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poshspice -> RE: "Online training" (4/18/2010 7:49:52 AM)
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ORIGINAL: leadership527
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
Hi Jeff,
I'm betting that Carol's name came up a time or two during your interactions...
*laughs* Well my current "trainee" and Carol talk regularly via skype and email... I'm not sure that was so wise on my part. Now I have two freakin slave girls ganging up on me.
And posh, you seriously need to get over this "inexperienced" thing. Trust me on this. There isn't anything really to be experienced about. That's why I said that much of my "online training" was simply pointing out the obvious. In the end, it's just a relationship where you obey to some degree or another. You're 38 years old. I'd think that by now you would know whether you are:
a) Ready to have a relationship (of any sort)
b) Willing to obey at least to some degree
All the rest follows from there. How MUCH you are willing to obey will be highly dependent on a specific, actual, relationship. All the crap about orgasm control and god knows what other miscellaneous idiocy these guys are "training" you for is at best, icing on the cake.
Here is the thing and this is why so many women and including some obviously sane and smart women that have posted on here are so prone to this sort of manipulation. When you first encounter all this, inexperience is indeed relevant but in so much as you wander around with sub fever thinking that BDSM relationships are some sort of mysterious otherwordly thing that everyone is an expert on but you and it has to be learned.
Therefore you leap at the chance of some "training" so you can become successfully involved and be "cured" of your vanilla ways. Of course now, I am beginning to realise that they are relationships just like anything else and my ability to submit is much more likely to be about who it is rather than any learned process. I am opinionated, feisty, pseudo-dominant, prone to road rage and all round bloody annoying but I roll over like a puppy when I encounter someone more powerful than me.
You youself admit to enagaging in "online training" of sorts and I am sure it could be argued that orgasm control or similar is just submission or obedience practice and a different approach but possibly the same concept as you deploy in your training. I have never been easily obedient to anyone my entire life, I served in the military for many years and to say I was in trouble a lot would be an understatement, however, I was still driven to serve inspite of my learned behaviours. My online trainer would argue that I am so programmed by my past that I need help in reprogramming, I do though think he has got caught up in wanting to bonk me as time has passed but I still beleive, it never started out that way.
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