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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:20:25 PM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

When you receive a message on CM, what is it that either attracts you or repulses you from replying to it?  do you prefer long and full of details or short and polite?

I am sure there are many here who can gain some insight from this, myself included.



He told me that my pictures made him hard. And here we are two years later...

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:34:27 PM   
Phoenix73Sir


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


quote:

ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

When you receive a message on CM, what is it that either attracts you or repulses you from replying to it?  do you prefer long and full of details or short and polite?

I am sure there are many here who can gain some insight from this, myself included.



He told me that my pictures made him hard. And here we are two years later...


See!... there;s the problem!! do you be honest and say "You are STUNNING and I want you" and then go from there?  a lot of people don't appreciate that kind of honesty. but keeping it polite can sometimes come across as bland as you try not to objectify or focus on their kink.

I'm as confused as a cow on astro-turf.


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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:37:48 PM   
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See!... there;s the problem!! do you be honest and say "You are STUNNING and I want you" and then go from there?  a lot of people don't appreciate that kind of honesty. but keeping it polite can sometimes come across as bland as you try not to objectify or focus on their kink.

I'm as confused as a cow on astro-turf.



I know, it's so weird...different women actually respond differently to the same thing. Next thing you know you'll have a bunch of women who actually want their partner to call them a slut.

ETA: all facetiousness aside, write what YOU would write, what you would want YOUR ideal woman to respond positively to. You can get all the first dates in the world but if you told them what they wanted to hear rather than being genuine you'll have very few third dates.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:39:25 PM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


quote:

ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

When you receive a message on CM, what is it that either attracts you or repulses you from replying to it?  do you prefer long and full of details or short and polite?

I am sure there are many here who can gain some insight from this, myself included.



He told me that my pictures made him hard. And here we are two years later...


See!... there;s the problem!! do you be honest and say "You are STUNNING and I want you" and then go from there?  a lot of people don't appreciate that kind of honesty. but keeping it polite can sometimes come across as bland as you try not to objectify or focus on their kink.

I'm as confused as a cow on astro-turf.



In all fairness....it wasn't out of the blue. I had started noticing his postings on the boards. And he had been following my postings for a while.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:39:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Attaching pics of your cock works great, if you don't get enough responses, you obviously need to work out more, take the pics at even more extreme angles, and send MOAR messages. Of course, sending so many messages makes them hard to personalise, but if you just use 'bitch' where you'd usually put their name, they love it.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:41:46 PM   
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Attaching pics of your cock works great, if you don't get enough responses, you obviously need to work out more, take the pics at even more extreme angles, and send MOAR messages. Of course, sending so many messages makes them hard to personalise, but if you just use 'bitch' where you'd usually put their name, they love it.


Drawing a smiley face on the tip of your cock shot is a foolproof method.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:43:25 PM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: Elisabella


quote:

ORIGINAL: DCWoody

Attaching pics of your cock works great, if you don't get enough responses, you obviously need to work out more, take the pics at even more extreme angles, and send MOAR messages. Of course, sending so many messages makes them hard to personalise, but if you just use 'bitch' where you'd usually put their name, they love it.


Drawing a smiley face on the tip of your cock shot is a foolproof method.


Writing San Francisco on the side works even better.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:44:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Elisabella


quote:

ORIGINAL: DCWoody

Attaching pics of your cock works great, if you don't get enough responses, you obviously need to work out more, take the pics at even more extreme angles, and send MOAR messages. Of course, sending so many messages makes them hard to personalise, but if you just use 'bitch' where you'd usually put their name, they love it.


Drawing a smiley face on the tip of your cock shot is a foolproof method.


*has actually done that*

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 5:45:20 PM   
Phoenix73Sir


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Status: offline 		granted my post there was exaggerated for effect but the views here have been all over the spectrum.

I am one of those who says what I think tactfully. and as an example. I would probably note your hair was very nice and then go on to ask you if you were taking a picture there or playing a game on your phone as you look to be concentrating on it very hard for some reason.. then go on to mention things from your profile (which i havent looked at in this case but when messaging I always do) before suggesting you look at mine  and sing off with well wishes.

but I try to raise a smile. make a compliment  express interest in both them and the points they make in their write up and  sign off.



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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 6:23:04 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Giving a serious answer....I was always turned off by messages that weren't written like the person spoke.
I don't know how else to explain it. I found that a high percentage, strictly from my point of view, weren't able to do this.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 6:32:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		The "pentrating stare" always seems to come across as the guy looking like he's constipated-and wants you to send him prune juice.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 6:40:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir
I'm as confused as a cow on astro-turf.

...then read this.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1717756/tm.htm


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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 7:07:19 PM   
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Hi , i will alway take the time to answer a personal message that is short and show that my profile was read

and i dont like when i get * letters* that are copy and paste
elleX




This. ^

I block the cut-and-paste spammers, and anyone who sends me messages that make it glaringly obvious that they don't fit my needs, and haven't read my profile. I block them without reply.


A short message detailing what they have in common with me, and that they fit my requirements, is pleasing. But that hardly ever happens. I've blocked tons of clueless people. It saves time.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 7:18:47 PM   
Phoenix73Sir


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Status: offline 		that link posted should probably be stickied at the top of every forum on this board.. It all makes sense and it is pretty much more or less the way I play it.  I try to avoid any mention of sex in the first email but make the offer to answer any and all questions openly. I try to keep it short but not looking copied and pasted but then with all the fake profiles scammers and everything else here I suppose I'm probably doing about average for my odds.

Edited for some AWEFUL typos.


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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 8:02:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Someone who is around my age.  As a slave, I'm not going to become involved with someone who is 21.  They have no idea what they are doing.  They might be fine as a play partner, but not as an Owner.  I like someone who is seasoned and has been around the block.  I also want someone with experience.  A sub/slave can go for it with little or no experience, but a Domme has to know what she is doing.

In general, once a woman hits late 30s or so, she has enough life experience to be (probably) settled and has a decent head on her shoulders.  Exceptions made for seriously crazy people, who can be crazy from 18 to 81, with no improvement expected.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 8:27:30 PM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		Know your audience, and target appropriately.. Really now, I'm not interested in female dominants or male submissives, but they keep sending me mail. Don't just send a one line to anyone who pops up on the home page, they may not be at all what you're looking for.

3 pages of esoterical drivel about fantasyland that was cut and pasted from the old castle realm site is just as annoying as "hi" and "gotta a pic?". I'm also not interested in applying to UberAlphaMasterTopDaddyDomSir to see if I'm worthy of joining The HouseofThunderLighteningandDarkStormyNights; which I'm prettysure is located in the far cornor of Moms basement.

And if you feel you have to have a pic on the profile, for goodness sake, use a different one!

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 8:30:11 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I have had a very high response rate when I comment on something on their profile pics or profile that not many would say.  For example, one woman had a pic of a fox eating from someone's hand and I commented on it.  I also like to deliberately do what a woman specifies NOT to do... one woman said that she was sick and tired of "kneel before me, bitch" mails, so I sent her a message saying, "Kneel before me, bitch.  Oh, wait... I was supposed to NOT say that... I'm getting confused here..."

I respond to all emails that are not fakes.  Especially if I know them from the forums.


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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 8:40:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

When you receive a message on CM, what is it that either attracts you or repulses you from replying to it?  do you prefer long and full of details or short and polite?

I am sure there are many here who can gain some insight from this, myself included.



Short and polite..Not too short though.

If they seem sweet natured and down to earth. Details are nice as long as it doesn't turn into a resume.

I like to see personality without being over the top and sea-hagish. No need to put out the fine china and call me Master or Sir but well mannered (as in no sex talk or eluding to BDSM activities) and we'll do fine. Mainly I enjoy seeing a reply where a female is being herself as long as that's her being herself listed above.


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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 8:57:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		puts offs for me are the of course copy paste messages and the ones that send a message seconds after you login.  I haven't been online in a week i'm on 2 sec and already getting a message yeah he so read my profile.

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RE: first contact emails... what really gets you. - 4/8/2010 9:32:30 PM   
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"I respond to all emails that are not fakes. Especially if I know them from the forums."
That's because You're sweet, Steven. Oops. Is sweetness a Domly trait??

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