barelynangel
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Sorry but if your telling her in a fit of anger she isn't a slave damaged her that much she comes slinking back asking for release because ohh gee i am not good enough -- then it sounds like neither of you really get the slave and holding someone in slavery concept.
Sure some Men who are Master's do at times lose control and verbally lamblast their slave, just as some slaves lose control and verbally lamblast their Masters. However, she will respect you more even if you don't agree or accept HER handling of your words to her if -- if you feel you handled the situation wrong for you both, then tell her that. Let her know you recognized your own errors -- BUT DO NOT BE SPECIFIC, that really is none of her business as a slave. But if you don't condone HER handling of it then deal with THAT also. You are the authority and there comes times when you need to do some readjusting for yourself but also readjusting for her as the slave.
What i say is if your saying she isn't a slave has THAT much effect that she thinks she isn't good enough then something to me is very wrong. It means YOU as her Mster haven't given her other things but words to recognize she is a slave to you, things she can reach back to and recognize your words simply for what they are a fit of frustration at HER actions in a situation. Its not WORDS that should make her a slave or not a slave but YOUR actions in mastering her and yeah while in a fit of anger you say whatever it really shouldn't dismiss or disregard all that SHOULD have made her a slave to you -- i.e., your mastery over her as well as your hold on her. Mastery has a powerful hold and it isn't because you worded her into being mastered. You have a hold on her and if she doesn't recognize that just because you said something in the fit of anger -- you really do have a lot of work to do in my opinion. Believe me, most women who are held as slaves through the mastery of a Man, they know before he speaks the words that he has let her go because his mastery no longer holds her.
There is no inner concept that words stated in frustration and anger should be capable of killing in a woman what your mastery has created and your determination for her that she is your slave. I know many people think that words hurt -- sure yeah they do, but we are talking about MASTERY here -- mastery which has a far stronger hold than any words you can utter.
To me, she is attempting to manipulate you and she wants to PUNISH you for daring to say that to her. Now, it depends on what you allow -- you will either 1) allow her to utilize manipulation to put YOU in your place, 2) allow her to create a whole in your relationship because poor little dear got hurt feelins -- i hate to tell you both this but you will at times HAVE hurt feelinsg in ANY relationship because relationships no matter what kind they are aren't linear, 3) you will maintain your hold on her, recognize your own errors if you feel there were in handling the situation and continue forward in your relationship IF that's what you want, or 4) you will decide its not worth the effort and release her and give her what she SAYS she wants.
In the slaves i have known over the years including my own experience lol there are MANY times when a slave no longer wishes to be a slave, sometimes its cause of hurt feelings, sometimes its because they want their way and ain't getting it, sometimes it because they are tired, sometimes they just don't know it seems like the easiest solution.
As someone else stated, if you have to ask someone else whether you should keep her or let her go, then personally, i don't think you should be her Master at this time because hell, you don't even know your own mind, how can you know what is best for you both?
7 months is not a lot of time, and its going to be worse when you guys finally live together. I do think she is attempting to manipulate you and punish you for your words to her. Your decision now is to figure out how you will handle the same concept when it happens in the future becuse if she is doing it now -- she will try it again when she feels you must be punished or made to "see."
Many don't agree with me and think slaves should be coddled and not be expected to sometimes get real and realize when something IS said in frustration or anger and she also has to be willing to recognize HER part in the disrutption and she in my opinion will need to learn that attempting to manipulate you or use a guilt trip on you to gain her way either by making you doubt yourself and what you should do etc is not beneficial to the relationshiop but more so she will need to learn whether or not YOU will allow her to do it. Believe me, you need to make that decision NOW because it won't be pretty if you lead her to believe a few tears and the ohhh i am not a good slave for you and you sa sa said i wasssn't a slave will have you doubtng yourself and the relationship because the foundation of most of these relationships is you the Master having a FIRM grasp of what you want and being able to maintain it even when the slave tries to self-destruct it in attempt to gain control.
just be prepared -- on day you may say to her damn you are not a slave and she responds with a "well DUHH" or "smirks well that isn't what you said yesterday" blah blah Maybe when that occurs you both will stop and look at the situation as a whole. Of course, if she is smart she will run lol cause her ass prolly won't feel so good when you get a hold of it.
You both will need to learn that sometimes emotions just escape and its not the end of the world. M/s is two human beings with reactions and emotions.
angel
< Message edited by barelynangel -- 4/25/2010 11:33:23 AM >
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