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perfectflaw00 -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/24/2010 4:29:24 AM)

Exactly I'm very much the dominant personality when it comes to school, work, personal/family life always have been. But with the right person all of that melts away and I find myself completely at ease with my submissiveness.



heartfeltsub -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/24/2010 7:38:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub
To add to that, because i am submissive and live in Las Vegas, i must somehow be available to every Tom, "dick" and Harry who is coming to Vegas for a week.
What about Jeff though? Are you available for for me if I come out to Vegas? If not, I'm cancelling my tickets and and drowning my sorrow in a bowl of french vanilla ice cream.


When are you heading to Vegas as i am moving in about 2 weeks.



elleX -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/24/2010 9:07:55 AM)

Greetings , 
i have readed  most of the previous post , they talk about the slaves been describe as a doormat , not been allowed to have opinion and so on
i would like to add my 2 cents about the Dominants  that are also subjet to stereotypes ;
they sometimes expected to have  all the knowledge , been responsable for everything in a relation  ,
not showing any weakness of any kind , and so on and on  ( and that disturb me as much as the submissive stereotypes can do )

i think all of this, been it in the submissive   , or the dominant area express how rigid we sometime get to be ,,
it is not about black or white , good or bad , ,,
we have  to learn some flexibility at times

wishes you well,, on that beautiful sunny day !






sunshinemiss -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/24/2010 12:26:32 PM)


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...Dominants are also subjet to stereotypes ;
they sometimes expected to have all the knowledge , been responsable for everything in a relation ,
not showing any weakness of any kind , and so on and on ( and that disturb me... as much as the submissive stereotypes can do )


Oh, that's not a stereotype. That's true. [:D]



Firebirdseeking -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/24/2010 4:40:33 PM)

What I dislike, including the word "slut", is that a sub is sexually available to ANYONE, and that we can be approached with any kind of smutty come on, like "Are you shaved?" or "Are you a three hole sub?"

This kind of approach made me ill.




pyroaquatic -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/24/2010 5:28:08 PM)

I loathe stereotypes.

A Lazy Brain creates a stereotype because it is EASY. You don't even have to observe/watch/listen/hear for idiosyncrasy and individuals. No effort, no sweat move on to the next.
<sarcasm>
Yup... you have deduced in a split second that a person is this and that because they are (enter your own stereotype). You have it all figured out you stereotypical prick. File them people in your little categories that have no room for expansion. JACKMONKEYTWITTLEFITS!!!! If they do grow where do you put them in NOW?!!! zdfkhgz/cjxZC
</sarcasm>
Leave the stereotypes at the door or I will have Jackmonkey get you.

o_O




littlewonder -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/24/2010 8:20:23 PM)

all slaves are poly, all like pain, are exhibitionists, all are brainless twits and they all are whores and sluts and frequent bdsm clubs to play casually with anyone who may be free.



Icarys -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/24/2010 9:27:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Hello Icarys and Jeff,

Thank you for your answers. What a way to look at things! This topic has been brought up with a number of submissive women. We've talked about being afraid that the men would be bored if we were too compliant. Those very words have come out of my mouth a time or two in fact. There is a fear when we get really vulnerable, all that openness and then we become boring. Funny, isn't it? I've heard people say it, but seeing it in words is different somehow. And now, the thing you all are saying is attractive is such a ... well almost dangerous thing for the other side of things as Jeff, you pointed out with this:

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had Carol ended up with someone who didn't love her as I do, those doormatish qualities might well have turned out poorly for her


And that may be the crux of things.


Now - to stereotypes - ... I don't like the stereotype that smart people are "know it alls".

Best,
sunshine


*wee typo

Also a critical point:

On more than a few occasions I've seen that fear rob people of being vulnerable (What I consider paramount for a M/s relationship to work on both sides)  to the point where they aren't being who they truly are or want to be either. So which path at that point does a person choose? The one they say they want or the one that they settle for?



AlexandraLynch -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/25/2010 1:52:02 AM)

Oh, there's a host of them. That because I am female and have a dominant personality and top exclusively that therefore I must be into a certain list of fetishes, for one.  (If I want to buy anyone panties, I'll buy them for me.)

That all us people who enjoy pain play can't handle doing non-pain play and that we're just lurking and waiting to pull out the bullwhip. (rolls eyes). 

That if you are dominant and female you can't have penetrative sex without somehow losing your dominance. Or oral sex, unless recieving.

Probably there are more.



HybridMoments -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/25/2010 2:42:12 AM)

That one where Cubans like myself are all mexicans when we visit L.A., or Puerto Ricans when we hit NYC. Also, that I can play baseball, because, ya'know, I can't.




RuffneckandHis -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/25/2010 6:46:42 AM)

The one that irritates me most is when people assume that just because I am totally submissive to my Master that means I am a doormat or a push over or even lack self esteem. Personally, I believe that couldn't be further from the truth. It takes a strong woman to be able to submit in such a way, IMO but some people will never get it.



KitttyMeowX -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/27/2010 11:48:08 AM)

My favorite.  White girls choosing black masters because " they have a bigger cock."

*Groans*

"I like older dom/mes (older than 40 +) for a master/Mistress. (because they think because older they may know more.

Those are two of the more common ones I have seen browsing profiles.

The other.  Slaves should have no limits.  Does this mean if Impishkitteh told me to jump off a cliff I should obey him? 

Ah yes, the other one we were thinking of. If you do not obey someone who does not respect you are owned, they call you a moron or a fake and not "slave enough."  "suck my cock now.  no, I owned.  Well then you aren't a slave because you aren't obedient."



Smutmonger -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/27/2010 12:33:22 PM)

"my precious gift of sumission"

Usually code for-"You have ten miles of hoops to jump through to get pussy-snap to it boy!"



petmonkey -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/30/2010 8:34:10 AM)

Quiet sub = zero personality, zero brains, zero opinions.

Ran into this one recently. It would have been a good moment to have a slingshot or a peashooter.
---pet "raised hackles" monkey



Mercnbeth -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/30/2010 9:52:49 AM)

the assumption that in order to be a "real" or "true" slave, one must be held against one's will within a society that condones/supports the legal ownership of a human being.



whispersub -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/30/2010 10:24:48 AM)

Pretty much what's been listed here, re: being viewed as spineless, or a doormat, or when I am not silently obeying anyone who claims to be a Dom or giving them special treatment (I don't) being told I'm somehow a bad sub or not obedient enough.. puhleaze.

I will say it's frustrating if you are into pain and humiliation for people to not understand that that's within the context of an otherwise trusting bond. In no way does that mean if a total stranger were to approach me, slap me and then rip off my top in public, that I'd somehow be turned on by and like that.. so it's frustrating to try to get across that yes, I am masochistic, etc but it's not something I'm willing to just leap straight into. I'm okay with being called "slut" but we better have the kind of relationship where you know you can use it on me before saying it. For a stranger to call me that is just offensive.





ShoreBound149 -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (4/30/2010 9:20:02 PM)

These are too many to list but here are a few stereotypes in the lifestyle that really annoy me:

Asian subs are bad drivers
Black doms are good at sports
Switch Jews are frugal
Poly Mexicans are here illegally
Masochistic gays are very artistic



Daddysredhead -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (5/1/2010 12:03:26 AM)

FR:  submissive = weak......  um, no.... actually, hell no



tigreetsa -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (5/1/2010 1:12:14 AM)

Hate is probably too strong a word, but me being transgendered often leads to people disputing or rejecting my identity in favour of their assumptions and this is always disappointing.

I also don't get the assumptions that someone who is dominant is superior and someone who is submissive is inferior.

I am not a transgendered, I am not a submissive, I am a human being just the same as everyone else.



WyldHrt -> RE: Stereotypes you hate? (5/1/2010 1:31:23 AM)

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I am not a transgendered, I am not a submissive, I am a human being just the same as everyone else.

Quoted for truth. Stereotypes are 'shortcuts' that result from forcing individual human beings into little boxes, according to whatever label seems appropriate.



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