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Masterfrank1962 -> single males vs couples (5/1/2010 10:02:12 AM)

I am not understanding why females prefer couples over a single male.

Most females here on CM post there not looking for a single male (DOM). Why is that? Is it that the male is already married? Or are they affraid they may fall in love with a single male?

I am just asking. I see it alot. And not just here on CM other chats also. Are single men that bad that if they don't already have a female (wife, gf, ect.). That other females will not even talk to get to know a single male. Yes I will agree there are some men that is very very agressive. But still If I was married why would I be on here trying to set-up things with other females. If I was married I would not need to be looking for a slave online. I would already have one at home.

So once again. I am only asking to understand this topic better.

Thank you all,
Frank



Jeffff -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 10:08:58 AM)

I don't agree with your premise.



DarkSteven -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 10:11:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Masterfrank1962

Most females here on CM post there not looking for a single male (DOM).



I would not say "most".  Several do.

To answer your question, if they're bi, and they want that itch scratched, they need a couple.



IronBear -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 10:23:40 AM)

I agree with DS here unless the OP has completes a lengthy survey and interviewed every female in CM which if this be the case he should have stated this as his findings as the premiss for his question..

However as to why some females prefer a couple would I am thinking be dependent on her reasons for seeking a Dominant and the type of dynamic which interests her. Just as with the type of person/s others are seeking.

This leads me to idly wonder if the Op has an ulterior motive in his post such as his inability to hook up with a suitable female (if this is of course the case which it may well not be).



LadyPact -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 10:40:40 AM)

Experience and stability, perhaps?



GreedyTop -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 10:44:19 AM)

change your search parameters, perhaps?



jbcurious -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 10:57:32 AM)

Well after reading your profile and journal entries, I'm thinking it could possibly be an excuse you're hearing. Wanting a sub/slave for the sole purpose of modeling panties for you doesn't exactly scream potential Dom to me.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 11:31:59 AM)

~FR~
 
I don't know what profiles you're looking at, but I can guarantee "most" sub females are absolutely NOT looking for a couple.  If that were the case, then the practice of searching for a submissive, bisexual woman to join an established couple would not be referred to as "unicorn hunting" and the number of couples who come here to complain that they've been searching for their "third" for X number of weeks/months but still haven't found her and ask for advice on how to go about searching for said unicorn would be almost zero. 



pompeii -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 11:58:18 AM)

Males are a dime a dozen btw ... so, even though "most females" probably prefer single males ... the females you want can get all the single males they need ...

They don't need to search for a single male at all. In fact, I recently created a CM login for a friend who didn't use it. We left it with JUST the name and nothing else in the profile. She still gets email in droves to that wholly empty profile. Nothing in it at all other than she's female.

I can't explain your research or reasoning ... but I'll just say that most females can get all the males they want so if they need to search ... it's for something else that they need.



myotherself -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 12:04:42 PM)

~FR~

I am not understanding why the OP is making such a strange, unsupported statement.

Maybe it's because he's still sitting at his computer without a slave (of the part-time, knicker-wearing variety) and can think of nothing else to write. [8|]



SimplyMichael -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 12:50:09 PM)

As someone who has done a fair bit of purusing of profiles, I think the "couple" thing is something you see on a lot of fake profiles. The reality is the profile is a guy who hopes that by pretending to be a woman...wanting a couple...he can become online friends with the wife. Very sad, very pathetic but it explains why it is so often found on profiles with single pics that are clearly models or other dead giveaways.

SOME people seek couples because if you want a stable relationship to be part of, finding a married couple might offer that. Personally, that doesn't hold true in my experience but it does seem to work for some people.



Mistress4Online -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 1:43:51 PM)

[:D]



GraciousLady -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 1:54:50 PM)

I have exierence both in this lifestyle and in the swing lifestyle as a single female and a couple. I have not seen any evidence to support your statement. As a matter of fact, the level of dificulty finding a single woman that is interested in a couple is vastly greater than finding a single woman interested in a single man or woman.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 1:58:57 PM)

Have you noticed a pattern of it being Most Single females you desire or not?



subsfaith -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 2:20:08 PM)

This question interested me so I did a quick survey using the following criteria:
CM users in 2010
Females in my country
Aged between 30 and 25.

The results:
10 woman seeking male dominants
0  women seeking dom/dom couples
0 women seeking sub/sub couples
1 woman seeking fem/fem couples (this 1 woman was a lesbian)
2 women seeking dom/dom couples (again 1 woman was a lesbian - the same lesbian, go figure)
0 women seeking a poly household

The lesbian woman I believe has ticked all available boxes, perhaps an uncontrollable twitch or just bored, could even be a man - who knows?

While this is an incredibly small sample this isn't a scientific study, nor peer reviews (however, do feel free to check my results), therefore I am happy to make the wild claims that less than 10% of women who are active on CM are looking for couples.

OP:  Firstly, your premise is wrong.  Women are more likely to be seeking dominant men than a couple of any orientation. (NB: I have classed the confused lesbian as an outlier and have discounted her results)

Secondly,  I've read your profile and without trying to insult you you are all over the place.  You want a slave who is part time.  A part time slave is someone who is playing the role and not a slave at all.  Then you are looking for a full time slave.  then you are looking for women to wear knickers for you, and that is just plain dirty old man wearing a flasher mac in the park.

I won't even go into the woe-is-me attitude you display on your journal posts.

Given that, in your experience more women are telling you they are seeking couples is more than the very generous  10% (in fact those women form the majority in your opinion) I would say the common denominator is YOU.

All is not lost though.  There are lots of thing you can do to change your chances.  Firstly stop feeling sorry for yourself and blaming the entire female population for you not getting a shag, it isn't attractive, quite the reverse, it is a turn off.

Think about what you want.  I mean REALLY think about it, not have the 'oh, that seems like a good idea' which will be subsequently superseded by the next 'good idea'.  When you have thought about it and you are still not feeling sorry for yourself come back here and try and write your profile as honestly as you can, then take a nice holiday, a month or two is a good idea.  On your return read your profile and see if it still feels honest and relevant, if it doesn't repeat this step and continue to repeat this step.

Perhaps in the meantime while you are completing this process you could read about BDSM, try and educate yourself, or perhaps find a life coach you can work with.

There, I'm done now.




pompeii -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 2:34:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: subsfaith
This question interested me so I did a quick survey using the following criteria:


Wow. A female researcher after my own heart!
Good job subsfaith!



DesFIP -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 2:39:08 PM)

Perhaps they just say that to deter the op from writing to them again?



reynardfox -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 2:50:19 PM)

Why would a girl NOT prefer a couple over a single male?
Two Doms, happily married and skilled and experienced in what we do, who would be willing to lavish both of our attentions on one girl. NO possible relationship issues, no jealousy, no agenda, just trust and integrity and lots and lots of erotic play, that can go on for hour after hour, the divine combination of a strong female will and the gender empathy and understanding She brings to it, as well as the more direct masculine approach combined.
I'll put it this way, it works.
We don't go short around here.



domiguy -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 3:00:01 PM)

Yeah...But you are kind of creepy. That can never help.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: single males vs couples (5/1/2010 3:00:47 PM)

You assume, first that the couple is married, and secondly that their a Dom, Dom couple. Which is not always a correct presumption. Unless, you're talking about yourself and your partner only.

quote:

ORIGINAL: reynardfox

Why would a girl NOT prefer a couple over a single male?
Two Doms, happily married and skilled and experienced in what we do, who would be willing to lavish both of our attentions on one girl. NO possible relationship issues, no jealousy, no agenda, just trust and integrity and lots and lots of erotic play, that can go on for hour after hour, the divine combination of a strong female will and the gender empathy and understanding She brings to it, as well as the more direct masculine approach combined.
I'll put it this way, it works.
We don't go short around here.



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