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LadyAngelika -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (4/29/2010 4:49:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer quote: They may want a 'real man' to screw them, or something, but it is my opinion that it is very common in the scene for Dommes not to be that intimate with their slaves. Perhaps oral sex, touching, massaging, and the like- but not intercourse. There is nothing more manly and true than someone who is willing to hurt and and suffer for love. There is no greater love than this, and no greater intimacy. I am profoundly awed by the depth of his gift to me, power and pain and passion. Under my whip he is all strength and nobility, the epitome of masculine beauty, and yet he humbles himself to me willingly. My name falls from his lips as a loving whisper underlined in trickles of crimson where he still bleeds for me. This is a real man. This is seriously fucking hot. This is what rings my chimes, and this is what I want in my bed. This is what I get in my bed, too. Lucky, lucky me. Seriously. This stuff is awesome sauce, and I totally get off on it. Regularly, in fact. Femdom to me is like a fairytale romance where I get the beautiful, suffering, parfait gentil knight to fuck me silly any time I want, where I want and how I want. Because, yaknow, I'm the dominant. Not to say that I don't like raping a tied-up guy with a blade to his throat. That's great fun especially when I cut him just a little and bite down hard over the wound to leave the world's most spectacular hickey. Nothing says loving like a throat covered in bruises. But getting fucked feels good too, so I am also in the habit of ordering up some nice hard stud service when I wants me some. And I get it too, because - remember this, it's important - I'm the dominant. This. One million times this. - LA

Andalusite -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (4/30/2010 8:21:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: trueshadow The only kind of sex I like with a Domme is if I feel she is controlling me, hurting me, and generally using and abusing me. I just don't like the old-fashioned missionary position. That makes me on top, and it just doesn't turn me on. The Dommes I know just don't seem to want to have sex with their slaves. They may want a 'real man' to screw them, or something, but it is my opinion that it is very common in the scene for Dommes not to be that intimate with their slaves. Perhaps oral sex, touching, massaging, and the like- but not intercourse. That comes across like it is based in cuckholding porn, rather than in reality. I don't have sex with my submissive playpartner, but she and I aren't in a romantic relationship. When I was looking for a partner, I wanted someone who I could be sexual and romantic with, as well as kinky. D/s was optional but welcome. If someone didn't want to have sex with me and didn't desire me, but just wanted particular activities done to him that aroused him regardless of who was inflicting them, I wouldn't want anything to do with him. Sex usually involves some S/M, even if only some biting and wrestling and hairpulling and stuff, but I certainly wouldn't want to feel obligated to hurt him in order to get him off. That kind of pressure isn't sexy, and would make me feel less dominant, rather than more.

Eruditesubm -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/1/2010 2:44:15 AM)
Princess ........ the answer is short and sweet. Any true smart Domina makes Her Own rules. Quod erat demonstratum. Generally accepted protocols are merely a source of information and useful to know when in a group D/s environment. Any Domina following rules defined by others, which do not appeal to Her, is, by definition, devaluing Her own dominance.

trueshadow -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/1/2010 8:49:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer quote: ORIGINAL: trueshadow The only kind of sex I like with a Domme is if I feel she is controlling me, hurting me, and generally using and abusing me. I just don't like the old-fashioned missionary position. That makes me on top, and it just doesn't turn me on. Good for you, but what if you're with a domme who happens to like laying back and being sexually serviced at her whim? Do you do it, or do you refuse because it's really all about what gets you off, not what gets your domme off? Well, obviously I will do my best to do what she asks. However, I find that it is not at all stimulating for me, and I find it hard to get the job done in that position. I'll do my best, but if there is another way, that would be helpful.

Ambyant -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 11:07:49 AM)
For Me, it is My Option to use My submissive in any way. No limits other than the basic no mutilation.. sort of thing. If we've already sorted out that they belong t0 Me, Then I will send them away with beautiful marks that will fade at different speeds - and I believe that they should be able to be proud of those too! Sex only if I want it with them, and then - as always, I come first. Safe sex, condoms, cock toys.. it's all about My Pleasure.. and honestly- they are just along for the ride. I thought I saw many sentiments such as Mine here. and clearly, it seems pretty middle of the road. what do you think?

AAkasha -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 12:30:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: trueshadow quote: ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer quote: ORIGINAL: trueshadow The only kind of sex I like with a Domme is if I feel she is controlling me, hurting me, and generally using and abusing me. I just don't like the old-fashioned missionary position. That makes me on top, and it just doesn't turn me on. Good for you, but what if you're with a domme who happens to like laying back and being sexually serviced at her whim? Do you do it, or do you refuse because it's really all about what gets you off, not what gets your domme off? Well, obviously I will do my best to do what she asks. However, I find that it is not at all stimulating for me, and I find it hard to get the job done in that position. I'll do my best, but if there is another way, that would be helpful. Underline is mine. Compare that mindset approach to sexual intercourse vs. "joe vanilla gentleman guy in bed": "I want you to enjoy sex - whatever position makes you feel good." What's wrong with this picture? If your sexual submissiveness gets in the way of your lady partner enjoying sex the way she wants it, then whose fetish are you putting as the priority? Akasha

ATLANTAWHITEPUNK -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 6:44:30 PM)
good god woman if you enjoy fucking your bitch then do it lol, your either in control or your not. I know there are plenty of subs out there that basically have shit for a sex life but thats their choice and their Doms, I myself would have no use for a Dom who restricts sexual pleasure based on the fact its the only way she can control me.

LadyAngelika -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 7:27:50 PM)
Well this post is in reply to me, though I'm not sure why, as I've never denied myself the pleasure of doing what I wanted to them man I'm with. - LA

domiguy -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 7:31:09 PM)
Howdy....I have to ask. Don't any of you ever want to be just thrown down and fucked? Ever? Come on.

PeonForHer -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 7:37:49 PM)
. . . By Barry White, for instance? ;-)

domiguy -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 7:43:15 PM)
Oooooh baby....Place your brassiere on the chair and your panties over there. There`s people making babies to my music. That`s nice. I’m gonna love you, love you, love you just a little more, baby I’m gonna need you, need you, need you every day I’m gonna want you, want you, want you in every way

LadyNTrainer -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 8:44:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Howdy....I have to ask. Don't any of you ever want to be just thrown down and fucked? Ever? Come on. Intense male sexual desire is amazing, and I do very much enjoy it. It's especially hot when it's leashed and chained, beaten but heroically unbroken, and entirely at my service. Do I want to be the one who gets thrown down and fucked? The former, not really. The latter, certainly. Getting fucked by a hot studmuffin is awesome, and I demand it regularly. The stuff going on in my head that makes it fun for both of us is still going to be about his service and submission, or how he looks and feels when he's being beaten bloody. Actually it's the most fun when I've just beaten him and he's still bleeding for me, and still hot and hard for me. fans self Yowza. If your question is "do you switch", the answer is going to be different depending on who you're asking. It doesn't really ring my personal chimes, but there's nothing wrong with it if it rings yours.

LadyAngelika -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 8:49:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Howdy....I have to ask. Don't any of you ever want to be just thrown down and fucked? Ever? Come on. Yup! That is why I date strong submissive men. I tell them what I like and they make sure I get it. Edited to say not necessarily "thrown down" as I imagine you'd do it, but I actually enjoy aggressiveness in my lover. But then, I don't equate aggressiveness with dominance, but rather think dominance is about overall control. - LA

domiguy -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 8:59:14 PM)
I am sickened by what has transpired here tonight....All you two have done is weaken a nation. You are not human...You are Cyborgals 347vfx2. Sent here from the future to pussafy men and weaken our world and will so your impending evil invasion can go of without a hitch. Thank God there are men like me. Real men that will stay the course and stand fast in your way. You shall be thrown down and you shall be fucked hard....As God is my witness!!! It's the only hope for Earth! God bless me.

LadyAngelika -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 9:03:50 PM)
quote: All you two have done is weaken a nation. I didn't realise that LNT & I were that powerful. Nice to know! ;-) - LA

Andalusite -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 9:22:28 PM)
I enjoy playfighting and wrestling and even fantasy rapeplay. While it can be hot with someone I respond to submissively, I wouldn't like being thrown down and taken otherwise. It would really interfere with the D/s dynamic and headspace if someone who was submissive toward me initiated that. Since my submissive playpartner is another woman, it's not something I'm concerned about, although we do like wrestling and playfighting.

LadyNTrainer -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/2/2010 9:58:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy You are not human...You are Cyborgals 347vfx2. Sent here from the future to pussafy men and weaken our world and will so your impending evil invasion can go of without a hitch. The depth and breadth of the human experience never ceases to amaze people. Especially the ones who are remarkably easy to amaze. What exactly are you doing here if you don't actually believe we exist? This is the simple truth; this is who we are. this is how we feel. This is what a dominant woman is. Clearly you don't like that, or you want us to think that you don't like it, and that's fine. To each their own preferences and orientation. But the fact that you keep hanging around in Ask A Mistress does tend to remind us of the bratty boy who tried to dip our pigtails in the inkwell because he had a secret crush and didn't want to 'fess up to it. [;)] quote: You shall be thrown down and you shall be fucked hard....As God is my witness!!! Conversationally speaking, has it ever occurred to you that rape threats aren't actually all that funny? If you have to resort to that sort of thing to be amusing, you're doing it wrong. Fart jokes are much funnier. Impotent dick waving is just lame.

PeonForHer -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/3/2010 3:54:17 AM)
FR LA and LNT: So what about that thorny old stereotype - being picked up and taken to the bed? Fits perfectly into the 'white knight / damsel' image which so many dommes claim to love - but surely this is deeply inappropriate behaviour for a malesub with all you majestic femdoms?

LadyAngelika -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/3/2010 4:56:09 AM)
Peon, I've said it before and I'll say it again, no acts alone can define whether a dynamic is dominant or submissive. If I'm with a man and I say to him: "do whatever it takes to please me thoroughly baby" and I have that look in my eye, you know, that look and his first instinct is to pick me up and take me to bed or pin up against a wall or lay me down on the dining room table, then to me, not necessarily to every Domme, that isreally hot. - LA

PeonForHer -> RE: What if a Domina really likes sex (5/3/2010 9:36:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika Peon, I've said it before and I'll say it again, no acts alone can define whether a dynamic is dominant or submissive. I've said the same thing before, too - but while it sounds great in theory, it can fall a little short when applied to certain practical examples. For instance, I'm not sure how easy it'd be for any given femdom to feel dommely while her sub is hand-shandying over her face; nor how comfortable it'd be for a malesub to perform that particular act. You highlight what I think might be another practical example, here, for me . . . . quote: If I'm with a man and I say to him: "do whatever it takes to please me thoroughly baby" and I have that look in my eye, you know, that look and his first instinct is to pick me up and take me to bed or pin up against a wall or lay me down on the dining room table, then to me, not necessarily to every Domme, that isreally hot. - LA - But in such a case, he wouldn't be acting on 'first instinct'. He'd either be putting his first instinct to one side in order to find out what you want him to do, or his first instinct would be to act in accordance with his own self-gratifying desires. Unless . . . . unless the D and the s are very, very well tuned in with one another. And, maybe, they're enjoying a bit of that 'Who's the D and who's the s here?' play-fighting. Hmm. That could be fun. ;-)

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