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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

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You shall be thrown down and you shall be fucked hard....As God is my witness!!!

Conversationally speaking, has it ever occurred to you that rape threats aren't actually all that funny?  If you have to resort to that sort of thing to be amusing, you're doing it wrong.  Fart jokes are much funnier.  Impotent dick waving is just lame.

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
I see now just how far you'll both go in bending those categories of dominant and submissive.

The point you're still missing is that we're not bending anything at all.  We're normal adult women with healthy sexual appetites who are also dominant, and expressing our dominance in sexual ways with our submissive partners.  If we were men and our partners were women, you would see absolutely nothing unusual at all.  That would be considered normal, since people who don't socially suppress their sex drives (eg, men) do fuck their submissives and do expect their submissives to be sexy and available for sexual use in every possible way to please them.  Being an actual dominant woman as opposed to some fucked-up stereotype from selfish male fetish fantasyland, I have no interest in suppressing myself or my normal, healthy sexual appetites.  Because, y'know, I'm not submissive, either socially or sexually.  So I own hot studs who are good for fucking.  I mean, duuuh.  That seems pretty normal to me.

The fact that you do think our expression of healthy female sexuality in a dominant way is "bending" the femdom paradigm of what dominant and submissive is "supposed" to be says that the paradigm itself is seriously fucked up, unhealthy and sex-negative. 

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
I see now just how far you'll both go in bending those categories of dominant and submissive.

The point you're still missing is that we're not bending anything at all.  We're normal adult women with healthy sexual appetites who are also dominant, and expressing our dominance in sexual ways with our submissive partners.  If we were men and our partners were women, you would see absolutely nothing unusual at all.  That would be considered normal, since people who don't socially suppress their sex drives (eg, men) do fuck their submissives and do expect their submissives to be sexy and available for sexual use in every possible way to please them.  Being an actual dominant woman as opposed to some fucked-up stereotype from selfish male fetish fantasyland, I have no interest in suppressing myself or my normal, healthy sexual appetites.  Because, y'know, I'm not submissive, either socially or sexually.  So I own hot studs who are good for fucking.  I mean, duuuh.  That seems pretty normal to me.

The fact that you do think our expression of healthy female sexuality in a dominant way is "bending" the femdom paradigm of what dominant and submissive is "supposed" to be says that the paradigm itself is seriously fucked up, unhealthy and sex-negative. 

Yes! Yes, this is the point.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
For instance, I've noticed that maledoms don't seem to be overly concerned if their femsubs get ravenously randy all of a sudden and start tearing feverishly at their trousers in order to bonk, right there and then. Some little voice tells me that it might not be quite the same way if malesubs were more commonly to do the same with femdommes. I've a feeling we'd see an even larger number of threads about self-centred, 'do-me' submales who are 'topping from the bottom'.

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
You dommes really need to develop a sense of humor.....ah, but that shows some sort of weakness. Which can never be shown out here.

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Some femdoms (this femdom, I know I speak for myself) don't want a *submissive man*, we want a *man who submits to us.*   Huge difference.  If it's against his "nature" to be seductive with me, to be sexually hungry, to desire me, to stand up to me (in the unlikely even that I am wrong, lol) then we have a problem.  A man can be a man and at the end of the day still submit to my command. 

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

It's all right, Lady N. You had me convinced way back at "My favorite alarm clock is my boy's dick in my mouth. " [;)]

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

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ORIGINAL: trueshadow
The only kind of sex I like with a Domme is if I feel she is controlling me, hurting me, and generally using and abusing me.  I just don't like the old-fashioned missionary position.  That makes me on top, and it just doesn't turn me on. 

The Dommes I know just don't seem to want to have sex with their slaves.  They may want a 'real man' to screw them, or something, but it is my opinion that it is very common in the scene for Dommes not to be that intimate with their slaves.  Perhaps oral sex, touching, massaging, and the like- but not intercourse.

That comes across like it is based in cuckholding porn, rather than in reality. I don't have sex with my submissive playpartner, but she and I aren't in a romantic relationship. When I was looking for a partner, I wanted someone who I could be sexual and romantic with, as well as kinky. D/s was optional but welcome. If someone didn't want to have sex with me and didn't desire me, but just wanted particular activities done to him that aroused him regardless of who was inflicting them, I wouldn't want anything to do with him. Sex usually involves some S/M, even if only some biting and wrestling and hairpulling and stuff, but I certainly wouldn't want to feel obligated to hurt him in order to get him off. That kind of pressure isn't sexy, and would make me feel less dominant, rather than more.