general concepts of safety, respect, and the dominant being in charge, I can't think of any universal rules.

You've been confronted by the hubris of the guardians of the one true way, those who accept without question the ways of those who taught them, those who try to get everyone to see it their way because "that's the way it's done", tradition, the way they learned from their teachers, and their teachers' teachers before them. It's one of the most irritating and foolish aspects of the BDSM community.

In regard to your DM friend, since he appears to have been acting out of kindness, and trying to help you out, it's probably not fair to be pissed at him. Although I do find the condescension somewhat insulting, I think an appropriate emotion would be disappointment at his naive acceptance of such foolishness.





Stilletta -> RE: 'Other Dommes don't like...' (4/15/2010 8:03:42 PM)

Sounds like the guy was trying to be a help. If I am in a situation and strict protocol is to be followed then , no the sub cannot be above me and he must walk behind me. That said those instances are rare, like when Im at some kind of fair or Domme contest,or something fun like that . The bottom line for me on a daily basis is I do what I want the way I want , the slave obeys and to heck with protocol, my slave and I define our own rules/ hard limits etc.. You sit whenever you want!



ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: 'Other Dommes don't like...' (4/15/2010 8:27:08 PM)

Fuck them. Unless you were violating some house rule, I think you should have told him, "Oh. Well, tell them that this domme doesn't like it when other people can't keep from minding their own damned business." And it was a house rule, I'd be very disinclined to patronize a facility with such idiotic policies. 



SteveNjaz -> RE: 'Other Dommes don't like...' (4/16/2010 1:21:16 AM)

I am on the side of the ones that say 'its cool to be on the floor'!
If your not allowed beneath your sub, how are you going to do cbt on him when he's all strapped to a St Andrews Cross?!?
When he's suspended on the ceiling and your poking at him with a little stick, how are you going to be above him?!?
You have to do what feels right to you but that's not to say you shouldn't take constructive criticism from a friend, providing it is constructive.
I trained with a London Mistress that was hugely critical and although I found that tough sometimes, she was often right and her criticisms did help. She would stand and observe me doing what I thought was a great scene, only to take me to one side afterward and criticize a number of things. I would still be all geed up in Domme mode and I can remember feeling resentful. On the other hand, if we sat down for coffee in her kitchen and she said 'by the way, I need to talk to you about that scene with so and so the other day' I would be all ears because when I wasn't in Domme mode I accepted being her apprentice.

I will drop you a line on the other side

Maria



slvemike4u -> RE: 'Other Dommes don't like...' (4/16/2010 9:01:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I wouldn't have taken offence at his approach if it was clear he was trying to be constructive.

That said, the idea that some other Dommes wouldn't like my style of domination really wouldn't have any impact on me.

Then again, I don't go to public dungeons, partly for reasons like this.

On a side note, I'm imagining you in an evening dress and 4" heels ;-) Hot!

- LA
And I'm imagining finding some way to cajole,talk or beg you to venture out to a public play space....The energy and buzz that can be had while playing in public is awesome.
Of course being a sub I must stop short of telling you that it is the one true way to bdsm nirvana....that would be topping from the bottom and I have sworn to avoid such behavior.[:D]



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