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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:50:53 PM

JessicaSavage

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I don't believe dishonesty is equal to maturity. In my opinion it's always better to be honest even when the truth hurts.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:51:42 PM

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I think narcissism, greed and selfishness are all beautiful and virtues. That's not a popular opinion but it's really the way that I see the world we live in.

We *never* would have guessed that.

*edited to clarify what I was speaking to.

and then I saw this gem:

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I don't believe dishonesty is equal to maturity. In my opinion it's always better to be honest even when the truth hurts.

Having interacted with the people on this thread in the past, I think we'd all agree that dishonesty does not equate with maturity. However, grace and decency are rather helpful in certain situations.

Honesty doesn't mean you have to be mean. They have a saying in AA:

Say what you mean, mean what you say (you seem to be cool with that)... but don't say it mean.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:52:45 PM

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I always say this is just my opinion, what I think. This is just the way things are to me and I don't see how anyone could get so offended when I make that clear. Jeez I'm not being mean just stating my opinion. Why can't people deal?

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:53:48 PM

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OK, so go find a guy with those striking good features, who has been treated like a King all his life. After he beats you to a pulp and lands you in the hospital for six months, and even the government gives you free plastic surgery just to get you to look good enough for us peons to not puke so you can function, and then you get fat because he broke your legs as well and you can't walk, post back and let us know how you "FEEL".

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:54:22 PM

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Why do people on the internet get so pissy when you tell them that looks matter? Isn't that just common sense? I don't want to talk to fat guys or ugly guys. It's nothing personal and it's my own choice. So why can't people just deal instead of getting so angry all the time?

I guess it would matter how you told them looks matter and they weren't up to snuff for you. Being on the internet and not face to face, people sometimes choose a quick snarky response instead of something a bit more tactful. Personally, I've found the best reply is no reply if someone emails me and I don't find them interesting. As for common sense, I'm not sure your idea of common sense would be the same as someone eles's. Much like what a person would find initally attractive...what does it for me may not do it for you and common sense has little to do with any of it.

To me looks matter, to me looks are the best way to tell what kind of person someone really is and to me looks are the most important piece of the attraction puzzle. WHy can't everyone just deal?

I've read some wonderful books that had very bland covers. Judging a book by it's cover can be quite limiting...unless you're only into the pictures.

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lol exactly. I don't even like being friends with ugly guys because in my opinion people who don't take care of themselves physically are also unhealthy mentally and unhappy and I choose not to burden my beautiful mind with people like that. Sometimes people get really mad when I say things like that but I'm just expressing My opinion.

Bless your little pea-pickin' heart. I hope you find what you so richly deserve. Oh, and for what it's worth, I'm not "really mad" with what you've said. Expressing your opinions is important...it helps to give people a better understanding of who and what you are. Maybe not the understanding you'd like...but, well...I think you get the drift.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:55:26 PM

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Why can't people deal? Gee how come you can't deal with men who are not drop dead gorgeous or model slim? With your attitude I'm surprised you'd want anyone around you who might be competition for how beautiful you think you are!

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:55:43 PM

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Exactly how am i advocating dishonesty? I never said LIE to them, i said use maturity to express that you aren't attracted to them physically. Are you really this needful of being tacky that you don't understand the difference between deliverying something with maturity and tact and immaturity of saying you're an ugly mf?

Perhaps this is where your problem lies. Sure you can say well you are an ugly mf, and show yourself for being without class or tact or the ability to express yourself in a mature way.

The fact you thought i was saying LIE to them shows that you are not mature. You need to get over yourself because seriously, there are prettier and more beautiful women out there and they are capable of class and maturity, which gives them MORE than just their looks to bank on for success. Sure you can show yourself as tacky and having no class by telling people how ugly they are to you -- yeah i am sure that makes you feel attractive.

But really attractive people in looks don't need to put people down to bring themselves up.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:57:32 PM

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I can deal with guys who aren't gorgeous. I deal with them by kicking them to the curb.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:57:34 PM

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quote:

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I always say this is just my opinion, what I think. This is just the way things are to me and I don't see how anyone could get so offended when I make that clear. Jeez I'm not being mean just stating my opinion. Why can't people deal?

I already told you why people can't deal. Your attitude sucks. Just because you preface a statement with "this is just my opinion" doesn't make it right to act like a total douche. An opinion can be mean or stated in a mean fashion. You just happen to be particularly adept at it. Try toning down the venom a notch or two if the fact that "people can't deal" bugs you. Or carry on in your own fashion and don't worry about whether they can deal or not.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:59:50 PM

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It's going to be interesting to see what you think of this when you hit 65-and you look like a dried apple lady.

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I think narcissism, greed and selfishness are all beautiful and virtues. That's not a popular opinion but it's really the way that I see the world we live in.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 6:59:52 PM

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what a gal

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:00:51 PM

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grins, i will say this -- if the men you go out with are "gorgeous" and they stick with you, then you both seriously deserve each other.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:01:18 PM

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That simply shows your lack of maturity. The best part of this thread is knowing that those you are looking to hook up with are likely to read your posts before contacting you. There's a good chance you've limited the selection greatly.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:01:47 PM

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Well, Jessica, it's obvious you just came in here to stir up some shit, so, when you end up with it on your face.....just deal. K, babe?

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:02:37 PM

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It's going to be interesting to see what you think of this when you hit 65-and you look like a dried apple lady.

Excuse me??? I look nothing like a dried apple lady. Perhaps she will, but please don't think that all of us do at that age.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:03:40 PM

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I can deal with guys who aren't gorgeous. I deal with them by kicking them to the curb.

Awww i recall being 27.

Dont lose your looks, honey. from what you displayed here, you dont have anything else going for you.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:04:19 PM

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^5 on that comment.

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:05:29 PM

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hello.....MTV is looking for you dahhhhhhhhling!

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:06:58 PM

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I wish. LOL

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RE: People freak when you tell them looks matter - 4/25/2010 7:08:00 PM

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And seeing as you are so "beautiful" in your words, and you only have one photo? You reek of insecurity and low self-esteem and that stench no matter how pretty your nails are or how skinny your waste is, just isnt attractive.

If you cant deal well then don't. If others cant that's not your problem. Your only problem is yourself the only person you can honestly control and change is yourself. You cant make people stop contacting you who you dont wish to contact you, You can set up your bulk mail to only allow particular mail to reach you, via age, gender no profile and the like. Or you can simply do what most women on the site do, Dont reply.

Also dont think your special because you are getting mail, if you have tits on this site or list that you might have tits, you get about 100 or more emails a day....

I do hope however you find the ever so wonderful man of your dreams, because regardless of how vile and ugly and horrendous you are on the inside, everyone deserves to be happy.

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